Is anyone else (secretly) liking social distancing and schools being closed?

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Anonymous wrote:Yep. I'm an introvert and never before realized how much effort I have to put into being around others. This is heaven for me.

That's exactly me too. We had a birthday invitation for our kid's friend which was cancelled. I love that I don't have to be social. Nobody will pop in to my house out of nowhere. I still have to work though.

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Yes! I’m loving it.
My college kids are at home, my husband and I are working from home and we are all getting used to our new routines.
Everyone is working or studying but we also have a lot of time to be together.
I’m going to miss this time when things get better. For now, I’m enjoying the gift of having my kids at home again.

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This thread is so very sad to me. It shows how many people are not satisfied with their normal lives. I love my life and all the social activities in it. I love my children and I would also want them to be able to continue their normal lives. So, no I don't like this at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes! I’m loving it.
My college kids are at home, my husband and I are working from home and we are all getting used to our new routines.
Everyone is working or studying but we also have a lot of time to be together.
I’m going to miss this time when things get better. For now, I’m enjoying the gift of having my kids at home again.

Do your college age kids feel the same way? You are loving the fact that they are forced to stay home with you, instead of living their lives? Do you think they truly would have chosen this, or do you love that they don't have a choice? Truly trying to understand this perspective.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes! I’m loving it.
My college kids are at home, my husband and I are working from home and we are all getting used to our new routines.
Everyone is working or studying but we also have a lot of time to be together.
I’m going to miss this time when things get better. For now, I’m enjoying the gift of having my kids at home again.

Do your college age kids feel the same way? You are loving the fact that they are forced to stay home with you, instead of living their lives? Do you think they truly would have chosen this, or do you love that they don't have a choice? Truly trying to understand this perspective.

Not everyone wants to go out and get drunk and party all the time, PP. Some people are introverts. And some people who are reasonably extroverted still find it a nice break from the norm (like me).

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is so very sad to me. It shows how many people are not satisfied with their normal lives. I love my life and all the social activities in it. I love my children and I would also want them to be able to continue their normal lives. So, no I don't like this at all.

You sound dumb. Life gets busy. Sometimes it’s nice to have a break from it all.

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Anonymous wrote:You are extremely privileged, OP. Please acknowledge that.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is so very sad to me. It shows how many people are not satisfied with their normal lives. I love my life and all the social activities in it. I love my children and I would also want them to be able to continue their normal lives. So, no I don't like this at all.

Of course I am not satisfied! I am divorced and have to go to work where I deal with all kinds of bull to put food on the table.
Now at least I don’t have to rush and put on a face and pretend I care - I do my job but at least there is no emotional labor or less of it.

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Anonymous wrote:Yep. I'm an introvert and never before realized how much effort I have to put into being around others. This is heaven for me.

That's exactly me too. We had a birthday invitation for our kid's friend which was cancelled. I love that I don't have to be social. Nobody will pop in to my house out of nowhere. I still have to work though.

NP. I absolutely love it. My kids are 7 and 9 and seem happy to be hanging out at home with occasional socializing through FaceTime or Zoom. I just feel so relaxed not to think about socializing or rushing constantly. I have almost always lived in cities but now I feel like I would be happier somewhere with more land.

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Anonymous wrote:NO. I loved our lives the way the were.

+1. Clearly there are a lot of posters who were unhappy with their lives and relationships with their children. I’m not one of them. I want everything to go back the way it was before.

+1

I feel sorry for OP and others who think this is better. I spent tons of time with my kids before, and so did my husband. We ate meals together except for lunch during the week. We bikes together. Played games together. All of that stuff. It’s not that having my kids home all day is worse. I love them. But our life before was awesome and this terrible place is not. We are fine but so many people aren’t. And we all miss our friends. Who doesn’t? Seriously? What kind of life did you lead before that this is better? I pity you having to return to that.

Blah blah blah you have the bestest greatest life and we should all be jealous of you blah blah blah

You have some serious issues you ought to consider doing something about.

[Anonymous]

Yes! I’m enjoying it!
I’m introverted, don’t enjoy all the parties, work lunch party, all kinds of celebration party, holiday party...
All the social responsibility can tire me out. Now I feel completely relax, love to stay home with kids.

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I’m so grateful for the opportunity to establish new routines and have a greater awareness of my life and my choices.

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Anonymous wrote:No. This is a nightmare. My husband and I work. We have lost our childcare and school and now have to completely juggle schedules to keep our jobs, house, and feed our family. Meanwhile we worry about all the people around us who will likely loose their businesses and their livelihoods. We are likely looking at the next Great Depression.

For those of you saying how nice this is, I hope your spouse has a recession-proof job (at this point the only safe ones are doctors, nurses, government employees, farmers, truck drivers, first responders, teachers, and professional athletes). I hope your spouses don’t work as lawyers or in the financial industries because they are all going to loose their jobs or take HUGE pay-cuts in the very near future.

Hah, you wish. This is so ignorant. My husband already locked in a six figure bonus for the summer because of how his funds were positioned before the crash. Anything he makes now from his buys (at historic lows btw) is gravy.

Bitch.

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Anonymous wrote:No I HATE this. And I hate SAHM's like you that can't wrap their head around how HARD this is for a minute. We are lucky that we both have our jobs and the ability to work from home. But we are doing so with a 4 year old at home and it is nearly impossible to work. I'm up early and late to make up for what I can't get done. It's exhausting and isolating. I miss my family, friends and co-workers.

A SAHM mom I know posted some post about how hard it is to do all 3 - parent, teach and work - at the same time. Bitch please... she has no job, her kids are under 5 and previously only went to mother's day out so no real teaching to do. Her biggest change is that her husband is working from home and it's really rocked their world. So extremely irritating.

It’s hard to have three kids under five at home under any circumstances. It’s probably a lot harder now that many activities are canceled. You don’t know that because you have never had a job raising children full time, beyond the four or so months of maternity leave you took. Of course this is harder for those who have to work, but it’s hard for everyone. Are you a health care worker in a hospital? Then someone has it harder than you. You have ONE four month old child at home who has zero need for socialization with other kids. There are people who have it harder than you. So stop castigating others. Even if this was the misery Olympics, you’d lose by a mile.

Oh my god, not this again. Step off.

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Anonymous wrote:No I HATE this. And I hate SAHM's like you that can't wrap their head around how HARD this is for a minute. We are lucky that we both have our jobs and the ability to work from home. But we are doing so with a 4 year old at home and it is nearly impossible to work. I'm up early and late to make up for what I can't get done. It's exhausting and isolating. I miss my family, friends and co-workers.

A SAHM mom I know posted some post about how hard it is to do all 3 - parent, teach and work - at the same time. Bitch please... she has no job, her kids are under 5 and previously only went to mother's day out so no real teaching to do. Her biggest change is that her husband is working from home and it's really rocked their world. So extremely irritating.

It’s hard to have three kids under five at home under any circumstances. It’s probably a lot harder now that many activities are canceled. You don’t know that because you have never had a job raising children full time, beyond the four or so months of maternity leave you took. Of course this is harder for those who have to work, but it’s hard for everyone. Are you a health care worker in a hospital? Then someone has it harder than you. You have ONE four month old child at home who has zero need for socialization with other kids. There are people who have it harder than you. So stop castigating others. Even if this was the misery Olympics, you’d lose by a mile.

You really struggle with reading comprehension. The SAHM I referenced has 2 kids, not 3. I have a 4 YEAR OLD not 4 month old. Having a 4 YEAR OLD at home while I'm on the phone all day basically ignoring her sucks. At least the SAHM can pay attention to her kids. Meanwhile I get to tell mine to be quiet and stick her in front of a TV so I can have god awful conference calls.

Oh and BTW I raise my kid full time even though I work.

Oh I’m sorry you have ONE four year old child. There are still many folks who have it harder than you, so why are you castigating people? You obviously have plenty of time to be on DCUM so it can’t be THAT hard for you. Also you don’t raise your kid full time on normal days. You have someone doing it for you. You are currently raising your child full time. That is why it is more difficult for you. You can’t have it both ways dummy.

Truth. Being a weekend parent is so much different than a SAH parent all week.

I really enjoy how stay at home moms justify their choice to not work by bashing women who don't make the same decision. You can do better. Especially in a time like this. Please stop, I'm so embarrassed for you. Don't you have anything better to do than to insult people who are having a really rough go of it?