Why is the threat or punishment always “taking away electronics?”

[Anonymous]

I do it because I use any excuse I have to get my kids off screens. The fact that it works as punishment is a bonus.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What works better for you, OP?

Assigning extra chores.

They get their toys/electronics/rides/etc AFTER said chores are completed. Then at least my house gets vacuumed, dishes get done, etc when my kids misbehave. It may sound silly, but this goes a long way in helping me stay calm and collected in difficult situations.

Also, I never threaten anything I’m not prepared to follow through on. My kids 100% know I mean it when I say something. This is the most important thing. I see parents yelling, threatening all sorts of things and their kids still don’t listen. Of course not! They threatened to leave and and are still screaming 20 minutes later - of course their kids don’t take them seriously. Taking away screens is the next easiest option.

Above is not OP, but I am OP.

Honestly don’t want to say what we do because I will be roasted, as is very OP on DCUM. It’s not taking away electronics because they don’t have any.

What is your definition of “electronics,” OP? I am guessing that your children have access to refrigerated foods, washer/dryer, etc. Do you just mean electronic devices used for entertainment? So nothing that plugs into a wall or used a battery? No RC cars at your house? Kids can’t use a calculator? Or do you mean “screens?” If that’s what you meant, then why not say it? Or did you specifically mean iPad/cell phone/kindle? I don’t know, but I sort of feel like you are arbitrarily limiting your definition of “electronic.”
I feel like this is all very vague.

OP here— come on, now. I used “electronics” in scare quotes in the title because that’s what many people use to refer to— yes— “screen time.” And everyone else who responded got the meaning without being cute. It’s not vague, you, yourself indicated you knew this referred to “screen time”— you’re just being DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What works better for you, OP?

Assigning extra chores.

They get their toys/electronics/rides/etc AFTER said chores are completed. Then at least my house gets vacuumed, dishes get done, etc when my kids misbehave. It may sound silly, but this goes a long way in helping me stay calm and collected in difficult situations.

Also, I never threaten anything I’m not prepared to follow through on. My kids 100% know I mean it when I say something. This is the most important thing. I see parents yelling, threatening all sorts of things and their kids still don’t listen. Of course not! They threatened to leave and and are still screaming 20 minutes later - of course their kids don’t take them seriously. Taking away screens is the next easiest option.

Above is not OP, but I am OP.

Honestly don’t want to say what we do because I will be roasted, as is very OP on DCUM. It’s not taking away electronics because they don’t have any.

So you spank your kids, am I right?

Oh, wow, just wow. This is OP and I’m finding it really telling that people think the only way to discipline a child is by causing them discomfort or distress in SOME way, but okay. The point is that this is DCUM. If I told you I spanked (never), you’d roast me. If I told you I took away sweets, you’d tell me I’m creating a future eating disorder. If I told you I used reward charts, you’d say I was spoiling my kid, and if I told you I set boundaries without punishing, you’d tell me I spoiled them worse. Let’s I do whatever it is you find most offensive, I do that.

[Anonymous]

Let’s SAY I do whatever it is you find most offensive, I do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What works better for you, OP?

Assigning extra chores.

They get their toys/electronics/rides/etc AFTER said chores are completed. Then at least my house gets vacuumed, dishes get done, etc when my kids misbehave. It may sound silly, but this goes a long way in helping me stay calm and collected in difficult situations.

Also, I never threaten anything I’m not prepared to follow through on. My kids 100% know I mean it when I say something. This is the most important thing. I see parents yelling, threatening all sorts of things and their kids still don’t listen. Of course not! They threatened to leave and and are still screaming 20 minutes later - of course their kids don’t take them seriously. Taking away screens is the next easiest option.

Above is not OP, but I am OP.

Honestly don’t want to say what we do because I will be roasted, as is very OP on DCUM. It’s not taking away electronics because they don’t have any.

So you spank your kids, am I right?

Oh, wow, just wow. This is OP and I’m finding it really telling that people think the only way to discipline a child is by causing them discomfort or distress in SOME way, but okay. The point is that this is DCUM. If I told you I spanked (never), you’d roast me. If I told you I took away sweets, you’d tell me I’m creating a future eating disorder. If I told you I used reward charts, you’d say I was spoiling my kid, and if I told you I set boundaries without punishing, you’d tell me I spoiled them worse. Let’s I do whatever it is you find most offensive, I do that.

Legitimate question OP - what do you do? You're chastising parents who do all of the above and claiming to have some sort of magic way to discipline your children, so what is it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What works better for you, OP?

Not OP but taking away certain toys or not getting a treat after dinner (a mini M&M) has worked for my kids. They also don’t have access to “electronics” so there’s that.

ONE mini M&M.....whoopee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s what my son wants the most. Threatening to take away his toothbrush yielded no results.

LOL great response!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because we can’t spank our kids. They don’t care about time outs. And little kids have few privileges. And yes, they are addicted, just like their parents and everyone else.

Well said

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What works better for you, OP?

Not OP but taking away certain toys or not getting a treat after dinner (a mini M&M) has worked for my kids. They also don’t have access to “electronics” so there’s that.

ONE mini M&M.....whoopee.

So sad poor kids

[Anonymous]

Good thread OP - way to not come back and answer how you discipline your kids. You just don't want to admit that you spank them.