Anyone's college student been arrested for public intoxication?

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Anonymous wrote:And the kids? the schools? No fault anywhere else?

It is illegal for kids to drink before they are 21. Those laws are thoroughly evaluated, and have saved thousands of lives. You can make it all sound as harmless as you want. But the police are enforcing a law that matters. Remember when that boy was let go with a warning by police a few years back, and he died walking home (drowned, I believe in a small stream...or died from hypothermia). They were crucified for not doing more. The point is, it is not safe to walk around by yourself when you are drunk. If you have taught your kids that such laws came about to line the pockets of small town cops, you have done them a disservice.


OP here. You are absolutely right, and I am actually grateful that they didn’t leave my son to just wander around by himself. However, surely they could have taken him the station, allowed him to sober up, read him the riot act, and given him a citation or warning? Especially as he has nothing else on his record - this is his first offense. It seems like throwing a class 1 and class 4 misdemeanor at him was excessive, to say the least. That will be permanently on his record if it is not expunged, and even then will show up on a security clearance investigation. And that’s even if he’s able to get it dismissed and/or expunged in the first place - by paying an expensive attorney, no less.

I completely agree that he could have been hurt, however for first-time offenders, they could have released him the next day with just a warning. That would have been plenty to ensure he never does this again.


We were completely mortified when our daughter was ticketed for underaged drinking at a party at UVA a few years back. She never told us, hired her own lawyer and was found guilty. She had her driver's license revoked for six months. It's on her record. However, we have been really surprised that this has not kept her from getting great summer jobs and internships, even when she was required to declare that this had occurred and provide details on an employment form. She is currently a senior who is getting multiple job interviews with great firms. Apparently it's more common than we thought and not necessarily considered to be a big deal particularly if your child is capable of discussing what happened in a mature fashion and dwelling on what they learned from it if asked. It's funny how when our kids are little we overshare about their big accomplishments (walking, playing peek a book, reading) but when they get older we clam up and never share these doubts, set backs and disappointments. Instead, we all walk around thinking that this has never happened to anyone else. You'd be surprised. I'm ok posting here but none of my neighbors or work colleagues etc. know that this even happened and I'm not planning on telling them.


Thank you so much for sharing this. You’re completely right, this is mortifying and we haven’t discussed it with anyone outside of the family and a lawyer. I’m sure you’re right, many college students have been in this situation. Right now, I wish it was behind us by a few years because it still seems so awful. Thanks for your post.
-OP
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Anonymous wrote:Can anyone explain the difference between having the charges dismissed vs having them expunged? I’m not clear about which is the more favorable option.


dismissed is far more favorable


no expungement means they remove all records of the case


But it will still turn up on a government investigation, correct? And don’t you still have to admit you were arrested on forms like the SF-86?


Does anyone know the answers to these questions?

Preferably the case is dismissed and expunged.

Either way, you need to answer the question asked. So, if the question asks if you’ve ever been arrested, the answer is yes. You’ll have an opportunity to explain the circumstances (including the disposition of the case). Failure to disclose on a govern or form is a federal offense punishable with 5 yrs prison.


Thanks very much for this information.
-OP
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Anonymous wrote:What is done is done. Hire a good lawyer. Your child will learn from this.

You sound like a conscientious parent, and I am sorry you are having to deal with this stress. Console yourself with the fact that the phone call could have had much worse news.


Very true, and believe me, we’re grateful for that. Thank you.
-OP
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