Picky kids coming to visit - now I've seen it all

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. Wow, this thread really got out of control. I was just annoyed/bemused/venting about rude kids and now there’s an entitled mom brigade accusing me of having control issues and causing anorexia and enforcing clean-plate policies. Jeez. Talk about issues.

You have taken what should be a fun social event and made it a torture for the kids attending and a torturefor their parents afterwards with your extended attacks on their parenting and their children. Think about thatfor awhile. Couldn’t you just as easily offered a wider choice of foods, has some fun and not judged people? Apparently not. That’s all about YOU, OP and no one else. Kids should not be at your house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're picky-food European grandma, right? Refusal to coddle step grandson's picky eating habits? Heavy emphasis on "step?"

My DS11 explained to me that the reason kids are picky eaters is because their taste buds and senses are "new" and many flavors, smells, and textures are overwhelming to the young. He said (paraphrase) that when he starts dulling his taste buds with age, coffee, and red wine that he, too, may enjoy the deliciousness of olives and smelly cheese.

You're being mansplained to by your own minor son? Dumb...anyway, I wonder how picky children were during the two world wars. Stop coddling your kids and explain about proper nutrition.

He’s not a man. He will be some day. Your kids won’t return to your house to visit much If you don’t treat them like human beings now.
People can actually have different thoughts, preferences and ideals than you even if they are your child and that doesn’t make them spoiled it makes you rigid and incredibly self centered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. Wow, this thread really got out of control. I was just annoyed/bemused/venting about rude kids and now there’s an entitled mom brigade accusing me of having control issues and causing anorexia and enforcing clean-plate policies. Jeez. Talk about issues.

Oh stop pretending you’re a victim. You’re telling people they are coddling their kids. Don’t dish it up if you can’t take it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. Wow, this thread really got out of control. I was just annoyed/bemused/venting about rude kids and now there’s an entitled mom brigade accusing me of having control issues and causing anorexia and enforcing clean-plate policies. Jeez. Talk about issues.

Oh stop pretending you’re a victim. You’re telling people they are coddling their kids. Don’t dish it up if you can’t take it.

oP you are a very bad host. Please- just stop inviting people /victims over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're picky-food European grandma, right? Refusal to coddle step grandson's picky eating habits? Heavy emphasis on "step?"

My DS11 explained to me that the reason kids are picky eaters is because their taste buds and senses are "new" and many flavors, smells, and textures are overwhelming to the young. He said (paraphrase) that when he starts dulling his taste buds with age, coffee, and red wine that he, too, may enjoy the deliciousness of olives and smelly cheese.

You're being mansplained to by your own minor son? Dumb...anyway, I wonder how picky children were during the two world wars. Stop coddling your kids and explain about proper nutrition.

He’s not a man. He will be some day. Your kids won’t return to your house to visit much If you don’t treat them like human beings now.
People can actually have different thoughts, preferences and ideals than you even if they are your child and that doesn’t make them spoiled it makes you rigid and incredibly self centered.

I'm the pp who described my son's explanation. I don't get the "mansplained." He's allowed to read and watch youtube videos and express opinions. I attached an article on picky eating- it mainly states that everyone's taste buds are different, but suggests kids respond to new foods using all of their senses. If we create a negative association by forcing certain foods, we can cause food aversions that more psychological in nature.

The parents who provide tasty food to typical kids and give a choice- eat/don't eat, but no different meals or extra snacks if you choose not to eat are in the right. We're not coddling or forcing. By typical, I mean kids who do not have obvious sensory integration issues- in a case like that, highly restrictive eating is common and nutrition will be a problem if there isn't an accommodation.

https://recipes.howstuffworks.com/menus/kids-taste-buds.htm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what do you guys suggest doing to prevent picky eaters?

My son is 1.5 and very picky already. I do tough love and just feed him whatever it is available. Many times he throws it or won’t touxh it. He’ll go to bed without any dinner. I’m not doing separate meals for a child unless it’s truly something that isn’t kid appropriate (sushi, sweetgreen etc).

Why is sushi and Sweetgreen not kid appropriate? That’s your problem right there. A 1.5 yo can easily eat all parts of sushi... the fish, rice, edamame, cucumver, avocado. We never ever forced our kids to eat anything and never would dream of sending them to bed without dinner. We always had a varied spread and they always found something to eat. This is the norm in most countries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So what do you guys suggest doing to prevent picky eaters?

My son is 1.5 and very picky already. I do tough love and just feed him whatever it is available. Many times he throws it or won’t touxh it. He’ll go to bed without any dinner. I’m not doing separate meals for a child unless it’s truly something that isn’t kid appropriate (sushi, sweetgreen etc).

Why is sushi and Sweetgreen not kid appropriate? That’s your problem right there. A 1.5 yo can easily eat all parts of sushi... the fish, rice, edamame, cucumver, avocado. We never ever forced our kids to eat anything and never would dream of sending them to bed without dinner. We always had a varied spread and they always found something to eat. This is the norm in most countries.

+1000! Don't you think Japanese kids grow up eating sushi? It's not everyday Japanese food but they also eat a lot of vegetables in schools and at homes. I think Japan is #goals for food education. Look at this video of these young kids who are making their own meal that doesn't consist of chicken nuggets and Domino's pizza:

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what do you guys suggest doing to prevent picky eaters?

My son is 1.5 and very picky already. I do tough love and just feed him whatever it is available. Many times he throws it or won’t touxh it. He’ll go to bed without any dinner. I’m not doing separate meals for a child unless it’s truly something that isn’t kid appropriate (sushi, sweetgreen etc).

Sometimes you can't. That's why it's so rude of other parents to judge. I have one kid, 4, who will eat anything. We went to friends' over the weekend and happily are biryani and chicken tikka and dal. My 9 yo has anxiety and one way it manifests is in food avoidance. She is so picky she won't even eat regular kid food like chicken nuggets or Mac and cheese. She hates restaurants and has her "safe" foodabat home.!i would give anything for her to not have that anxiety that limits her but it's not defiance or "pickiness," it's a self defense mechanisms that allows her to exert control and tame her anxiety. No amount of me forcing new foods has ever or will ever help. I offer and offer and occasionally she tries but I have forced it in the past and she had a panic attack and then vomited. Is this typical? No and I don't claim it is. But it's why people like OP suck when they just make blanket judgments that we are lazy parents with annoying kids who are doing this to other people to be pains in the ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So what do you guys suggest doing to prevent picky eaters?

My son is 1.5 and very picky already. I do tough love and just feed him whatever it is available. Many times he throws it or won’t touxh it. He’ll go to bed without any dinner. I’m not doing separate meals for a child unless it’s truly something that isn’t kid appropriate (sushi, sweetgreen etc).

Sometimes you can't. That's why it's so rude of other parents to judge. I have one kid, 4, who will eat anything. We went to friends' over the weekend and happily are biryani and chicken tikka and dal. My 9 yo has anxiety and one way it manifests is in food avoidance. She is so picky she won't even eat regular kid food like chicken nuggets or Mac and cheese. She hates restaurants and has her "safe" foodabat home.!i would give anything for her to not have that anxiety that limits her but it's not defiance or "pickiness," it's a self defense mechanisms that allows her to exert control and tame her anxiety. No amount of me forcing new foods has ever or will ever help. I offer and offer and occasionally she tries but I have forced it in the past and she had a panic attack and then vomited. Is this typical? No and I don't claim it is. But it's why people like OP suck when they just make blanket judgments that we are lazy parents with annoying kids who are doing this to other people to be pains in the ass.

I wonder how many 9yos in Africa suffer from anxiety and avoid food as a self-defense mechanism.

[Anonymous]

No big deal. Don’t eat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So what do you guys suggest doing to prevent picky eaters?

My son is 1.5 and very picky already. I do tough love and just feed him whatever it is available. Many times he throws it or won’t touxh it. He’ll go to bed without any dinner. I’m not doing separate meals for a child unless it’s truly something that isn’t kid appropriate (sushi, sweetgreen etc).

Why is sushi and Sweetgreen not kid appropriate? That’s your problem right there. A 1.5 yo can easily eat all parts of sushi... the fish, rice, edamame, cucumver, avocado. We never ever forced our kids to eat anything and never would dream of sending them to bed without dinner. We always had a varied spread and they always found something to eat. This is the norm in most countries.

You are saying I should feed my 1.5 year old a sweetgreen salad for dinner? First off, that’s a huge waste of money because the salads are large. I really don’t think a salad entree is an appropriate meal.

In regards to sushi, I haven’t given it to my son because I figured he couldn’t eat it without most of the ingredients falling out. Especially the rolls with fish on top.

You don’t understand because you don’t have a child who will refuse to eat certain foods. We had gnocchi with meat sauce tonight as a family. Gave my son the gnocchi of course and he refused to eat a single bite. Went to bed without dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So what do you guys suggest doing to prevent picky eaters?

My son is 1.5 and very picky already. I do tough love and just feed him whatever it is available. Many times he throws it or won’t touxh it. He’ll go to bed without any dinner. I’m not doing separate meals for a child unless it’s truly something that isn’t kid appropriate (sushi, sweetgreen etc).

Why is sushi and Sweetgreen not kid appropriate? That’s your problem right there. A 1.5 yo can easily eat all parts of sushi... the fish, rice, edamame, cucumver, avocado. We never ever forced our kids to eat anything and never would dream of sending them to bed without dinner. We always had a varied spread and they always found something to eat. This is the norm in most countries.

+1000! Don't you think Japanese kids grow up eating sushi? It's not everyday Japanese food but they also eat a lot of vegetables in schools and at homes. I think Japan is #goals for food education. Look at this video of these young kids who are making their own meal that doesn't consist of chicken nuggets and Domino's pizza:

I don’t actually. Raw fish isn’t recommended in japan for kids until they are 2.5. Also as you mention, sushi isn’t even an everyday food. It is more common to just give the child small pieces of cooked fish.

[Anonymous]

My boys love seafood, thai and filet mignon. I ask them to be polite and to try one thing at somebody's house. Ha! Pork n beans thay had for lunch. What an adventure. Most kids will eat what is served if they have good manners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So what do you guys suggest doing to prevent picky eaters?

My son is 1.5 and very picky already. I do tough love and just feed him whatever it is available. Many times he throws it or won’t touxh it. He’ll go to bed without any dinner. I’m not doing separate meals for a child unless it’s truly something that isn’t kid appropriate (sushi, sweetgreen etc).

Why is sushi and Sweetgreen not kid appropriate? That’s your problem right there. A 1.5 yo can easily eat all parts of sushi... the fish, rice, edamame, cucumver, avocado. We never ever forced our kids to eat anything and never would dream of sending them to bed without dinner. We always had a varied spread and they always found something to eat. This is the norm in most countries.

You don’t get it at all because you’ve never experienced it. My child won’t even eat pizza. Will throw it all on the floor. Same with pasta, tacos, quesidillas. Really. The reason I don’t give my child sushi and swetgeeen is it’s a huge waste of money! My child would throw all of the sushi on the floor. If I had a child who ate normal foods including pizza I may also serve him sushi.

For real I give my child cutup pizza and he ignores it or throws it. All of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So what do you guys suggest doing to prevent picky eaters?

My son is 1.5 and very picky already. I do tough love and just feed him whatever it is available. Many times he throws it or won’t touxh it. He’ll go to bed without any dinner. I’m not doing separate meals for a child unless it’s truly something that isn’t kid appropriate (sushi, sweetgreen etc).

Why is sushi and Sweetgreen not kid appropriate? That’s your problem right there. A 1.5 yo can easily eat all parts of sushi... the fish, rice, edamame, cucumver, avocado. We never ever forced our kids to eat anything and never would dream of sending them to bed without dinner. We always had a varied spread and they always found something to eat. This is the norm in most countries.

You are saying I should feed my 1.5 year old a sweetgreen salad for dinner? First off, that’s a huge waste of money because the salads are large. I really don’t think a salad entree is an appropriate meal.

In regards to sushi, I haven’t given it to my son because I figured he couldn’t eat it without most of the ingredients falling out. Especially the rolls with fish on top.

You don’t understand because you don’t have a child who will refuse to eat certain foods. We had gnocchi with meat sauce tonight as a family. Gave my son the gnocchi of course and he refused to eat a single bite. Went to bed without dinner.

Why is this so hard? Get yourself a Sweetgreen salad, with a couple of ingredients he might like. Remove the lid, serve him out of your bowl. Put his servings on the lid. Voila. That is how my kids learned to eat everything we eat. There is never a need to force a kid to eat something or to send them to bed hungry.