Easier for single dads than single moms to date?

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Anonymous wrote:^i am a woman with full custody! Why would you avoid me?!

Because you're a bad woman? I find that women who seek, and women who get, full custody are nasty self-centered bitches. Best to avoid them.

I am? My husband left us. I posted earlier about how he didn't want custody. Also, I might actually be the nicest person in the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single Dad here. 6 years now. Full custody. I am not young anymore, 61. Have had full custody. Pretty hard to find a date with work full time and adult children now. Only the youngest is living at home. It's difficult for me to figure out what women want these days. Some seem to be well off and want to vacation all the time (I am not in that position) or they want me to take care of them financially. Can;t do that either. The true lose in all of this is my children. ExW moved in with her AP who lives down the street and married right after divorce was final. She has had one conversation with the kids in which she told them to get over it and if they can't do that, go to therapy. Another Christmas approaches and there will not even be a card from her to them. But that's ok, we are all in a good place now and we have a wonderful Holiday together. Maybe one day a woman will somehow come in to my life again but if not, oh well, will soon be expecting my first grandchiild

Good luck to you! Merry Christmas. Enjoy that grandbaby

[Anonymous]

It's easier for women to find partners. There are dozens of guys waiting to do any woman who isn't butt-ugly or weighing more than 300 lbs. Men don't have women lined up like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's easier for women to find partners. There are dozens of guys waiting to do any woman who isn't butt-ugly or weighing more than 300 lbs. Men don't have women lined up like that.

Yup.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is my sense. Is it true?

When I was single I wasn't put off by a guy being a single Dad. My guy friends would never date a single mom, though. I think it's because women are more nurturing and we're willing to open our hearts and arms to more people. My guy friends simply didn't want to raise another man's child or have his leftovers as they so juvenilely put it.

Speak for yourself. When I was single, I wanted nothing to do with a man's kids. I dated a single dad, but never saw or met his kids (by choice) and dumped him when I was ready for something serious. I didn't want to be a step-parent.

I think there are lots of people who don't want to be stepparents, male and female. I'm a mom and don't want to spend my kids' childhood raising someone else's kids. Maybe I'll get remarried when they are grown up, but maybe not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know of "easier" is the right term. But I do know a lot of men with children that secured the first woman to walk by. By secure I mean, not marriage, but obligation. Or men that continued to carry on with the woman they cheated on the wife with...so I've only really seen men act desperate, have low standards, and blend families quickly to "secure" the woman.

Most of the single Moms I know don't let men interact with their kids until it's serious. Thus, when dating doesn't go anywhere it doesn't hurt the kids.

Guy: dating for 2 yrs and never introduced kids: exDW introduced AP within weeks. Women seem more willing to introduce their kids the longer they have been divorced. Some within very short time.

But why after 2 years never introduced? Sounds like that relationship isn't going anywhere and should end...

Most of the single Moms in my circle are highly educated, so could be the difference. I know single Moms that are poor and unemployed, they tend to move fast to try to get someone to support them...

In any case, I only know one single Mom that doesn't date much and it's probably because she's very politically out there and it's all she talks about.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is my sense. Is it true?

When I was single I wasn't put off by a guy being a single Dad. My guy friends would never date a single mom, though. I think it's because women are more nurturing and we're willing to open our hearts and arms to more people. My guy friends simply didn't want to raise another man's child or have his leftovers as they so juvenilely put it.

Speak for yourself. When I was single, I wanted nothing to do with a man's kids. I dated a single dad, but never saw or met his kids (by choice) and dumped him when I was ready for something serious. I didn't want to be a step-parent.

I think there are lots of people who don't want to be stepparents, male and female. I'm a mom and don't want to spend my kids' childhood raising someone else's kids. Maybe I'll get remarried when they are grown up, but maybe not.

Ditto. PP here. I'm married now, but if I divorce, I will never remarry and I will not date anyone with kids. The only kids I'm interested in dealing with are mine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Single Dad here. 6 years now. Full custody. I am not young anymore, 61. Have had full custody. Pretty hard to find a date with work full time and adult children now. Only the youngest is living at home. It's difficult for me to figure out what women want these days. Some seem to be well off and want to vacation all the time (I am not in that position) or they want me to take care of them financially. Can;t do that either. The true lose in all of this is my children. ExW moved in with her AP who lives down the street and married right after divorce was final. She has had one conversation with the kids in which she told them to get over it and if they can't do that, go to therapy. Another Christmas approaches and there will not even be a card from her to them. But that's ok, we are all in a good place now and we have a wonderful Holiday together. Maybe one day a woman will somehow come in to my life again but if not, oh well, will soon be expecting my first grandchiild

Good luck to you! Merry Christmas. Enjoy that grandbaby

Thank you and Merry Christmas to you too! And I will

[Anonymous]

To the 61 year old, I'm sure there are women around your age who would be interested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ditto. PP here. I'm married now, but if I divorce, I will never remarry and I will not date anyone with kids. The only kids I'm interested in dealing with are mine.

Eh, you can date someone with kids and not deal with their kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's easier for women to find partners. There are dozens of guys waiting to do any woman who isn't butt-ugly or weighing more than 300 lbs. Men don't have women lined up like that.

Yup.

It’s more like this. There are a lot of butt ugly 300 pound guys who know that if they hit on everyone in sight they will get luck once in a while. Oh it makes women think they can get a guy anytime they want but it’s not like the movies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's easier for women to find partners. There are dozens of guys waiting to do any woman who isn't butt-ugly or weighing more than 300 lbs. Men don't have women lined up like that.

I went to a science & engineering college, and let me assure you, even the butt-ugly or 300lb women have guys lined up. Yes, those guys were dumpster-diving dorks not tall handsome athletes, but every vagina has penises desperate enough to plunder it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^i am a woman with full custody! Why would you avoid me?!

Because you're a bad woman? I find that women who seek, and women who get, full custody are nasty self-centered bitches. Best to avoid them.

I am? My husband left us. I posted earlier about how he didn't want custody. Also, I might actually be the nicest person in the world.

Maybe you are. And maybe you drove your ex-husband out of the house and out of the family. I might date you and after 6-24 months figure out that you aren't as nice as you say you are. My ex-wife was real nice too, until the ring was on her finger then I discovered what I was in for.

[Anonymous]

I was a Dad with full custody. No time off for me because they never visited her. I still managed to date and did just fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^i am a woman with full custody! Why would you avoid me?!

Because you're a bad woman? I find that women who seek, and women who get, full custody are nasty self-centered bitches. Best to avoid them.

I am? My husband left us. I posted earlier about how he didn't want custody. Also, I might actually be the nicest person in the world.

Maybe you are. And maybe you drove your ex-husband out of the house and out of the family. I might date you and after 6-24 months figure out that you aren't as nice as you say you are. My ex-wife was real nice too, until the ring was on her finger then I discovered what I was in for.

You got that right! I'm so nasty I made my husband cheat on me and then I made him abandon his children. I'm awful, but for some reason he thought leaving the kids (1 and 4) in my care was fine. Also why I fly with my kids 300 miles away twice a year to visit their paternal grandparents in the middle of nowhere and we're still close. Just drove him away with my awfulness. And my unwillingness to have sex....oh wait the evidence we had sex during his affair is splashing in the tub right now.

Merry Christmas!