Easier for single dads than single moms to date?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course it is.

Why?

Because men generally abandon their kids and only play Disney dad every other weekend.

And the exDW turns the kids against dad every time.

Women initiate the majority of divorces.

Thanks MRA. Super relevant to the discussion.

[Anonymous]

It's easier logistically for the non-custodial parent. Getting dates is usually easier for women in general.

I am a single mom with full custody, but I live with my parents so the logistical part is easy. I would agree with the poster who indicated a woman's dating life is exactly how she wants it to be. I am single because I was hurt in my last relationship and I'm not interested. If I go online today, I can have a date every night. Not saying they would all be winners, but probably nice enough guys.

[Anonymous]

Makes sense. There are more single moms than single dads, so single dads are in more demand.

The reason there's not an even number of each is that too many dads are deadbeats or take off totally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course it is.

Why?

Because men generally abandon their kids and only play Disney dad every other weekend.

And the exDW turns the kids against dad every time.

Women initiate the majority of divorces.

Thanks MRA. Super relevant to the discussion.

Good morning Cat Lady

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Makes sense. There are more single moms than single dads, so single dads are in more demand.

The reason there's not an even number of each is that too many dads are deadbeats or take off totally.

No. Single princes, not dads, are in demand.

[Anonymous]

Whoever has less custody has more time. Whoever has family/friends nearby willing to watch the kids on a regular basis.

If you're a parent with every other weekend and a Wednesday dinner, you've got it made as far as dating.

I have my kids 100% of the time, because my ex-husband no longer lives here. So he sends child support and visits when he can. I have no family around here at all. And my circle of friends can't watch my kids because they have lives of their own/don't live close/schedule doesn't allow, etc.

So, I literally cannot date anyone, and don't see the ability to do so for another 5-6 years. Meanwhile, ex-husband has had a few relationships and traveled internationally on vacations with them...it is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whoever has less custody has more time. Whoever has family/friends nearby willing to watch the kids on a regular basis.

If you're a parent with every other weekend and a Wednesday dinner, you've got it made as far as dating.

I have my kids 100% of the time, because my ex-husband no longer lives here. So he sends child support and visits when he can. I have no family around here at all. And my circle of friends can't watch my kids because they have lives of their own/don't live close/schedule doesn't allow, etc.

So, I literally cannot date anyone, and don't see the ability to do so for another 5-6 years. Meanwhile, ex-husband has had a few relationships and traveled internationally on vacations with them...it is what it is.

Don't you feel resentful towards your ex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. A decent looking woman can easily find several men

Find for NSA sex? 100% agreed.
Find for dating? Nope, the men have it much easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. A decent looking woman can easily find several men

Find for NSA sex? 100% agreed.
Find for dating? Nope, the men have it much easier.

Nope. Women have it easier for both houses

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whoever has less custody has more time. Whoever has family/friends nearby willing to watch the kids on a regular basis.

If you're a parent with every other weekend and a Wednesday dinner, you've got it made as far as dating.

I have my kids 100% of the time, because my ex-husband no longer lives here. So he sends child support and visits when he can. I have no family around here at all. And my circle of friends can't watch my kids because they have lives of their own/don't live close/schedule doesn't allow, etc.

So, I literally cannot date anyone, and don't see the ability to do so for another 5-6 years. Meanwhile, ex-husband has had a few relationships and traveled internationally on vacations with them...it is what it is.

Don't you feel resentful towards your ex?

I used to. But, it's not going to change anything, so holding on to it will do no one any good. I'm thankful he fulfills his financial responsibilities, because some men don't do that, and I don't have to worry each month about affording life. And we get along fabulously now, so I don't need to cause friction in our parental relationship about something that I cannot change.

I would love to have a social life beyond the few times a year my kids are with my parents. I think it would greatly benefit my life and bring more happiness because I am able to do something other than work and go home and take care of my kids. It makes it worse that where I live is nearly all intact families. So they participate in couple activities that I am left out of. And by extension, my kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course it is.

Why?

Because men generally abandon their kids and only play Disney dad every other weekend.

No, women demand custody because they want cash and prizes, and the courts generally give it to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Makes sense. There are more single moms than single dads, so single dads are in more demand.

The reason there's not an even number of each is that too many dads are deadbeats or take off totally.

For every single mom isn't there a single dad??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whoever has less custody has more time. Whoever has family/friends nearby willing to watch the kids on a regular basis.

If you're a parent with every other weekend and a Wednesday dinner, you've got it made as far as dating.

I have my kids 100% of the time, because my ex-husband no longer lives here. So he sends child support and visits when he can. I have no family around here at all. And my circle of friends can't watch my kids because they have lives of their own/don't live close/schedule doesn't allow, etc.

So, I literally cannot date anyone, and don't see the ability to do so for another 5-6 years. Meanwhile, ex-husband has had a few relationships and traveled internationally on vacations with them...it is what it is.

Don't you feel resentful towards your ex?

She probably divorced him because she was unhaaaaaaaappy, so the only person she should resent is herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whoever has less custody has more time. Whoever has family/friends nearby willing to watch the kids on a regular basis.

If you're a parent with every other weekend and a Wednesday dinner, you've got it made as far as dating.

I have my kids 100% of the time, because my ex-husband no longer lives here. So he sends child support and visits when he can. I have no family around here at all. And my circle of friends can't watch my kids because they have lives of their own/don't live close/schedule doesn't allow, etc.

So, I literally cannot date anyone, and don't see the ability to do so for another 5-6 years. Meanwhile, ex-husband has had a few relationships and traveled internationally on vacations with them...it is what it is.

Don't you feel resentful towards your ex?

I used to. But, it's not going to change anything, so holding on to it will do no one any good. I'm thankful he fulfills his financial responsibilities, because some men don't do that, and I don't have to worry each month about affording life. And we get along fabulously now, so I don't need to cause friction in our parental relationship about something that I cannot change.

I would love to have a social life beyond the few times a year my kids are with my parents. I think it would greatly benefit my life and bring more happiness because I am able to do something other than work and go home and take care of my kids. It makes it worse that where I live is nearly all intact families. So they participate in couple activities that I am left out of. And by extension, my kids.

Why not hire a sitter sometimes?

[Anonymous]

She probably divorced him because she was unhaaaaaaaappy, so the only person she should resent is herself.

I was unhappy with some decisions he made, like his gambling problem and unwillingness to put his family before himself. But in general, we just were not getting along and fighting all the time, which wasn't a good environment for the kids. So, your assessment is inaccurate, and probably reflects some relationship problems you have now or had in the past. Much like I have done, you'd do well to get over it.

Why not hire a sitter sometimes?

Now, this is mostly my issue, because I just don't trust people outside of my family (or someone I know extremely well) to watch my kids. I'm really picky. I know I need to get over this, but haven't made the effort to look for a high schooler who could come over sometimes to watch the kids. I don't even know where I'd start. I'm in a fairly new neighborhood, so all the kids are not yet at a baby-sitting age. But, I do need to figure that out, and just start with she/he coming over once a week for a few hours, even if it's for me to go grocery shopping or walk around a store. So that way, I'd have someone available for when I do want to go out socially.