If your SO showered once a week.

[Anonymous]

ZachF wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had to cut ties with a guy because I found out that he didn't use a washcloth to clean himself and only showered at night. Meaning if we had sex at night(after he showered), he wouldn't shower again until the next evening. Hygiene is a big deal to me.

I think wash clothes are unnecessary and I never use one. Butt...I use plenty of soap. Why do you care if a guy uses a wash cloth? I don't want some nasty wet wash cloth hanging in my shower.

I'm a guy and hygiene is important to me, as is climbing into bed for sex after a nice shower. I want to be as clean as possible for my lover and smell nice which also means I've flossed and brushed my teeth. Your comment sounds like you expect a guy (and you?) to then jump up out of bed and take anther shower right after sex?

I'd cut ties with any woman like that. You have some serious hang-ups, IMO. Good sex is messy. Deal with it. And yes, many times we don't shower before, or after sex where sex itself is the immediate priority. Wipe off with a towel if you aren't too tired to get up get one (I usually think ahead and have one in reach), then cuddle each other to sleep.

If my woman felt she needed to jump up out of bed to shower right after having sex every time, we wouldn't last long at all.

I assume she meant he doesn't use a washcloth to clean himself after sex, and then doesn't shower for 24 hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had to cut ties with a guy because I found out that he didn't use a washcloth to clean himself and only showered at night. Meaning if we had sex at night(after he showered), he wouldn't shower again until the next evening. Hygiene is a big deal to me.

Why is a washcloth important? It's actually a breeding ground for bacteria. I use my hands to wash myself.

You wash your private area and butt with your hands?

NP. I sure do. I think the wash cloth is gross. You wash your butt with that and then throw it in the laundry with the rest of your clothes?
Honestly, I don't like a wet cold towel hanging around. Ew. They take up space in the shower, too. then when they are less wet, you have to take them out and transfer them to the laundry. Every day. Eww. just not necessary.

[Anonymous]

There was a long thread about washcloths in the off topic a while back - it seemed it was culturally driven: more AA posted about using one and being disgusted at people who did not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

ZachF wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had to cut ties with a guy because I found out that he didn't use a washcloth to clean himself and only showered at night. Meaning if we had sex at night(after he showered), he wouldn't shower again until the next evening. Hygiene is a big deal to me.

I think wash clothes are unnecessary and I never use one. Butt...I use plenty of soap. Why do you care if a guy uses a wash cloth? I don't want some nasty wet wash cloth hanging in my shower.

I'm a guy and hygiene is important to me, as is climbing into bed for sex after a nice shower. I want to be as clean as possible for my lover and smell nice which also means I've flossed and brushed my teeth. Your comment sounds like you expect a guy (and you?) to then jump up out of bed and take anther shower right after sex?

I'd cut ties with any woman like that. You have some serious hang-ups, IMO. Good sex is messy. Deal with it. And yes, many times we don't shower before, or after sex where sex itself is the immediate priority. Wipe off with a towel if you aren't too tired to get up get one (I usually think ahead and have one in reach), then cuddle each other to sleep.

If my woman felt she needed to jump up out of bed to shower right after having sex every time, we wouldn't last long at all.

I assume she meant he doesn't use a washcloth to clean himself after sex, and then doesn't shower for 24 hours.

This is exactly what I mean

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There was a long thread about washcloths in the off topic a while back - it seemed it was culturally driven: more AA posted about using one and being disgusted at people who did not.

I'm the person who broke up with the guy who doesn't use washcloths, yes I'm AA and he was of African descent also (immigrated here as a child)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

ZachF wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had to cut ties with a guy because I found out that he didn't use a washcloth to clean himself and only showered at night. Meaning if we had sex at night(after he showered), he wouldn't shower again until the next evening. Hygiene is a big deal to me.

I think wash clothes are unnecessary and I never use one. Butt...I use plenty of soap. Why do you care if a guy uses a wash cloth? I don't want some nasty wet wash cloth hanging in my shower.

I'm a guy and hygiene is important to me, as is climbing into bed for sex after a nice shower. I want to be as clean as possible for my lover and smell nice which also means I've flossed and brushed my teeth. Your comment sounds like you expect a guy (and you?) to then jump up out of bed and take anther shower right after sex?

I'd cut ties with any woman like that. You have some serious hang-ups, IMO. Good sex is messy. Deal with it. And yes, many times we don't shower before, or after sex where sex itself is the immediate priority. Wipe off with a towel if you aren't too tired to get up get one (I usually think ahead and have one in reach), then cuddle each other to sleep.

If my woman felt she needed to jump up out of bed to shower right after having sex every time, we wouldn't last long at all.

I assume she meant he doesn't use a washcloth to clean himself after sex, and then doesn't shower for 24 hours.

Ha ok well that is different.

I am in the camp of people who thinks it is gross to use a washcloth in the shower, but he should be using one after sex if he doesn't shower.
This is exactly what I mean

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

ZachF wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had to cut ties with a guy because I found out that he didn't use a washcloth to clean himself and only showered at night. Meaning if we had sex at night(after he showered), he wouldn't shower again until the next evening. Hygiene is a big deal to me.

I think wash clothes are unnecessary and I never use one. Butt...I use plenty of soap. Why do you care if a guy uses a wash cloth? I don't want some nasty wet wash cloth hanging in my shower.

I'm a guy and hygiene is important to me, as is climbing into bed for sex after a nice shower. I want to be as clean as possible for my lover and smell nice which also means I've flossed and brushed my teeth. Your comment sounds like you expect a guy (and you?) to then jump up out of bed and take anther shower right after sex?

I'd cut ties with any woman like that. You have some serious hang-ups, IMO. Good sex is messy. Deal with it. And yes, many times we don't shower before, or after sex where sex itself is the immediate priority. Wipe off with a towel if you aren't too tired to get up get one (I usually think ahead and have one in reach), then cuddle each other to sleep.

If my woman felt she needed to jump up out of bed to shower right after having sex every time, we wouldn't last long at all.

I assume she meant he doesn't use a washcloth to clean himself after sex, and then doesn't shower for 24 hours.

This is exactly what I mean

That's my rant above and I'll stick with it. I don't think the mess of sex is something I have clean off myself with a washcloth after the act. That seems a bit excessive, if not OCD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Europeans have a different cultural approach to showering than Americans do.

In the sixties, remember when a girl would say she had to shampoo her hair Tuesday evening so she wouldn’t be available to do anything?

Or some girls would consider themselves total losers in the dating department because they spent their Saturday evenings at home, shampooing their hair?


And don’t get me started on the old ladies shampoo + set specials!!
Lol.

But now most people wash their hair and their bodies every morning.
Yes I have heard of the whole “no poo” movement plus how our skin needs to soak in its natural oils, etc.

But I do not buy it.

OP, a good catch is someone who won’t leave the house in the morning without a daily shower.

Were you even around in the '60s? I was, and Americans were bathing/showering daily then, unless they were elderly. Lots of people don't need to wash their hair every single day. Many of us always washed our hair daily, even back in the olden days of the '60s. It was just the same as now, in terms of cleanliness. It wasn't the freaking Dark Ages.