Son wants everyone dressed in black for his Star Wars party - Too much to ask of others?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I swear I feel like this town (this forum?) is composed only of former Alabama sorority sisters.

Agree! Roll uh tide, right?!

[Anonymous]

Jesus Christ, why do the pro-black clothes for kids supporters care so much? I don't buy black clothes for my kids. You can for your kids if you want. Just because you can find black clothes for kids on the Internet doesn't mean they're a popular choice. I can find 500 brightly colored or pastel articles of kids' clothing for every one black one. And I think any birthday party invitation that requires me to buy something new for my kid to wear is annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ, why do the pro-black clothes for kids supporters care so much? I don't buy black clothes for my kids. You can for your kids if you want. Just because you can find black clothes for kids on the Internet doesn't mean they're a popular choice. I can find 500 brightly colored or pastel articles of kids' clothing for every one black one. And I think any birthday party invitation that requires me to buy something new for my kid to wear is annoying.

I don't think anyone cares that much. Except it IS weird and they were the ones who came outta the gate with "I would be sooooo out off because my kids don't own black." That is weird.

I do wonder--if your young child saw a cool graphic tee or dress he or she just loved in black, would the anti-black posters say no?

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would probably say no to a "cool" black graphic tee, but my kids are six and under. Most black graphic tees I've seen are concert t-shirts or have graphics of characters that are age inappropriate for my young kids. When I see a little kid in a band or video game t-shirt, i usually think that the parent chose the shirt because he or she is trying to look cool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I would probably say no to a "cool" black graphic tee, but my kids are six and under. Most black graphic tees I've seen are concert t-shirts or have graphics of characters that are age inappropriate for my young kids. When I see a little kid in a band or video game t-shirt, i usually think that the parent chose the shirt because he or she is trying to look cool.

You seem kind of hung up on what you perceive to be "cool". Here's a tip: just because you don't like something, it doesn't mean people who DO like it are just pretending, to seem cool. Kids are capable of liking music and video games of their own volition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you tell your son no to this idea what will his reaction be?

Is he always this controlling or i this a one off?

This is what I want to know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I would probably say no to a "cool" black graphic tee, but my kids are six and under. Most black graphic tees I've seen are concert t-shirts or have graphics of characters that are age inappropriate for my young kids. When I see a little kid in a band or video game t-shirt, i usually think that the parent chose the shirt because he or she is trying to look cool.

You seem kind of hung up on what you perceive to be "cool". Here's a tip: just because you don't like something, it doesn't mean people who DO like it are just pretending, to seem cool. Kids are capable of liking music and video games of their own volition.

Nope, really not hung up on anything. I dress my kid the way I like, which takes into account my view of age-appropriate clothing. Several other posters seem to have similar views to mine. You seem very hung up on people who have different ideas than yours as "weird."

[Anonymous]

How exactly does the black clothing enhance the party? Honest question. Because unless there's a real advantage to wearing black clothing than regular every day party clothes, it is annoying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I would probably say no to a "cool" black graphic tee, but my kids are six and under. Most black graphic tees I've seen are concert t-shirts or have graphics of characters that are age inappropriate for my young kids. When I see a little kid in a band or video game t-shirt, i usually think that the parent chose the shirt because he or she is trying to look cool.

You seem kind of hung up on what you perceive to be "cool". Here's a tip: just because you don't like something, it doesn't mean people who DO like it are just pretending, to seem cool. Kids are capable of liking music and video games of their own volition.

Nope, really not hung up on anything. I dress my kid the way I like, which takes into account my view of age-appropriate clothing. Several other posters seem to have similar views to mine. You seem very hung up on people who have different ideas than yours as "weird."

If you dress your kid how you want them to be dressed, how is that different than another parent putting a band t-shirt on their kid? Also, I'm confused as to why you put quotes around the word "weird", as though you're quoting me. Did I describe anyone or anything as "weird" in my post?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I swear I feel like this town (this forum?) is composed only of former Alabama sorority sisters.

Agree! Roll uh tide, right?!

I'm not in any way a former sorority sister or from the south, and I also don't buy black for my kids and wasn't allowed to wear it as a child. It's pretty common. I could care less if other kids wear black, I just don't think it's a good color for little ones.

[MrTrevorRolling]

Don't listen to these haters, OP. I think it would be hilarious to see an entire party of little goth kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I swear I feel like this town (this forum?) is composed only of former Alabama sorority sisters.

Agree! Roll uh tide, right?!

I'm not in any way a former sorority sister or from the south, and I also don't buy black for my kids and wasn't allowed to wear it as a child. It's pretty common. I could care less if other kids wear black, I just don't think it's a good color for little ones.

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NP here, didn't have my first black item of clothing until I was a teenager. In my mother's case, she and her friends viewed this as a social class thing, whether they stated this explicitly or not. No black, no two-piece swimsuits, and no pierced ears until maybe 12. It was not a religious or southern thing. It's looser now, much like the "rules" on white after Labor Day have loosened, but the same thinking still guides many of us who were raised that way. I don't judge others for putting their kids in black, but it is not a color I am looking to dress my child in.

[Anonymous]

I haven't read all the replies, but why black? I would include something like "feel free to wear your favorite Star Wars costume or t-shirt." And that's it. Or go on Pinterest & make cheap Jedi costumes for all. FWIW, my 7 yo boy has no Star Wars clothes/stuff and has no interest in it. He'd still have fun at pretty much any party, though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm the PP who originally posted about not being allowed to wear black as a child. I just asked my mom about it and she said it actually stemmed from how my grandmother (dad's mom) viewed the color - as sad and somber, meant for funerals and mourning. She believed that kids should wear bright and fun colors and my mom agreed with her so she kept black out of our wardrobes.

Again, we are a non-religious family, so religion has nothing to do with it. Definitely no pearl-clutchers, either. And we were raised in Naples, FL and Potomac, MD for those asking where I grew up.

Right, understood.

But it's just a color, and the no-black-ever rule is not one that most parents enforce anymore. Your experience was an unusual one.

PP here. I'm not sure it was that unusual. There was an entire thread dedicated to this topic once and it was far more common than you would think. Looking at my own friends right now, none of them allow their kids to wear black either. They even specifically make a point to tell people that when discussing gifts of clothing for birthdays / holidays / etc.

...and you live in the DMV? Because this is actively odd.

I live in close-in MD, have lived in DC, and my 8yo child was born in the District. I don't allow DC to wear black clothing. It doesn't seem child-like to me. And I love black for myself!

[Anonymous]

My kids wear black on occasion, I have no problem with that. But I would have a problem being told specifically how to dress them for a party, even if we happened to have the required dress already.