Question for Employment Lawyers re: sexual harassment

[Anonymous]

Why would you do this if you don't want your boyfriend to find out about the relationship? Start looking for a new job now, and move on.

[Anonymous]

Based on your situation and general demeanor, I think I know you. I won't call out the company you work for here, but I do want to tell you a few things.

1) You're terrible. Like, actually terrible.
2) You are not even remotely discreet about the nature of your relationship with your former boss. Management knows, and it's not because your former staff ratted you out.
3) The only reason your boyfriend doesn't seem to know is because he is too doped up on molly to know up from down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Based on your situation and general demeanor, I think I know you. I won't call out the company you work for here, but I do want to tell you a few things.

1) You're terrible. Like, actually terrible.
2) You are not even remotely discreet about the nature of your relationship with your former boss. Management knows, and it's not because your former staff ratted you out.
3) The only reason your boyfriend doesn't seem to know is because he is too doped up on molly to know up from down.

Oh good. Make sure you save this thread for when OP's big lawsuit starts.

[Anonymous]

NP to the thread here.

So basically, OP, you are trying to save your job and you're hoping a SH case will do it b/c of the relationship with your boss.

W/o all the name calling and insults others have stooped to in this thread, the short answer is NO! Don't do it!

1. They did not know you were sleeping with your boss which means you have NO case. Even if they suspected, they will feign ignorance for the sake of the lawsuit AND it will be on you to prove that they did know. Which you cannot do. ( You 2st need to prove that they knew in order to have a case in the 1st place.)

2. Your boss is no longer there so you're not currently being sexually harassed. Therefore you cannot bring a SH case.

3. The relationship was consensual. In a situation like that, HE'S the abuser and HE would've likely been fired. But he's no longer there so it's a moot point.

4. Career suicide for YOU all the way.

5. Your layoff falls in line with the rest. It does not seem you're being singled out.

6. Lawsuit= your BF finding out you cheated.

Bottom line? Bad idea. Don't do it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is happening now is that I think I am about to get laid off.

We understand that. But they are going to say that you are being laid off because they no longer need your job at all/your whole division was laid off last year. What's your strongest argument that that is in fact "pretext" -- that is, not the accurate reason for your being fired, and in fact it's because your boss slept with you?

Yes! This is what I am trying to say. Thank you.

So what is your argument? If you did get fired and took this to court, it would be your burden to prove the pretext.

I guess my argument is I was sleeping with my boss, and then I got fired. Surely the jury can draw its own conclusions.

Hahahahahahahahaha. So cute, how you think this case would even clear summary judgment.

[Anonymous]

You guys, OP thinks that having consensual sex with her boss protects her from ever being fired in the future.

She seems hell bent on finding out the hard way that she is wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP to the thread here.

So basically, OP, you are trying to save your job and you're hoping a SH case will do it b/c of the relationship with your boss.

W/o all the name calling and insults others have stooped to in this thread, the short answer is NO! Don't do it!

1. They did not know you were sleeping with your boss which means you have NO case. Even if they suspected, they will feign ignorance for the sake of the lawsuit AND it will be on you to prove that they did know. Which you cannot do. ( You 2st need to prove that they knew in order to have a case in the 1st place.)

2. Your boss is no longer there so you're not currently being sexually harassed. Therefore you cannot bring a SH case.

3. The relationship was consensual. In a situation like that, HE'S the abuser and HE would've likely been fired. But he's no longer there so it's a moot point.

4. Career suicide for YOU all the way.

5. Your layoff falls in line with the rest. It does not seem you're being singled out.

6. Lawsuit= your BF finding out you cheated.

Bottom line? Bad idea. Don't do it.

This. All of it.

OP - the best possible scenario here for you is that you get laid off, in line with everything that's been going on with the company in recent history. You go find another job. Boyfriend is sympathetic about your career set back. Life goes on.

Much much worse scenarios come from you making your sexual history somehow part of a corporate layoff action. Lawsuits (which you will lose), lawyer fees (which you will pay, assuming any lawyer even takes your case), anguish for multiple relationships, becoming the laughing stock of even more people than you already are, potential humiliation, potential end of your relationship, etc... All in conjunction with losing your job and potentially any severance package they might be offering to employees who are laid off. And should any piece of this become common knowledge, it will permeate your references and future career prospects.

Truthfully, I think all of our advice is wasted on you. I almost wish I could be watching this trainwreck occur in real life because you are a hot, hot mess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Based on your situation and general demeanor, I think I know you. I won't call out the company you work for here, but I do want to tell you a few things.

1) You're terrible. Like, actually terrible.
2) You are not even remotely discreet about the nature of your relationship with your former boss. Management knows, and it's not because your former staff ratted you out.
3) The only reason your boyfriend doesn't seem to know is because he is too doped up on molly to know up from down.

Oh good. Make sure you save this thread for when OP's big lawsuit starts.

I assume you said this jokingly, but it is standard practice to ask about electronic devices in depositions and in some cases seek in image drives (which would show activity like dcum and/or get ip addresses and then issue subpoenas to websites where you think there has been relevant activity.

This probably would not be this kind a case, in part because I bet there are hundreds of emails/texts that will show the relationship was consensual.

[Anonymous]

You have no case. You could invent one by claiming that your former boss forced you into a quid pro quo sexual relationship and that you complained to higher ups and nothing was done, then after a while they fired you.

This would result in your former boss being grilled in a deposition about how he basically raped you. Seems like a shitty thing to do to a guy who saved your job

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have no case. You could invent one by claiming that your former boss forced you into a quid pro quo sexual relationship and that you complained to higher ups and nothing was done, then after a while they fired you.

This would result in your former boss being grilled in a deposition about how he basically raped you. Seems like a shitty thing to do to a guy who saved your job

This. And, OP, since you appear to care about nothing but saving your own skin, there is almost certainly evidence (emails, texts, pictures) that would show the relationship was consensual. Then it would be you getting skewered in a deposition. And if the evidence was strong enough, referred to a prosecutor for potential perjury charges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have no case. You could invent one by claiming that your former boss forced you into a quid pro quo sexual relationship and that you complained to higher ups and nothing was done, then after a while they fired you.

This would result in your former boss being grilled in a deposition about how he basically raped you. Seems like a shitty thing to do to a guy who saved your job

People like OP make it difficult for people with legit harassment cases to come forward.