What was your parents' anual income when you were growing up?

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Anonymous wrote:I actually just found this out recently... When I was around 7 years old, we were a family of 4, and my dad was making $24K as a medical resident (1989/1990). When I was 18 (family of 5) and getting ready for college, his salary was around $270K (2000). Now that I'm 34, his salary is at least double that.

Not bad for a man who came to this country with $214, a wife, a kid, and a huge dream. We may not have had it all when I was growing up, but he's worked his ass off to give us the world and he still works his ass off just to continue giving us all that he can.

(My mom has never worked outside the home. She's a SAHM and her FT job has always been our family, which is a huge undertaking.)

Bro, can we stop saying shit like this? Working moms' jobs are ALSO their families. They just have to be energetic enough to do TWO FT jobs (one for pay, and one for free).

PP here. Bro, can we stop being so insecure? What I wrote wasn't a knock against anyone. You taking it that way is on you.

+1 I am a SAHM and my family could not function at the high level they do with me working. Two income families sure have more money but they also have to spend more. I see costs for tutors, therapies, cars, drivers, camps, clothing, food, cleaning ... all adding up at two income households. But they also have money to throw at their problems. We went another route. To each their own.

Hmm. Most SAHMs are not qualified to provide therapies. And last I heard, they still eat and wear clothes. Nice try. It's the typical tactic of the self-justifying SAHM--add up all the costs of working, but neglect to account for any of the costs of staying at home, much less fully account for the salary and benefits.

Maybe the PP was trying to say that kids of non-SAHMs are messed up and therefore need therapy?

Yes, all kids of working mothers are in therapy and have higher food and clothing costs than children of working mothers. This is a fact you can learn at the ladies who lunch bridge club.

No kidding, the therapies dig was totally below the belt. Why don't we go back to talking about our parents and their situation and let go of the SAHM vs WOHM insecurities?

I am pretty sure she meant any necessary therapies like OT and speech,etc. Not psychotherapy?

Anyway, I am secure enough to say that NO I do not work the same FT parenting gig as a SAHM. Its outsourced for a large chunk of the day and will be when they are at school for all of us anyway. It just is what it is, I can be the parent but don't claim to be parenting at 2pm when a SAHP is doing that grunt work at home.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually just found this out recently... When I was around 7 years old, we were a family of 4, and my dad was making $24K as a medical resident (1989/1990). When I was 18 (family of 5) and getting ready for college, his salary was around $270K (2000). Now that I'm 34, his salary is at least double that.

Not bad for a man who came to this country with $214, a wife, a kid, and a huge dream. We may not have had it all when I was growing up, but he's worked his ass off to give us the world and he still works his ass off just to continue giving us all that he can.

(My mom has never worked outside the home. She's a SAHM and her FT job has always been our family, which is a huge undertaking.)

Bro, can we stop saying shit like this? Working moms' jobs are ALSO their families. They just have to be energetic enough to do TWO FT jobs (one for pay, and one for free).

PP here. Bro, can we stop being so insecure? What I wrote wasn't a knock against anyone. You taking it that way is on you.

+1 I am a SAHM and my family could not function at the high level they do with me working. Two income families sure have more money but they also have to spend more. I see costs for tutors, therapies, cars, drivers, camps, clothing, food, cleaning ... all adding up at two income households. But they also have money to throw at their problems. We went another route. To each their own.

Hmm. Most SAHMs are not qualified to provide therapies. And last I heard, they still eat and wear clothes. Nice try. It's the typical tactic of the self-justifying SAHM--add up all the costs of working, but neglect to account for any of the costs of staying at home, much less fully account for the salary and benefits.

Maybe the PP was trying to say that kids of non-SAHMs are messed up and therefore need therapy?

Yes, all kids of working mothers are in therapy and have higher food and clothing costs than children of working mothers. This is a fact you can learn at the ladies who lunch bridge club.

No kidding, the therapies dig was totally below the belt. Why don't we go back to talking about our parents and their situation and let go of the SAHM vs WOHM insecurities?

I am pretty sure she meant any necessary therapies like OT and speech,etc. Not psychotherapy?

Anyway, I am secure enough to say that NO I do not work the same FT parenting gig as a SAHM. Its outsourced for a large chunk of the day and will be when they are at school for all of us anyway. It just is what it is, I can be the parent but don't claim to be parenting at 2pm when a SAHP is doing that grunt work at home.

So it's okay she said that kids with SAHM don't need speech or occupational therapy? Yeah, that's really not better.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually just found this out recently... When I was around 7 years old, we were a family of 4, and my dad was making $24K as a medical resident (1989/1990). When I was 18 (family of 5) and getting ready for college, his salary was around $270K (2000). Now that I'm 34, his salary is at least double that.

Not bad for a man who came to this country with $214, a wife, a kid, and a huge dream. We may not have had it all when I was growing up, but he's worked his ass off to give us the world and he still works his ass off just to continue giving us all that he can.

(My mom has never worked outside the home. She's a SAHM and her FT job has always been our family, which is a huge undertaking.)

Bro, can we stop saying shit like this? Working moms' jobs are ALSO their families. They just have to be energetic enough to do TWO FT jobs (one for pay, and one for free).

PP here. Bro, can we stop being so insecure? What I wrote wasn't a knock against anyone. You taking it that way is on you.

My kids are in school from 7:30 - 3, I'm sure I could find things to do at home all day alone but it wouldn't involve parenting them.

+1 I am a SAHM and my family could not function at the high level they do with me working. Two income families sure have more money but they also have to spend more. I see costs for tutors, therapies, cars, drivers, camps, clothing, food, cleaning ... all adding up at two income households. But they also have money to throw at their problems. We went another route. To each their own.

Hmm. Most SAHMs are not qualified to provide therapies. And last I heard, they still eat and wear clothes. Nice try. It's the typical tactic of the self-justifying SAHM--add up all the costs of working, but neglect to account for any of the costs of staying at home, much less fully account for the salary and benefits.

Maybe the PP was trying to say that kids of non-SAHMs are messed up and therefore need therapy?

Yes, all kids of working mothers are in therapy and have higher food and clothing costs than children of working mothers. This is a fact you can learn at the ladies who lunch bridge club.

No kidding, the therapies dig was totally below the belt. Why don't we go back to talking about our parents and their situation and let go of the SAHM vs WOHM insecurities?

I am pretty sure she meant any necessary therapies like OT and speech,etc. Not psychotherapy?

Anyway, I am secure enough to say that NO I do not work the same FT parenting gig as a SAHM. Its outsourced for a large chunk of the day and will be when they are at school for all of us anyway. It just is what it is, I can be the parent but don't claim to be parenting at 2pm when a SAHP is doing that grunt work at home.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually just found this out recently... When I was around 7 years old, we were a family of 4, and my dad was making $24K as a medical resident (1989/1990). When I was 18 (family of 5) and getting ready for college, his salary was around $270K (2000). Now that I'm 34, his salary is at least double that.

Not bad for a man who came to this country with $214, a wife, a kid, and a huge dream. We may not have had it all when I was growing up, but he's worked his ass off to give us the world and he still works his ass off just to continue giving us all that he can.

(My mom has never worked outside the home. She's a SAHM and her FT job has always been our family, which is a huge undertaking.)

Bro, can we stop saying shit like this? Working moms' jobs are ALSO their families. They just have to be energetic enough to do TWO FT jobs (one for pay, and one for free).

PP here. Bro, can we stop being so insecure? What I wrote wasn't a knock against anyone. You taking it that way is on you.

+1 I am a SAHM and my family could not function at the high level they do with me working. Two income families sure have more money but they also have to spend more. I see costs for tutors, therapies, cars, drivers, camps, clothing, food, cleaning ... all adding up at two income households. But they also have money to throw at their problems. We went another route. To each their own.

Lol what? This is hysterical. You sew clothes, harvest food, provide therapy and don't send your kids to activities or camps?

Most pathetic justification ever. You don't want to work. We get it.

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Not that I'm defending the insensitive and haughty SAHM, but I assumed that when she said "therapies", she meant having a parent present for the kid's therapy session. Our son is SN, I SAHM permanently, and he has a two hour therapy session three times a week that I'm present for the entire time.

I grew up in LA circa the 80s and my parents were working class. I'm not sure how much they made, but I remember them discussing the salaries of relatives in hushed, gossipy tones, and being impressed when my uncle was bringing home $60k. So I have to assume that they made much less. Dad worked in aerospace, mother worked in insurance and customer service, but she had a chronic health issue that prevented her from working a lot of the time.

Does anyone remember the episode of Roseanne where Darlene was offered a job making $30k a year, and how angry her parents were that she turned down the job? Roseanne stated that no person in their family had ever made that kind of money. This was the midwest in the mid 90s, and I think they were pretty accurate there.

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Upstate NYer: 70s-80s. 100-130. Private colleges for all 5. No loans. House was 140. Life was good.
DH makes similar-our house was 800+. Thank good for stocks!

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Anonymous wrote:I actually just found this out recently... When I was around 7 years old, we were a family of 4, and my dad was making $24K as a medical resident (1989/1990). When I was 18 (family of 5) and getting ready for college, his salary was around $270K (2000). Now that I'm 34, his salary is at least double that.

Not bad for a man who came to this country with $214, a wife, a kid, and a huge dream. We may not have had it all when I was growing up, but he's worked his ass off to give us the world and he still works his ass off just to continue giving us all that he can.

(My mom has never worked outside the home. She's a SAHM and her FT job has always been our family, which is a huge undertaking.)

Bro, can we stop saying shit like this? Working moms' jobs are ALSO their families. They just have to be energetic enough to do TWO FT jobs (one for pay, and one for free).

PP here. Bro, can we stop being so insecure? What I wrote wasn't a knock against anyone. You taking it that way is on you.

+1 I am a SAHM and my family could not function at the high level they do with me working. Two income families sure have more money but they also have to spend more. I see costs for tutors, therapies, cars, drivers, camps, clothing, food, cleaning ... all adding up at two income households. But they also have money to throw at their problems. We went another route. To each their own.

Hmm. Most SAHMs are not qualified to provide therapies. And last I heard, they still eat and wear clothes. Nice try. It's the typical tactic of the self-justifying SAHM--add up all the costs of working, but neglect to account for any of the costs of staying at home, much less fully account for the salary and benefits.

Maybe the PP was trying to say that kids of non-SAHMs are messed up and therefore need therapy?

Yes, all kids of working mothers are in therapy and have higher food and clothing costs than children of working mothers. This is a fact you can learn at the ladies who lunch bridge club.

No kidding, the therapies dig was totally below the belt. Why don't we go back to talking about our parents and their situation and let go of the SAHM vs WOHM insecurities?

I am pretty sure she meant any necessary therapies like OT and speech,etc. Not psychotherapy?

Anyway, I am secure enough to say that NO I do not work the same FT parenting gig as a SAHM. Its outsourced for a large chunk of the day and will be when they are at school for all of us anyway. It just is what it is, I can be the parent but don't claim to be parenting at 2pm when a SAHP is doing that grunt work at home.

So it's okay she said that kids with SAHM don't need speech or occupational therapy? Yeah, that's really not better.

No, I'm sorry, I wasn't saying it was better but thought it was at least different than many were taking it (still delusional tho). But still, I stand by being secure enough to admit that I am not doing the same amount of parenting on a daily basis as SAHP