Feel like my well behaved 1st grader is basically ignored in FCPS

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Anonymous wrote:My 7yo DS is a nice kid, doesn't cause any problems and listens to the teacher. DS's FCPS Alexandria school is 30% free lunch/ESOL. He has 27 kids in his class. DS is a bright kid but probably not gifted. I feel like he is completely ignored in his class. I don't know if this is unique to his class or school or if it will be the same everywhere for a well behaved non-troublemaker who isn't profoundly gifted.

I don't know if things will change if we move to Arlington or Mclean, deemed better schools. I would like to move to Arlington for closer proximity to work and smaller class sizes. Mclean has nicer curb appeal but I believe class sizes are even bigger.

What does the 30% free lunch and ESOL have to do with him? So you are saying because the school is 30% Hispanic or poor (in your post you seem to conflate the two) your child is not made to feel special enough? What do you want them to do? Make him star of the week every week?

I never said they were Hispanic. At our school, the incoming kids are from Arabic and/or N African countries. The Hispanic kids can mostly all speak English even if their parents speak Spanish at home.

Supplement at home like the rest of us then! You didn't answer the question of what you wanted them to do about your admittedly average kid. This is life. He will be an average adult and his supervisors aren't going to promote him just because they spend time on all the disciplinary issues that they need to fire or they spend time developing talent for those that will be promoted quickly. What do you want them to do for your child?

This is overly snarky. Having been in the same situation, it's not that we want our kids to feel special, we want them to actually learn something new and feel challenged. That shouldn't be too much to expect from public school. For my DD first grade was a completely wasted year other than her reading improved a little from practicing at home. Her teacher was basically useless. But in talking to the parents of the kids who are "gifted" they thought she was great.

The spin and the reality of FCPS are very different. Some parents catch on quick, others it takes a while, and some never do. It's just not anywhere near as good a school system as they purport it to be. Nothing in it - the teaching, administration, even transportation stands up to close scrutiny. Everyone is so bought in to the concept of 'world class' schools that very few want to acknowledge its decline. I don't know what it was 20 or 30 years ago, but it is not a very good system anymore.

Unfortunately, this is true. It's not world class. It's not even very good. I don't fault the teachers - there are some amazing teachers, but they are amazing in spite of the administration and the school system and not because of it. I think the biggest problem is the administration. From central on down, administrators tend to be the least qualified people to do those jobs, and the people hired tend to be politicians and bullies instead of people with actual leadership skills. There is little accountability for anything that matters. FCPS is overly focused on testing and is extremely bureaucratic and politically motivated. I have been both a teacher and a parent, and that has been my observation in both capacities. I have relatives in schools in another state, and the quality of the education they are getting is miles above what we are getting in every way.

95% of the people who post like this just handle the fact that there are so many bright kids in FCPS and that theirs are about average. They tend to say positive things about systems with more "average" kids, where they think their kids would be higher on the curve.

...and I hope that when these "bright FCPS" kids go to college they can handle the fact that they are just average compared to their classmates from other parts of the country.

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Anonymous wrote:My 7yo DS is a nice kid, doesn't cause any problems and listens to the teacher. DS's FCPS Alexandria school is 30% free lunch/ESOL. He has 27 kids in his class. DS is a bright kid but probably not gifted. I feel like he is completely ignored in his class. I don't know if this is unique to his class or school or if it will be the same everywhere for a well behaved non-troublemaker who isn't profoundly gifted.

I don't know if things will change if we move to Arlington or Mclean, deemed better schools. I would like to move to Arlington for closer proximity to work and smaller class sizes. Mclean has nicer curb appeal but I believe class sizes are even bigger.

What does the 30% free lunch and ESOL have to do with him? So you are saying because the school is 30% Hispanic or poor (in your post you seem to conflate the two) your child is not made to feel special enough? What do you want them to do? Make him star of the week every week?

I never said they were Hispanic. At our school, the incoming kids are from Arabic and/or N African countries. The Hispanic kids can mostly all speak English even if their parents speak Spanish at home.

Supplement at home like the rest of us then! You didn't answer the question of what you wanted them to do about your admittedly average kid. This is life. He will be an average adult and his supervisors aren't going to promote him just because they spend time on all the disciplinary issues that they need to fire or they spend time developing talent for those that will be promoted quickly. What do you want them to do for your child?

This is overly snarky. Having been in the same situation, it's not that we want our kids to feel special, we want them to actually learn something new and feel challenged. That shouldn't be too much to expect from public school. For my DD first grade was a completely wasted year other than her reading improved a little from practicing at home. Her teacher was basically useless. But in talking to the parents of the kids who are "gifted" they thought she was great.

The spin and the reality of FCPS are very different. Some parents catch on quick, others it takes a while, and some never do. It's just not anywhere near as good a school system as they purport it to be. Nothing in it - the teaching, administration, even transportation stands up to close scrutiny. Everyone is so bought in to the concept of 'world class' schools that very few want to acknowledge its decline. I don't know what it was 20 or 30 years ago, but it is not a very good system anymore.

Unfortunately, this is true. It's not world class. It's not even very good. I don't fault the teachers - there are some amazing teachers, but they are amazing in spite of the administration and the school system and not because of it. I think the biggest problem is the administration. From central on down, administrators tend to be the least qualified people to do those jobs, and the people hired tend to be politicians and bullies instead of people with actual leadership skills. There is little accountability for anything that matters. FCPS is overly focused on testing and is extremely bureaucratic and politically motivated. I have been both a teacher and a parent, and that has been my observation in both capacities. I have relatives in schools in another state, and the quality of the education they are getting is miles above what we are getting in every way.

95% of the people who post like this just handle the fact that there are so many bright kids in FCPS and that theirs are about average. They tend to say positive things about systems with more "average" kids, where they think their kids would be higher on the curve.

...and I hope that when these "bright FCPS" kids go to college they can handle the fact that they are just average compared to their classmates from other parts of the country.

I used to teach in a college that a lot of fcps kids go to. It was hilarious to see their little entitled faces when they got a "B." Because their work was B level, and it turned out that all those years of being called "gifted" just meant they did their homework and could follow directions. But when they actually had to use their brains, they couldn't, and couldn't accept that maybe their best work was just....average.

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Anonymous wrote:My 7yo DS is a nice kid, doesn't cause any problems and listens to the teacher. DS's FCPS Alexandria school is 30% free lunch/ESOL. He has 27 kids in his class. DS is a bright kid but probably not gifted. I feel like he is completely ignored in his class. I don't know if this is unique to his class or school or if it will be the same everywhere for a well behaved non-troublemaker who isn't profoundly gifted.

I don't know if things will change if we move to Arlington or Mclean, deemed better schools. I would like to move to Arlington for closer proximity to work and smaller class sizes. Mclean has nicer curb appeal but I believe class sizes are even bigger.

What does the 30% free lunch and ESOL have to do with him? So you are saying because the school is 30% Hispanic or poor (in your post you seem to conflate the two) your child is not made to feel special enough? What do you want them to do? Make him star of the week every week?

I never said they were Hispanic. At our school, the incoming kids are from Arabic and/or N African countries. The Hispanic kids can mostly all speak English even if their parents speak Spanish at home.

Supplement at home like the rest of us then! You didn't answer the question of what you wanted them to do about your admittedly average kid. This is life. He will be an average adult and his supervisors aren't going to promote him just because they spend time on all the disciplinary issues that they need to fire or they spend time developing talent for those that will be promoted quickly. What do you want them to do for your child?

This is overly snarky. Having been in the same situation, it's not that we want our kids to feel special, we want them to actually learn something new and feel challenged. That shouldn't be too much to expect from public school. For my DD first grade was a completely wasted year other than her reading improved a little from practicing at home. Her teacher was basically useless. But in talking to the parents of the kids who are "gifted" they thought she was great.

The spin and the reality of FCPS are very different. Some parents catch on quick, others it takes a while, and some never do. It's just not anywhere near as good a school system as they purport it to be. Nothing in it - the teaching, administration, even transportation stands up to close scrutiny. Everyone is so bought in to the concept of 'world class' schools that very few want to acknowledge its decline. I don't know what it was 20 or 30 years ago, but it is not a very good system anymore.

Unfortunately, this is true. It's not world class. It's not even very good. I don't fault the teachers - there are some amazing teachers, but they are amazing in spite of the administration and the school system and not because of it. I think the biggest problem is the administration. From central on down, administrators tend to be the least qualified people to do those jobs, and the people hired tend to be politicians and bullies instead of people with actual leadership skills. There is little accountability for anything that matters. FCPS is overly focused on testing and is extremely bureaucratic and politically motivated. I have been both a teacher and a parent, and that has been my observation in both capacities. I have relatives in schools in another state, and the quality of the education they are getting is miles above what we are getting in every way.

95% of the people who post like this just handle the fact that there are so many bright kids in FCPS and that theirs are about average. They tend to say positive things about systems with more "average" kids, where they think their kids would be higher on the curve.

...and I hope that when these "bright FCPS" kids go to college they can handle the fact that they are just average compared to their classmates from other parts of the country.

I used to teach in a college that a lot of fcps kids go to. It was hilarious to see their little entitled faces when they got a "B." Because their work was B level, and it turned out that all those years of being called "gifted" just meant they did their homework and could follow directions. But when they actually had to use their brains, they couldn't, and couldn't accept that maybe their best work was just....average.

It is easy to understand why you USED TO teach there.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you are going down the path to private school. It kills me to be paying for private school, but by the time FCPS gets done paying and staffing everything else that they do, from AAP to ESOL, the 'average' student just doesn't get that much from FCPS. Took me through ES to figure that out - I regret every minute my kids were in FCPS.

Op here. I was just talking to DH about private school. Don't think Mclean will be any better for my child. We will see how things go. I feel we will be visiting Burgundy, Browne and SSSA.

Good call. Private school is cheaper than an Arlington or McLean mortgage and if the bubble pops, you won't be screwed. Plus, if (God forbid) you run into less flush financial times, it is logistically easier to pull a kid from private than it is to keep paying a giant mortgage you're locked into. Emotionally, not easy at all, but logistically? So much less risky.

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Anonymous wrote:My 7yo DS is a nice kid, doesn't cause any problems and listens to the teacher. DS's FCPS Alexandria school is 30% free lunch/ESOL. He has 27 kids in his class. DS is a bright kid but probably not gifted. I feel like he is completely ignored in his class. I don't know if this is unique to his class or school or if it will be the same everywhere for a well behaved non-troublemaker who isn't profoundly gifted.

I don't know if things will change if we move to Arlington or Mclean, deemed better schools. I would like to move to Arlington for closer proximity to work and smaller class sizes. Mclean has nicer curb appeal but I believe class sizes are even bigger.

What does the 30% free lunch and ESOL have to do with him? So you are saying because the school is 30% Hispanic or poor (in your post you seem to conflate the two) your child is not made to feel special enough? What do you want them to do? Make him star of the week every week?

I never said they were Hispanic. At our school, the incoming kids are from Arabic and/or N African countries. The Hispanic kids can mostly all speak English even if their parents speak Spanish at home.

Supplement at home like the rest of us then! You didn't answer the question of what you wanted them to do about your admittedly average kid. This is life. He will be an average adult and his supervisors aren't going to promote him just because they spend time on all the disciplinary issues that they need to fire or they spend time developing talent for those that will be promoted quickly. What do you want them to do for your child?

This is overly snarky. Having been in the same situation, it's not that we want our kids to feel special, we want them to actually learn something new and feel challenged. That shouldn't be too much to expect from public school. For my DD first grade was a completely wasted year other than her reading improved a little from practicing at home. Her teacher was basically useless. But in talking to the parents of the kids who are "gifted" they thought she was great.

The spin and the reality of FCPS are very different. Some parents catch on quick, others it takes a while, and some never do. It's just not anywhere near as good a school system as they purport it to be. Nothing in it - the teaching, administration, even transportation stands up to close scrutiny. Everyone is so bought in to the concept of 'world class' schools that very few want to acknowledge its decline. I don't know what it was 20 or 30 years ago, but it is not a very good system anymore.

Unfortunately, this is true. It's not world class. It's not even very good. I don't fault the teachers - there are some amazing teachers, but they are amazing in spite of the administration and the school system and not because of it. I think the biggest problem is the administration. From central on down, administrators tend to be the least qualified people to do those jobs, and the people hired tend to be politicians and bullies instead of people with actual leadership skills. There is little accountability for anything that matters. FCPS is overly focused on testing and is extremely bureaucratic and politically motivated. I have been both a teacher and a parent, and that has been my observation in both capacities. I have relatives in schools in another state, and the quality of the education they are getting is miles above what we are getting in every way.

95% of the people who post like this just handle the fact that there are so many bright kids in FCPS and that theirs are about average. They tend to say positive things about systems with more "average" kids, where they think their kids would be higher on the curve.

...and I hope that when these "bright FCPS" kids go to college they can handle the fact that they are just average compared to their classmates from other parts of the country.

I used to teach in a college that a lot of fcps kids go to. It was hilarious to see their little entitled faces when they got a "B." Because their work was B level, and it turned out that all those years of being called "gifted" just meant they did their homework and could follow directions. But when they actually had to use their brains, they couldn't, and couldn't accept that maybe their best work was just....average.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you are going down the path to private school. It kills me to be paying for private school, but by the time FCPS gets done paying and staffing everything else that they do, from AAP to ESOL, the 'average' student just doesn't get that much from FCPS. Took me through ES to figure that out - I regret every minute my kids were in FCPS.

Op here. I was just talking to DH about private school. Don't think Mclean will be any better for my child. We will see how things go. I feel we will be visiting Burgundy, Browne and SSSA.

Good call. Private school is cheaper than an Arlington or McLean mortgage and if the bubble pops, you won't be screwed. Plus, if (God forbid) you run into less flush financial times, it is logistically easier to pull a kid from private than it is to keep paying a giant mortgage you're locked into. Emotionally, not easy at all, but logistically? So much less risky.

An extra $200k in mortgage is going to cost you about $1k/mo. Private school is not cheaper than living in a better district.

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My quiet and very shy DD was also invisible. I'd question teacher about her organization, memory, and thinking skills all throughout elementary school EVERY teacher said she was FINE.

I started reading this board and learned about neuropsych evaluations. I had one done for her. It came back that she read on the 12 grade+ reading level but also had significant short term memory issues coupled with executive function deficits.

Shame on the teachers.

OP - keep your ears and eyes open. Call for a meeting with the teacher when you see/feel something isn't right.
At parent teacher conferences, ask HOW the teacher is making sure your child is not invisible and learns to contribute in class. - Ask ad watch them squirm. They never think to give a quiet child that kind of encouragement.

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Anonymous wrote:My quiet and very shy DD was also invisible. I'd question teacher about her organization, memory, and thinking skills all throughout elementary school EVERY teacher said she was FINE.

I started reading this board and learned about neuropsych evaluations. I had one done for her. It came back that she read on the 12 grade+ reading level but also had significant short term memory issues coupled with executive function deficits.

Shame on the teachers.

OP - keep your ears and eyes open. Call for a meeting with the teacher when you see/feel something isn't right.
At parent teacher conferences, ask HOW the teacher is making sure your child is not invisible and learns to contribute in class. - Ask ad watch them squirm. They never think to give a quiet child that kind of encouragement. [/quote

Are you for real PP? No wonder your kid is quiet and shy.

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Anonymous wrote:My 7yo DS is a nice kid, doesn't cause any problems and listens to the teacher. DS's FCPS Alexandria school is 30% free lunch/ESOL. He has 27 kids in his class. DS is a bright kid but probably not gifted. I feel like he is completely ignored in his class. I don't know if this is unique to his class or school or if it will be the same everywhere for a well behaved non-troublemaker who isn't profoundly gifted.

I don't know if things will change if we move to Arlington or Mclean, deemed better schools. I would like to move to Arlington for closer proximity to work and smaller class sizes. Mclean has nicer curb appeal but I believe class sizes are even bigger.

What does the 30% free lunch and ESOL have to do with him? So you are saying because the school is 30% Hispanic or poor (in your post you seem to conflate the two) your child is not made to feel special enough? What do you want them to do? Make him star of the week every week?

I never said they were Hispanic. At our school, the incoming kids are from Arabic and/or N African countries. The Hispanic kids can mostly all speak English even if their parents speak Spanish at home.

Supplement at home like the rest of us then! You didn't answer the question of what you wanted them to do about your admittedly average kid. This is life. He will be an average adult and his supervisors aren't going to promote him just because they spend time on all the disciplinary issues that they need to fire or they spend time developing talent for those that will be promoted quickly. What do you want them to do for your child?

This is overly snarky. Having been in the same situation, it's not that we want our kids to feel special, we want them to actually learn something new and feel challenged. That shouldn't be too much to expect from public school. For my DD first grade was a completely wasted year other than her reading improved a little from practicing at home. Her teacher was basically useless. But in talking to the parents of the kids who are "gifted" they thought she was great.

The spin and the reality of FCPS are very different. Some parents catch on quick, others it takes a while, and some never do. It's just not anywhere near as good a school system as they purport it to be. Nothing in it - the teaching, administration, even transportation stands up to close scrutiny. Everyone is so bought in to the concept of 'world class' schools that very few want to acknowledge its decline. I don't know what it was 20 or 30 years ago, but it is not a very good system anymore.

Unfortunately, this is true. It's not world class. It's not even very good. I don't fault the teachers - there are some amazing teachers, but they are amazing in spite of the administration and the school system and not because of it. I think the biggest problem is the administration. From central on down, administrators tend to be the least qualified people to do those jobs, and the people hired tend to be politicians and bullies instead of people with actual leadership skills. There is little accountability for anything that matters. FCPS is overly focused on testing and is extremely bureaucratic and politically motivated. I have been both a teacher and a parent, and that has been my observation in both capacities. I have relatives in schools in another state, and the quality of the education they are getting is miles above what we are getting in every way.

95% of the people who post like this just handle the fact that there are so many bright kids in FCPS and that theirs are about average. They tend to say positive things about systems with more "average" kids, where they think their kids would be higher on the curve.

...and I hope that when these "bright FCPS" kids go to college they can handle the fact that they are just average compared to their classmates from other parts of the country.

I used to teach in a college that a lot of fcps kids go to. It was hilarious to see their little entitled faces when they got a "B." Because their work was B level, and it turned out that all those years of being called "gifted" just meant they did their homework and could follow directions. But when they actually had to use their brains, they couldn't, and couldn't accept that maybe their best work was just....average.

Maybe if you'd done a better job teaching, and less time scouting their home towns, they would have mastered more of the material. You sound unhinged and resentful, so it's no surprise you are no longer employed by that college.

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I used to teach in a college that a lot of fcps kids go to. It was hilarious to see their little entitled faces when they got a "B." Because their work was B level, and it turned out that all those years of being called "gifted" just meant they did their homework and could follow directions. But when they actually had to use their brains, they couldn't, and couldn't accept that maybe their best work was just....average.

It's because of your stupid curriculum.

My DD gets a B in stupid Common Core tests because she didn't draw the dots and lines the proper way. Yet she scores in the 80th percentile nationwide on STAR tests.

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FWIW, my DD has 19 kids in the class and I don't think she gets a lot of attention from the teacher.

Frankly, I don't think anybody gets much attention from the teacher unless they're failing. I don't think schools in US give much individual attention.

I supplement at home and that's the only reason my kid is doing well.

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My advice to the OP is to get outside testing done.

How do you test for that?

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Anonymous wrote:My 7yo DS is a nice kid, doesn't cause any problems and listens to the teacher. DS's FCPS Alexandria school is 30% free lunch/ESOL. He has 27 kids in his class. DS is a bright kid but probably not gifted. I feel like he is completely ignored in his class. I don't know if this is unique to his class or school or if it will be the same everywhere for a well behaved non-troublemaker who isn't profoundly gifted.

I don't know if things will change if we move to Arlington or Mclean, deemed better schools. I would like to move to Arlington for closer proximity to work and smaller class sizes. Mclean has nicer curb appeal but I believe class sizes are even bigger.

What does the 30% free lunch and ESOL have to do with him? So you are saying because the school is 30% Hispanic or poor (in your post you seem to conflate the two) your child is not made to feel special enough? What do you want them to do? Make him star of the week every week?

I never said they were Hispanic. At our school, the incoming kids are from Arabic and/or N African countries. The Hispanic kids can mostly all speak English even if their parents speak Spanish at home.

Supplement at home like the rest of us then! You didn't answer the question of what you wanted them to do about your admittedly average kid. This is life. He will be an average adult and his supervisors aren't going to promote him just because they spend time on all the disciplinary issues that they need to fire or they spend time developing talent for those that will be promoted quickly. What do you want them to do for your child?

This is overly snarky. Having been in the same situation, it's not that we want our kids to feel special, we want them to actually learn something new and feel challenged. That shouldn't be too much to expect from public school. For my DD first grade was a completely wasted year other than her reading improved a little from practicing at home. Her teacher was basically useless. But in talking to the parents of the kids who are "gifted" they thought she was great.

The spin and the reality of FCPS are very different. Some parents catch on quick, others it takes a while, and some never do. It's just not anywhere near as good a school system as they purport it to be. Nothing in it - the teaching, administration, even transportation stands up to close scrutiny. Everyone is so bought in to the concept of 'world class' schools that very few want to acknowledge its decline. I don't know what it was 20 or 30 years ago, but it is not a very good system anymore.

Unfortunately, this is true. It's not world class. It's not even very good. I don't fault the teachers - there are some amazing teachers, but they are amazing in spite of the administration and the school system and not because of it. I think the biggest problem is the administration. From central on down, administrators tend to be the least qualified people to do those jobs, and the people hired tend to be politicians and bullies instead of people with actual leadership skills. There is little accountability for anything that matters. FCPS is overly focused on testing and is extremely bureaucratic and politically motivated. I have been both a teacher and a parent, and that has been my observation in both capacities. I have relatives in schools in another state, and the quality of the education they are getting is miles above what we are getting in every way.

95% of the people who post like this just handle the fact that there are so many bright kids in FCPS and that theirs are about average. They tend to say positive things about systems with more "average" kids, where they think their kids would be higher on the curve.

...and I hope that when these "bright FCPS" kids go to college they can handle the fact that they are just average compared to their classmates from other parts of the country.

I used to teach in a college that a lot of fcps kids go to. It was hilarious to see their little entitled faces when they got a "B." Because their work was B level, and it turned out that all those years of being called "gifted" just meant they did their homework and could follow directions. But when they actually had to use their brains, they couldn't, and couldn't accept that maybe their best work was just....average.

It is easy to understand why you USED TO teach there.

Seriously. What kind of an educator sits back and laughs at something like that? Good grief.

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Anonymous wrote:My quiet and very shy DD was also invisible. I'd question teacher about her organization, memory, and thinking skills all throughout elementary school EVERY teacher said she was FINE.

I started reading this board and learned about neuropsych evaluations. I had one done for her. It came back that she read on the 12 grade+ reading level but also had significant short term memory issues coupled with executive function deficits.

Shame on the teachers.

Shame on YOU for not getting her evaluated earlier if you thought she had a problem based on what you were seeing at home. General education classroom teachers aren't qualified to diagnose such issues, and with 25+ kids in the classroom they don't get the same amount of time to interact with your child as you do.

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Anonymous wrote:My quiet and very shy DD was also invisible. I'd question teacher about her organization, memory, and thinking skills all throughout elementary school EVERY teacher said she was FINE.

I started reading this board and learned about neuropsych evaluations. I had one done for her. It came back that she read on the 12 grade+ reading level but also had significant short term memory issues coupled with executive function deficits.

Shame on the teachers.

Shame on YOU for not getting her evaluated earlier if you thought she had a problem based on what you were seeing at home. General education classroom teachers aren't qualified to diagnose such issues, and with 25+ kids in the classroom they don't get the same amount of time to interact with your child as you do.

+1. You look after your kid - no one else.