Dear Ms. Martin,
Thank you for your post. Just an observation from my husband (who has served in the armed forces) and is also not white, although I get how the stereotype of white pushy parents played into the conversation and do think it is interesting who showed up, I also don't get the rest of the criticism on that here especially because OP said (after being criticized) that her kids are Latino. But since you have worked with predominantly white parents before they should not scare you, although white parents in DC are sometimes a breed apart (pushy, demanding, entitled, and can get ugly).
My husband was trying to find an anonymous way to suggest that you ask people to rise before you sing the National Anthem. The tradition in the absence of a flag (and he actually had to look this up in the US Code because there is a flag on base of course and at every Cub Scout meeting he has ever led and Scout meeting he has ever atttended

) is that you stand, remove hats, place your hand over your heart, and face the person or people who are leading the National Anthem. He felt really awkward sitting through it but I think his race may have played a part in his decision there too. He is much more recognizable than a bunch of white people and did not want to make a scene.
Thanks so much for taking this into consideration. Just coming from the family we do, with military service going back generations, I cannot see my kids sitting through the National Anthem either, because it would feel like a profound lack of respect. My kid half stood up. So before we get there we will bring it up with you privately again, but it is an important part of our national tradition that every kid (and parent! should know)... Imagine being in a situation where they don't say "please rise" and you are still on your duff and you happen to be the last one straggling to your feet and you are one of three Latinos or African Americans in an assembly surrounded by whites! Even non-US citizens stand they just don't put their hands over their hearts or sing (at least I think). You never see anyone remain seated at a baseball game even if they are foreign. So there are many ways this could lead to embarrassment for Wilson kids in the future, and as minorities, we of course are especially concerned about how our kids carry themselves if they ever leave chocolate city which is getting less chocolate day by day (that is a nickname for DC). It made my husband wonder what was wrong with everyone who was there - not just you, he said it was like when someone sees smoke in a theater but because of peer pressure won't move because no one else is moving, and whether this was a Wilson tradition! Obviously since you are a public school it is a tradition that has to be changed to conform to the US Code.
But that was his only criticism except for your mention of possibly divesting OOB kids of automatic feeder rights (which would make sense to us because that was a Michelle Rhee invention in 2009) which we do hope is being considered again. Rhee created the monster six years ago and that made the overcrowding inevitable once the recession hit. The boundaries had been in place for 40 years. Seemed a bit unfair that the boundary revision people lacked the political guts to do what we viewed as the right thing - just undo another awful idea by our former chancellor like they are undoing education campuses and trying to recreate middle schools. Rhee appeared on the front of Time Magazine with a broom and then rode off into the sunset to make tons of money while DC suffered the consequences. Happens a lot here. I think if you had been here during the boundary revision process you would understand how explosive all these issues are and how dangerous it is to speculate on anything of that nature.
And there is no way to be colorblind in Washington DC. You can decide to ignore it under certain circumstances but that does not mean that other people will ever share your common sense. The only people here who can ignore race altogether are the whites who live in the all white neighborhoods and send their kids to private schools and stay off public transportation. You would understand this better if you had grown up here like me. Or had you been here when Melissa Kim (the former beloved Principal at Deal) was appointed and Marion Barry, our former mayor who was caught with a crack pipe and a working woman and did jail time when I went off to college but died a beloved councilman, started a huge protest saying that an Asian could not be principal of Deal because she could not adequately represent or understand the community. And no one stopped him! He basically established his political career on hating white people and made no bones about it. As my husband, moving from NYC said, he has never seen such a racially polarized place in all his life. We really are messed up about race - all of us. And he married and moved into it.
Anyway, thanks for having the guts to come on here and respond and sign your name. That in and of itself is admirable. I assume you don't spend too much time on DCUM and that someone else brought it too your attention. This place is evil. And coming after a very charismatic principal who got fired is extremely difficult. We had a similar situation happen in our church about ten years ago and it was just very tough. I don't mean to say our beloved priest was fired. He died. But it was still tough and awful. So keep your head up and stay strong and just do the best you can and hope that it is good enough and don't expect to finish your dissertation anytime soon because Wilson needs you more and I hope your son and Wilson are your top priorities.
So thanks again and good luck,
future Wilson parent
PS there was a long thread here last year about two AA girls fighting in the hallway while teachers from Wilson just watched that may be where the concern about safety comes from but fights happen everywhere. When I was growing up there was a drive by shooting right by Wilson - I am pretty sure - things have gotten a lot better.