If your 1st grade daughter won the "fashionista" award at school...

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Anonymous wrote:I think that people are generally w-a-y too self important these days. Some kids have a knack for fashion to the point that it is a noticeable talent and a part of their persona. What the heck is wrong with recognizing that talent with a reward?

You can be smart, athletic, beautiful AND a fashionable fashionista...

EXACTLY.

As one who works on the fringe of fashion ans design I can't believe the silliness of these people getting so upset by the idea of a child getting recognized for an interest i or flair for fashion.

It takes a great deal of creativity, artistry, originality and independence to become good at fashion. These are strengths, people. Why not recognize and encourage it? It is not like recognizing strength in this one area means that by default you are recognizing shallowness, selfishness, self centeredness or any number of other flaws. You can be good at fashion and still be smart, kind, and any number of other things.

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Anonymous wrote:I would follow the kid's lead and try and figure out how they took the award. If they see it as praise for their creativity, that's different than if they think the way they dress determines the attention they should get.

as for mom of the blonde girl and those defending her, WOW. I was brunette at that age and VERY, VERY conscious that that made me less pretty than if I'd been blonde. I couldn't even relate to blonde characters or dolls because they seemed so different from me. It's not that anyone ever said or implied that brunette was not pretty, it's that SO MANY images of beauty were blonde. I was not a dumb kid and could easily read between the lines: "your looks are less desirable." I guess the world is still sending that message loud and clear to little girls. What a shame.

I've always been blonde and got lots of comments. When I was in elem wanted brunette hair since I did't want the attention. I still get comments about my hair color at 38yo ... but those are mostly from my hair dresser who usually gets paid lots of money to give people blonde hair.

Both my sons have blonde hair though only my younger son has the very, very blonde hair like mine and I get lots of comments about it (he's 4, so most of the comments are still directed to me). He's also naturally charismatic so that's also part of it. If he were a girl, I'm pretty sure it would be non-stop.

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Id think that she's going to end up like Kim Kardashian.

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Honestly, I think I'd consider transferring my child to a school with uniforms. Catholic school or otherwise...uniforms are a good equalizer and reinforce good behavior and values over fashion. Fashion can and should be fun later in life but not the focus of childhood.

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What would most energetic award mean for a girl in 3 rd grade

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It sounds like the teacher thinks your DD isn’t very smart or kind but at least always looks great. I would not be happy about it.

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Anonymous wrote:What would most energetic award mean for a girl in 3 rd grade

Sounds like a way to give an award to the troublemakers who won’t sit calmly for the lessons.

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Anonymous wrote:I think that people are generally w-a-y too self important these days. Some kids have a knack for fashion to the point that it is a noticeable talent and a part of their persona. What the heck is wrong with recognizing that talent with a reward?

You can be smart, athletic, beautiful AND a fashionable fashionista...

EXACTLY.

As one who works on the fringe of fashion ans design I can't believe the silliness of these people getting so upset by the idea of a child getting recognized for an interest i or flair for fashion.

It takes a great deal of creativity, artistry, originality and independence to become good at fashion. These are strengths, people. Why not recognize and encourage it? It is not like recognizing strength in this one area means that by default you are recognizing shallowness, selfishness, self centeredness or any number of other flaws. You can be good at fashion and still be smart, kind, and any number of other things.

The problem is that in first grade it’s not the child who is “creative, artistic, original and independent”, it’s the mother who is spending way too much money and time dressing her child every day and not enough time on more important things that actually matter.

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My friend's daughter won this award and it was certainly nothing to be embarrassed about and was well deserved (half the awards were just generic things that could've been given to any kid.) They do not buy name brand clothes, but her daughter loves to mix prints, wear silly things, have different hairdos, mismatched socks, wear plastic jewelry or super hero capes from the costume bin, etc. She is very spunky and cute and uses her clothing as a medium for creativity. She does NOT look put together by adult standards. Without further context, there is nothing wrong with this award

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I would think you/daughter spent too much time on outfit selection and over-the-top accessories, backpack, shoes, etc.

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Post is from 2015. Kid probably graduated high school by now.

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Anonymous wrote:What would most energetic award mean for a girl in 3 rd grade

That she will grow up to be someone too bouncy to take a minute and notice that she's responding to a nine-year-old thread?

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Anonymous wrote:Post is from 2015. Kid probably graduated high school by now.

Now I want to know how their elementary school fashion sense played out as they got older.

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Sad to see girls recognized for appearance instead of substance.

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THIS IS AN OLD THREAD.