My Mom is the most annoying person on Facebook ever

[Anonymous]

Just unfollow her and shut up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I should add that she also uses the wall to write very personal notes. P.S. Mom, other people can see this.

My mom threw a fit because I PM'd her and she was convinced that other people could read it.

So just explain it...why can't you do that?

Im wondering how all your mothers became so out of touch with basic technology. This isn't something normalized. Most people are at least FB friendly. What happened in your families where this might have happened? Even 85 year olds can use FB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother wished my DD a happy birthday on facebook and when I told her that she was a day early, she texted me "oops" but on facebook she said "I just wanted to be the first!"

That was a good save, actually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom is also super annoying on FB. She has friended all my friends and likes and comments on all my posts. She also has my son as her profile pic. Not her with my son - just my son.

However she cannot embarrass me because I am an adult. I am friends with other adults who understand that I am not my mother and I am not responsible for her actions. If they are annoyed, they can unfriend or block her - just like I can.

Can you elaborate why this is a problem? I see grandchildren in profile pics all the time.

I'd be willing to bet that if you had a friend who ignored your posts, you'd start to wonder about it. But- you are mad at your mother(?) Is this correct?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. At the very least, can you ask her to not post any pictures of you, old or new, for privacy reasons? The older generation is still working out the novelty of social networking and her fb friends who are her age are probably doing the same thing.

My mother also comments on every post I make with what she thinks is a funny (but it isn't) joke, but she only checks every couple of weeks so she winds up forcing my old posts to the top of the timeline with her embarrassing comments. I cringe but bear it. I know you have it much worse.

+1, except my Mom thinks she's a social networking guru, so there's no way to gently explain to her any sort of etiquette. And she has friended all my friends. *sigh*

We must have the same mom! Mine went back and friended all of my old high school friends, along with some from this area that she has met when visiting here over the years. She constantly comments on their posts as well. The humiliation basically keeps me off Facebook. I haven't posted in six years. I did happen to be on Facebook to check a group page and saw that she had posted a terrible picture of me from high school and I immediately messaged her to take it down. I actually think she does all of these things to get my attention. UGH!!!!!

Why are you humiliated that she's friended your friends?
What is the problem here? It seems like you all are in middle school in some secret club that your parents infiltrated. Why is she not allowed to post?

I see things daily like what you are mentioning..both generations posting, pictures of their parents and their parents posting pictures of them. Thet both comment. Where is the problem?

Are YOU the problem?

NP. It’s pretty cringey for PP’s mom to friend all her old high school friends and comment on their posts all the time. It’s also embarrassing for her to post an terrible old photo of PP on some group page. Not sure what you don’t understand about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You woman are horrible. You do realize that some day your kids will have the same disgust and distain for you.

I'm with you, PP. Sad thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL pretends to be a sweet and loving person on FB. She also likes to present herself as Mother Theresa, letting everyone know about the causes she supports, the 3 times she volunteered in her entire life and of course the dogs she recued. You would never know her kids needed years of therapy to deal with all her verbal and emotional abuse or that she hasn't matured one bit since she was raising her own kids.

Oh and she harassed and shamed my BIL because he refused to "friend" her. He finally gave in and just stopped using FB. She also throws a fit when we don't "like" her post and add loving comments. I closed my account and opened a new one with a name only my friends know.

Ok, may be true, but please realize we all know you aren't gorgeous or sweet, your house isn't great, and neither is your marriage. But I'll bet it looks like that on your insta , amiright?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you get how lucky you are that your mom doesn’t literally post a meme saying how “Christmas is finally back at the White House” with Donald Trump in the Oval Office with JESUS AND SANTA?

I unfriended all Trumpers. Old ones and young ones. It's not about Moms, really.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. At the very least, can you ask her to not post any pictures of you, old or new, for privacy reasons? The older generation is still working out the novelty of social networking and her fb friends who are her age are probably doing the same thing.

My mother also comments on every post I make with what she thinks is a funny (but it isn't) joke, but she only checks every couple of weeks so she winds up forcing my old posts to the top of the timeline with her embarrassing comments. I cringe but bear it. I know you have it much worse.

+1, except my Mom thinks she's a social networking guru, so there's no way to gently explain to her any sort of etiquette. And she has friended all my friends. *sigh*

We must have the same mom! Mine went back and friended all of my old high school friends, along with some from this area that she has met when visiting here over the years. She constantly comments on their posts as well. The humiliation basically keeps me off Facebook. I haven't posted in six years. I did happen to be on Facebook to check a group page and saw that she had posted a terrible picture of me from high school and I immediately messaged her to take it down. I actually think she does all of these things to get my attention. UGH!!!!!

So why can't she friend your old friends? Curious? You don't want her seeing their carefully curated lives and copious baby pictures, etc. Why again?

[Anonymous]

You can also mute her for 30 days.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. At the very least, can you ask her to not post any pictures of you, old or new, for privacy reasons? The older generation is still working out the novelty of social networking and her fb friends who are her age are probably doing the same thing.

My mother also comments on every post I make with what she thinks is a funny (but it isn't) joke, but she only checks every couple of weeks so she winds up forcing my old posts to the top of the timeline with her embarrassing comments. I cringe but bear it. I know you have it much worse.

+1, except my Mom thinks she's a social networking guru, so there's no way to gently explain to her any sort of etiquette. And she has friended all my friends. *sigh*

We must have the same mom! Mine went back and friended all of my old high school friends, along with some from this area that she has met when visiting here over the years. She constantly comments on their posts as well. The humiliation basically keeps me off Facebook. I haven't posted in six years. I did happen to be on Facebook to check a group page and saw that she had posted a terrible picture of me from high school and I immediately messaged her to take it down. I actually think she does all of these things to get my attention. UGH!!!!!

So why can't she friend your old friends? Curious? You don't want her seeing their carefully curated lives and copious baby pictures, etc. Why again?

PP didn’t say she couldn’t friend them. She said it was embarrassing. Which it is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. At the very least, can you ask her to not post any pictures of you, old or new, for privacy reasons? The older generation is still working out the novelty of social networking and her fb friends who are her age are probably doing the same thing.

My mother also comments on every post I make with what she thinks is a funny (but it isn't) joke, but she only checks every couple of weeks so she winds up forcing my old posts to the top of the timeline with her embarrassing comments. I cringe but bear it. I know you have it much worse.

+1, except my Mom thinks she's a social networking guru, so there's no way to gently explain to her any sort of etiquette. And she has friended all my friends. *sigh*

We must have the same mom! Mine went back and friended all of my old high school friends, along with some from this area that she has met when visiting here over the years. She constantly comments on their posts as well. The humiliation basically keeps me off Facebook. I haven't posted in six years. I did happen to be on Facebook to check a group page and saw that she had posted a terrible picture of me from high school and I immediately messaged her to take it down. I actually think she does all of these things to get my attention. UGH!!!!!

Why are you humiliated that she's friended your friends?
What is the problem here? It seems like you all are in middle school in some secret club that your parents infiltrated. Why is she not allowed to post?

I see things daily like what you are mentioning..both generations posting, pictures of their parents and their parents posting pictures of them. Thet both comment. Where is the problem?

Are YOU the problem?

NP. It’s pretty cringey for PP’s mom to friend all her old high school friends and comment on their posts all the time. It’s also embarrassing for her to post an terrible old photo of PP on some group page. Not sure what you don’t understand about that.

Again, why is it cringey? Serious question. They have a FB page. She knows them. They know her. They either accepted her as a friend or friended her- probably a Fzb suggestion that popped up or she saw them and thought " Oh that's Jennifer! I saw her grow up!" . They post pictures or whatever. Is there a demographic boundary around who can like a post? Are you grownups or what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. At the very least, can you ask her to not post any pictures of you, old or new, for privacy reasons? The older generation is still working out the novelty of social networking and her fb friends who are her age are probably doing the same thing.

My mother also comments on every post I make with what she thinks is a funny (but it isn't) joke, but she only checks every couple of weeks so she winds up forcing my old posts to the top of the timeline with her embarrassing comments. I cringe but bear it. I know you have it much worse.

+1, except my Mom thinks she's a social networking guru, so there's no way to gently explain to her any sort of etiquette. And she has friended all my friends. *sigh*

We must have the same mom! Mine went back and friended all of my old high school friends, along with some from this area that she has met when visiting here over the years. She constantly comments on their posts as well. The humiliation basically keeps me off Facebook. I haven't posted in six years. I did happen to be on Facebook to check a group page and saw that she had posted a terrible picture of me from high school and I immediately messaged her to take it down. I actually think she does all of these things to get my attention. UGH!!!!!

So why can't she friend your old friends? Curious? You don't want her seeing their carefully curated lives and copious baby pictures, etc. Why again?

PP didn’t say she couldn’t friend them. She said it was embarrassing. Which it is.

Why? Do you think you are kids and the mothers are the adults?

I mean, if that's the issue, can we help you with this?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. At the very least, can you ask her to not post any pictures of you, old or new, for privacy reasons? The older generation is still working out the novelty of social networking and her fb friends who are her age are probably doing the same thing.

My mother also comments on every post I make with what she thinks is a funny (but it isn't) joke, but she only checks every couple of weeks so she winds up forcing my old posts to the top of the timeline with her embarrassing comments. I cringe but bear it. I know you have it much worse.

+1, except my Mom thinks she's a social networking guru, so there's no way to gently explain to her any sort of etiquette. And she has friended all my friends. *sigh*

We must have the same mom! Mine went back and friended all of my old high school friends, along with some from this area that she has met when visiting here over the years. She constantly comments on their posts as well. The humiliation basically keeps me off Facebook. I haven't posted in six years. I did happen to be on Facebook to check a group page and saw that she had posted a terrible picture of me from high school and I immediately messaged her to take it down. I actually think she does all of these things to get my attention. UGH!!!!!

Why are you humiliated that she's friended your friends?
What is the problem here? It seems like you all are in middle school in some secret club that your parents infiltrated. Why is she not allowed to post?

I see things daily like what you are mentioning..both generations posting, pictures of their parents and their parents posting pictures of them. Thet both comment. Where is the problem?

Are YOU the problem?

NP. It’s pretty cringey for PP’s mom to friend all her old high school friends and comment on their posts all the time. It’s also embarrassing for her to post an terrible old photo of PP on some group page. Not sure what you don’t understand about that.

Again, why is it cringey? Serious question. They have a FB page. She knows them. They know her. They either accepted her as a friend or friended her- probably a Fzb suggestion that popped up or she saw them and thought " Oh that's Jennifer! I saw her grow up!" . They post pictures or whatever. Is there a demographic boundary around who can like a post? Are you grownups or what?

So this topic has obviously triggered you pretty badly, judging by the sheer number of comments you’ve made. I’m guessing you’re an older mom/MIL who does this kind of stuff on FB and you’re feeling kind of defensive about it.

All I can say is, if you don’t get it, you don’t get it. It’s weird to constantly comment on posts of people you essentially only know as a “friend of a friend”, especially from like 20 years ago. You need to dial it back.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you girls, and I'm calling you girls because you all sound like a bunch of whiney middle schoolers, need to learn some stuff:

Learn how to group and customize your followers. Not everyone has to see every post.

Use the unfollow option

Use the unfriend for scary right wing $#!++

If your mom doesn't know a specific terminology, tell her. Don't giggle and revel in her ignorance as she continues to do the annoying thing you just complained about. You are literally awful, 100%

Delete comments you don't like.

Set boundaries about what others, all others, can post of yours. That includes your friends- your Mom shouldn't have different rules, because -why?

Lastly- GROW THE F *** UP. You didn’t invent this. It's not your secret fort. You and other adults share the same life now. You won’t be grounded.

Give your poor Moms a break. This was a really sad post today- I don't have much confidence knowing you might have kids. You are an adult. Keep reminding yourself of that.