gender reveal party --- stupid or fun?

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Anonymous wrote:So stupid. So so so freaking stupid and embarrassing to have a gender reveal party.

+1,000

This sounds like something you want to do when you are in junior high, right up there with riding around on a unicorn, being Miss Universe, or some shit.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:whenever these threads come up, there seems to be a core of people who seem to imagine the worst possible event that they'd hate and then post about how much they'd hate it. Like if I said "I'm having a wedding, how can I make it fun?" they'd say "UGH! SO self-centered of you to have a wedding! With the slide shows of your childhood and the annoying bandleader and the drunken toasts from the best man! Why does anyone ever DO this?"

How many millennia have we been attending weddings? How many years have we been attending gender reveal parties, which, to me, pregnant 33 year old fogey that I am, feels overly intimate, like something that the happy couple should find out together relatively alone (nurses and doctors or an ultrasound tech would be there for most "gender reveals" for example). It's just too "too," like organized cake smash picture sessions.

To be fair, the modern wedding extravaganza for anyone but royalty or aristocracy is probably a relatively recent phenomenon as well. I guess the point is, if you think it's creepy, boring, or unpleasant in any way; don't attend. Several people have stated they don't like these. A few others that they don't care either way. And a couple that they enjoy them. So OP, make your decision based on that. I personally have only been to a gender reveal shower, which made the shower a little more interesting. (I generally don't find showers that much fun including my own, though I will say my sister worked hard on a really relevant theme and related decor/games for mine. I think it was more fun than your typical shower.) I don't know what I would think of a gender reveal party. Probably depends on the hosts, group of friends, and exactly how it was organized (i.e. two hours of focus on guess the gender games, or just a subtle theme in the background with a few minutes spent actually revealing the gender). FWIW, though, it seems to me to be more of something someone else would host for the couple than something they would do themselves.

The extravaganza level may be new, but even the common people have celebrated weddings for many, many years.

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I'll admit I kind of judge people who have these and assume they are kind of narcissistic. I'm not even sure why, because it IS exciting to find out if one's baby is a boy or girl and to share that with family and friends, so I don't know why it would matter how it's done. I had one friend tell me that she had a party like this and her older child started crying when the sex was announced because he wanted a brother and it was a sister. I guess assuming everyone at the party will be equally supportive of boy or girl and no one (including parents) will be upset if it's one or the other, there's no harm done. I kind of like the idea though that PPs gave, of not labeling it a "gender reveal" party but just having a general party and then including it briefly at the end or something.

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I love a good party. I don't love baby shower games and sitting around for an hour watching someone else open gifts.

If you are feeling up to throwing a party, awesome. If you want to have cupcakes that are secretly pink inside, you go on with your bad self. Do not expect someone else to throw it for you, do not expect gifts, do not expect to be catered to (rather, expect to be the hostess and make an effort to see that your guests are having a good time).

And we'll all have a blast because we love you and are happy for you and we're surrounded by other friends and good food and hootch. Just like if it were a party of the non-gender-reveal variety.

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Anonymous wrote:thanks! 15:45 --- we're definitely thinking along these lines if we do it. plenty of booze, good eats, maybe one game and some sort of reveal. and close family and a handful of extremely close friends --- all of whom will be told not to bring gifts (would stipulate in invite) and not to feel obligated to attend....

A game? Just say no!

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe people would actually not go if it's someone you're close enough to to warrant an invite. Sure it's cheesy, but you guys are serious assholes.

Sincerely,
Wouldn't do it myself but would happily support someone I'm close to if that's what they wanted

So between you (you have to go if you're invited or you're a big giant asshole!) and the other PPs (don't go if it ruffles your feather so much you big giant assholes!), what shall we do? What a useless catch-22.

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I'm a few weeks after you, and still feeling protective of my pregnancy. So, no, I'd not throw a party at that stage.

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People would definitely make fun of you and complain behind your back if you do this

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So OP, what did you decide? Are we doing this or what?!

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My main objection is that is is just another example of how EVERYTHING has to be celebrated 100 different ways these days. Multiple engagement parties and bridal showers, batchelorette weekends in Vegas, destination weddings, multiple baby showers, and now gender reveal parties? Make it stop!

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You should get the ultrasound tech to write it down and out it in an envelope. Then go to dinner with your husband and open it during dessert. Nice, lovely way to find out. And the 2 people who really care will get to experience it. The others don't have to roll their eyes

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Anonymous wrote:very Duggar-ish. I vote stupid.

It is! Hope you don't grow a mom mullet!

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Super stupid.

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Anonymous wrote:I promise that no one cares but you and possibly your parents. Please don't' invite your friends to a gender reveal party.

Agree

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Narcissistic