gender reveal party --- stupid or fun?

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Anonymous wrote:Really stupid. Do you think people care that much about the gender of your baby? I know people ask you all the time if it's a boy or a girl, but all you have to do is tell them once you find out. You're already going to be the center of attention at your shower, and again on the day the baby is born...that's enough! If you must, just invite your parents.

You don't need a happy occasion to have a party. Just invite everybody over for a bbq. If people ask, and they will, tell them the gender. But don't make everybody stand around waiting for the announcement. And egads, don't ask people to take sides!

Ok, I'm overreacting, I know. Sorry. I would not attend a gender reveal party. If I felt obliged, I would plaster on a fake smile and endure I guess.

....Said by someone who has ZERO kids. Center of attention on the day of the birth? Seriously.
On the day of my child's birth, I looked like I'd just survived a very long car wreck. The only person who was paying attention, the only person who I WANTED paying attention to me, was the postpartum nurse and my husband. And of the few people (grandparents) that were invited to the hospital on the day of my child's birth? I can assure you they were not paying attention to me but rather to the newest person in the room. All of which is completely fine, just needed to point out the stupidity of this statement. Giving birth is not akin to walking down the aisle on your wedding day.

I have one kid actually.

Yup, I was the center of attention on the day of my child's birth. Every mother is. I too looked like a mess, but people still payed attention to me. I received flowers and cards and a flood of phone calls and texts. The nurses and Lactation consultant checked on my well-being frequently. They brought me special food from the hospital cafe because the cafeteria food was gross. Visitors hugged and kissed me and also of course went nuts over the baby. It's really odd that you didn't feel the least bit special for having just brought a new human into the world; and/or it's odd that nobody made you feel like you just did something really difficult and important.

It's not that difficult. But then again I am a trooper.
People have been doing it for thousands of years. Even mentally and physically handicapped people can do it.

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Stupid

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Stupid, pathetic and needy

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Anonymous wrote:We had a get together with friends this summer "Burgers and Pies + a Surprise". It was a laid back backyard grill-fest and we had people drink from either pink or blue solo cups and then announced it after we ate, before we dug into the pies. It was pretty low-key but our friends all seemed to have a good time. We're the first in our group to have a baby, so it's kind of new for all of us!

Generally, i would say stupid, but This actually sounds fun. I imagine you could start to take bets once people had a few beers in them.

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Sounds like a good excuse for a party to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Really stupid. Do you think people care that much about the gender of your baby? I know people ask you all the time if it's a boy or a girl, but all you have to do is tell them once you find out. You're already going to be the center of attention at your shower, and again on the day the baby is born...that's enough! If you must, just invite your parents.

You don't need a happy occasion to have a party. Just invite everybody over for a bbq. If people ask, and they will, tell them the gender. But don't make everybody stand around waiting for the announcement. And egads, don't ask people to take sides!

Ok, I'm overreacting, I know. Sorry. I would not attend a gender reveal party. If I felt obliged, I would plaster on a fake smile and endure I guess.

....Said by someone who has ZERO kids. Center of attention on the day of the birth? Seriously.
On the day of my child's birth, I looked like I'd just survived a very long car wreck. The only person who was paying attention, the only person who I WANTED paying attention to me, was the postpartum nurse and my husband. And of the few people (grandparents) that were invited to the hospital on the day of my child's birth? I can assure you they were not paying attention to me but rather to the newest person in the room. All of which is completely fine, just needed to point out the stupidity of this statement. Giving birth is not akin to walking down the aisle on your wedding day.

I have one kid actually.

Yup, I was the center of attention on the day of my child's birth. Every mother is. I too looked like a mess, but people still payed attention to me. I received flowers and cards and a flood of phone calls and texts. The nurses and Lactation consultant checked on my well-being frequently. They brought me special food from the hospital cafe because the cafeteria food was gross. Visitors hugged and kissed me and also of course went nuts over the baby. It's really odd that you didn't feel the least bit special for having just brought a new human into the world; and/or it's odd that nobody made you feel like you just did something really difficult and important.

It's not that difficult. But then again I am a trooper.
People have been doing it for thousands of years. Even mentally and physically handicapped people can do it.

Sorry nobody likes you. Nurses, family and friends USUALLY show a lot of care and well-wishes for women who just gave birth (even the troopers), so it seems sad that you have nobody. But I guess you get what you give (although I find it hard to believe you've never once contacted a friend after she gave birth to say "how are you doing?".) I'm betting either you don't have any friends or family...or they all think you're cold-hearted for never having congratulated one of them for having a baby.

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The sort that are like mini baby showers with gifts expected, themed decor & games are awful. No one cares as much as immediate family & some of the closest friends.

My husband & I are moving into our new place in mid Jan, followed by a 17w scan. We will have a casual housewarming at the end of the month. We will tell our nearest and dearest if we know by then. Had we not planned a move & if the baby doesn't want to show their goods by then, we'll just tell our loved ones in person at whatever social occasion we'd see them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really stupid. Do you think people care that much about the gender of your baby? I know people ask you all the time if it's a boy or a girl, but all you have to do is tell them once you find out. You're already going to be the center of attention at your shower, and again on the day the baby is born...that's enough! If you must, just invite your parents.

You don't need a happy occasion to have a party. Just invite everybody over for a bbq. If people ask, and they will, tell them the gender. But don't make everybody stand around waiting for the announcement. And egads, don't ask people to take sides!

Ok, I'm overreacting, I know. Sorry. I would not attend a gender reveal party. If I felt obliged, I would plaster on a fake smile and endure I guess.

....Said by someone who has ZERO kids. Center of attention on the day of the birth? Seriously.
On the day of my child's birth, I looked like I'd just survived a very long car wreck. The only person who was paying attention, the only person who I WANTED paying attention to me, was the postpartum nurse and my husband. And of the few people (grandparents) that were invited to the hospital on the day of my child's birth? I can assure you they were not paying attention to me but rather to the newest person in the room. All of which is completely fine, just needed to point out the stupidity of this statement. Giving birth is not akin to walking down the aisle on your wedding day.

I have one kid actually.

Yup, I was the center of attention on the day of my child's birth. Every mother is. I too looked like a mess, but people still payed attention to me. I received flowers and cards and a flood of phone calls and texts. The nurses and Lactation consultant checked on my well-being frequently. They brought me special food from the hospital cafe because the cafeteria food was gross. Visitors hugged and kissed me and also of course went nuts over the baby. It's really odd that you didn't feel the least bit special for having just brought a new human into the world; and/or it's odd that nobody made you feel like you just did something really difficult and important.

It's not that difficult. But then again I am a trooper.
People have been doing it for thousands of years. Even mentally and physically handicapped people can do it.

Sorry nobody likes you. Nurses, family and friends USUALLY show a lot of care and well-wishes for women who just gave birth (even the troopers), so it seems sad that you have nobody. But I guess you get what you give (although I find it hard to believe you've never once contacted a friend after she gave birth to say "how are you doing?".) I'm betting either you don't have any friends or family...or they all think you're cold-hearted for never having congratulated one of them for having a baby.

New poster here. Some of us wish we had loving and supportive family and friends but we just don't. I'm about to give birth any day now (FTM), and DH and I will not have any visitors (not by choice). Our families live thousands of miles away and will fly out after the birth at some point to meet the baby but it's too difficult and expensive for them to get tickets right away. And we're newish to the area so no close friends who would be interested in visiting. It would be lovely to receive cards/flowers after giving birth but I don't expect we'll get any of those, nor will anyone be dropping by to bring by a meal. It's sad and depressing for me but some people just don't have family/friends who show their love and support. I would have enjoyed having a baby shower too but no one offered to host one for me. I guess I could have had a gender reveal party but my guest list would have been like 3 people.

[Anonymous]

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New poster here. Some of us wish we had loving and supportive family and friends but we just don't. I'm about to give birth any day now (FTM), and DH and I will not have any visitors (not by choice). Our families live thousands of miles away and will fly out after the birth at some point to meet the baby but it's too difficult and expensive for them to get tickets right away. And we're newish to the area so no close friends who would be interested in visiting. It would be lovely to receive cards/flowers after giving birth but I don't expect we'll get any of those, nor will anyone be dropping by to bring by a meal. It's sad and depressing for me but some people just don't have family/friends who show their love and support. I would have enjoyed having a baby shower too but no one offered to host one for me. I guess I could have had a gender reveal party but my guest list would have been like 3 people.

I'm sorry for your situation, ours is similar. Though family would fly in, we just asked them not to (since my mom can be a stress stirrer).

I don't think the post you're responding to is meant to say that anyone who won't have many people to share their birth with is a terrible person. It's responding to someone who had nasty things to say about about anyone who wanted that.

[Anonymous]

My sister had one back home(NOLA). I personally think it's stupid but she wanted it so why not? I will say my niece was not happy she is getting a brother! She cried when she saw the cake was blue! My sister was mortified!

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Anonymous wrote:My sister had one back home(NOLA). I personally think it's stupid but she wanted it so why not? I will say my niece was not happy she is getting a brother! She cried when she saw the cake was blue! My sister was mortified!

Your sister obviously has a very fragile, needy ego. Sorry your little niece didn't behave perfectly in front of mommy's friends.