I have the body most women would die for: 5'4 107 pds but I'm still self conscious..ask me anything

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Anonymous wrote:Agreed with the PP. I'm as self-conscious as anyone, but I just head to come on when I read that title. I'm sure OP looks great and I too have hang ups even though I'm thin, but I do have to admit that my first thought was "wait I'm supposed to want to die to be shorter, less curvy, and flatter?" also, OP said she's 26. Woop de do. How many kids does she have? If this was someone in their 40s who had kids and still looks great, then we'd be talking.

5'8", 135, 32C, two kids by the way - and I too have horrendous body image

Really? What's not to like?

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Anonymous wrote:Agreed with the PP. I'm as self-conscious as anyone, but I just head to come on when I read that title. I'm sure OP looks great and I too have hang ups even though I'm thin, but I do have to admit that my first thought was "wait I'm supposed to want to die to be shorter, less curvy, and flatter?" also, OP said she's 26. Woop de do. How many kids does she have? If this was someone in their 40s who had kids and still looks great, then we'd be talking.

5'8", 135, 32C, two kids by the way - and I too have horrendous body image

Really? What's not to like?

Thanks, PP. That's nice to hear. I rationally think I do look pretty good, but of course numbers don't tell the whole story either. Someone previously mentioned how brutal high school can be for tall girls and I definitely felt that (even though I'm not even super tall). It always seemed like high school boys like girls that are OP's size. I always felt like I was just bigger than everyone else. My feet are bigger (size 9) and my hands seem bigger (again, like a PP said). Again, rationally, duh - I am a bigger person than OP is, but I'm very proportionate. But it's still hard to not compare. I'm not as toned as I'd like to be. I used to go to the gym daily pre-kids, now I'm lucky to go twice a week. I'm a C-cup, but after having been pregnant twice, they're not perky. And stupid things - like I think I have a long torso, so my legs are shorter than they should be for my height (not that anyone has ever ever said anything even close to that to me, it's totally in my head). My husband's girlfriends were all in the 5'4" range before me, so I feel like he likes shorter women than me, which also bugs me.

So yes, for a mid-30s mom of two, I have a great body. Clothes fit me well and trends usually look good on me. But I have weird body image things like anyone else.

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guy here, I think 5'4 and 107 lean lbs with a nice butt sounds PERFECT.

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Lovin' my 36Cs...thanks OP!

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5' 4" looks taller when you're slim and you wear the right clothes, or wear heels, and a smaller bust looks proportional and natural on that height and body frame. If OP had titled the post differently, would she be getting this level of vitriol?

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Anonymous wrote:5' 4" looks taller when you're slim and you wear the right clothes, or wear heels, and a smaller bust looks proportional and natural on that height and body frame. If OP had titled the post differently, would she be getting this level of vitriol?

It's because of the title she wrote that she's getting slammed.

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Anonymous wrote:5' 4" looks taller when you're slim and you wear the right clothes, or wear heels, and a smaller bust looks proportional and natural on that height and body frame. If OP had titled the post differently, would she be getting this level of vitriol?

I think many have said that no, she would absolutely not be getting this much crap had she phrased the title differently. It's off-putting and immediately makes everyone want to explain why no, they would not die for her body. Let's move on and have a discussion per her original intent.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I cannot believe how mean these people are about shorter women.

I'm the 5'0'' poster. I'm a long time DCUM reader and I feel like this thread is one of the worst. I mean, I'm glad so many women "seem" to have such great self-esteem about their own figures, but really everyone is just pointing out the inferiority of other people's bodies to the glorification of their own. That's got to be a new low. I'd feel better about it if I knew that this thread was being kept alive by middle and high school students, but I have a feeling that the adults are doing it all by themselves.

Actually, I think it's 100% bought on by OP's title. In DCUMland, you can't start anything with "I have _______ most women would die for" and not expect a firestorm.

I agree that the OP framed her title post badly and I certainly don't have much sympathy for her, but other people's responses have been worse.

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Anonymous wrote:Forget the weight, I would hate to be so short

'll keep my 5'9 size six

Also, 5'9" and size 6, and I had the same reaction! I would hate to be so short!

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You don't sound self conscious at all. Anyone that thinks most women would die for her body has a more than healthy confidence level in my opinion.

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Anonymous wrote:I am the 5'1 poster, and I know this height is not for everyone. I on the other hand LOVE it. I can wear 4-5in heels and still fit right in the crook of my man's arm. It works for me!

what are you, 2? why would you want to fit in the crook of anyone's arms?

Because it is comfortable!

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I'm the PP who is 5'8" and I have to say that there have been times in my life that I've wished I was shorter. That said, the women I see around who I think are the most beautiful are pretty consistently tall and thin. It depends on what you're going for I guess. Want to do better professionally? You probably want to be taller. Want to be cute and feminine? Maybe you want to be shorter. Want to have the most dating options? You probably want to be shorter. Want to be able to wear the latest trends? You probably want to be taller and slim. Etc.

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This is such a stupid thread. You can look good or bad at any height. Plenty of gorgeous celebrities are 5'4" and have B cups.

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5'4". 125lbs. 30+lbs less than I was in college when I hated my body! It held me back from pursuing a career and many other things. Now I at a weight I would have killed for back then, maintaining with little effort! Lucky me- yet I still have days I feel fat, still loathe my thick legs and stretch marks. I think what OP is saying is that many woman wish they were an ideal size (thin, proportioned) but society and the media will probably always make it hard to achieve in our minds.

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Anonymous wrote:I think what OP is saying is that many woman wish they were an ideal size (thin, proportioned) but society and the media will probably always make it hard to achieve in our minds.

No need to guess; this is what OP actually said:

OP here, I am 26. I didn't mean for it to come out as cocky. But can see,how it does. What I really mean to say is, I'm skinny but still feel self-conscious.
Why? Because I honestly wish I had curves on me. My body is very proportionate for my size. I feel like it makes me look younger thanka I am and I get angry stares when I am with my two year old, like I'm too young to have her.