so sick of the gloating

[Anonymous]

As a private school parent, I'm ashamed by 15:04 and 16:48. We aren't all this shallow and nasty. These are really horrible posts. I hope it's the same person, not two different private school moms.

[Anonymous]

I agree with you 21:03. As a dual private/public parent these reads are the worst and don't represent any of the many public and private school familes I know, and we are DCPS and WIS. Lots of anger out there!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I like this:

I have an idea. Why don't I assume that you are an intelligent and thoughtful person who chose your child's school based on what is best for your child and family. And that you are neither duped nor swayed by superficial concerns. Then, perhaps you could assume the same of me.

As a private school parent, I'm happy to follow this attitude for other families at both private and public schools. Are the public school parents posting here willing to adopt the same stance?

Sure! Actually, if someone were to give me a full scholarship (or if we weren't able to take advantage of a great, diverse public school) I'd be right there standing in the courtyard of Hogwarts with you, listening to Professor McGonagall tell me what a uniquely talented child my DS is.

Glad to hear it! And if I couldn't afford to swing private school tuition, my children would be standing shoulder-to-shoulder with yours in a trailer of 40 other kids, sharing pencils because of budget cutbacks, riding the bus for over an hour each day, and hoping not to get stabbed in the lunch line!

(We're both just joking, right? )

I don't know which is worse...learning to defend yourself in public, or graduating from private a druggie or alcoholic! just joking, right I am really joking, but you can find extremes at the end of both spectrums! It's a personal choice, and it most definitely dependI on the neighborhood schools, and the financial situation. I happen to live in-boundary for Janney (public school), so even though I can afford private, I am more than satisfied with the school curriculum. We do plan to attend private for middle/high school. There is no right or wrong, just do whatever is best for your child...

[Anonymous]

glad the wine chilled you out

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't presume to believe that any of the authors of these posts are who they say they are. I've never met anybody who thinks like any of these supposed "moms."

Just think how easy it is to stir the pot on an anonymous blog. Just say you are anybody on either and/or both sides of an issue and write down the most outrageous thing you can think of, calling upon every worn-out stereotype that you can think of.

Reminds me of the prank phone calls of yesteryear.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I do think there are a lot of fakers here. But would a public school mom write such vitriol about public schools? That's what makes me think these really are awful private school moms.

[Anonymous]

I'm 16:48 checking in again on my post of yesterday afternoon. Boy did that get misunderstood! I can't speak for the public school Hogworts poster, but I really was just joking. And that's precisely why I made the joke, to give Hogworts the benefit of the doubt and play along with her.

In fact, I'm hard pressed to see how anyone could see my post as anything but a joke since I even said it was a joke, and included the little a little smiley face to be sure! Also ... "getting stabbed in the lunch line"?!? There may be things I don't like about my local public option, but getting stabbed in the Rosemary Hills lunchroom isn't one of them. My other ridiculous option was going to be "huffing model airplane glue behind the gym," but that seemed dated. You all need to calm down and consider that not everyone is in attack mode all the time.

I'm sorry if I confused anyone. I hope we can end this silliness. I stand by my original post that we should agree to this mantra ...

Why don't I assume that you are an intelligent and thoughtful person who chose your child's school based on what is best for your child and family. And that you are neither duped nor swayed by superficial concerns. Then, perhaps you could assume the same of me.

I already subscribed to it once. Now will all of you agree to follow it, without including any "joking jabs" at other schools?

[Anonymous]

While I'm with you on the "let's start from the assumption that people are intelligent/rational/making thoughtful decisions about school choice" approach, I think that the real problem here (this thread? DCUM?) is more about whether one person's intelligent/rational/thoughtful choice is somehow an inherent critique of another's and/or if the reasoning behind that choice is presented it represents a form of boasting or gloating. And perhaps the assumption that one is always speaking for or about public or private school parents as a whole. When, in fact, I suspect that IRL few of us view the world in those terms. Both because exit/enter both systems at different times or with different kids and because while each of us might distinguish between parents of our DC's classmates and parents whose kids go to school elsewhere, none of us assumes some kind of inherent bond with any parent whose kids go to a different school of the same type (public, private).

I guess I'd also add that, for me, the presumption of intelligence and rationality is certainly a rebuttable one. And that is often effectively rebutted in a single post here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:... I think that the real problem here (this thread? DCUM?) is more about whether one person's intelligent/rational/thoughtful choice is somehow an inherent critique of another's and/or if the reasoning behind that choice is presented it represents a form of boasting or gloating. ....

9:30 again. I completely agree with you that the point above is a critical problem. A perfect example that often arises is when someone assumes that a bumper sticker on someone else's car is a form of bragging/gloating. I find that utterly ridiculous. The answer is that each individual person should make the best choice for herself, and give the same credit to everyone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I like this:

I have an idea. Why don't I assume that you are an intelligent and thoughtful person who chose your child's school based on what is best for your child and family. And that you are neither duped nor swayed by superficial concerns. Then, perhaps you could assume the same of me.

As a private school parent, I'm happy to follow this attitude for other families at both private and public schools. Are the public school parents posting here willing to adopt the same stance?

Sure! Actually, if someone were to give me a full scholarship (or if we weren't able to take advantage of a great, diverse public school) I'd be right there standing in the courtyard of Hogwarts with you, listening to Professor McGonagall tell me what a uniquely talented child my DS is.

Glad to hear it! And if I couldn't afford to swing private school tuition, my children would be standing shoulder-to-shoulder with yours in a trailer of 40 other kids, sharing pencils because of budget cutbacks, riding the bus for over an hour each day, and hoping not to get stabbed in the lunch line!

(We're both just joking, right? )

Fortunately my kid's in DCPS, so he's in a small class in a newly renovated building a half-block from our house. As far as the budget cutbacks go, you'd be surprised how many school supplies involved parents can purchase with the extra $30k dollars a year they save on tuition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 16:48 checking in again on my post of yesterday afternoon. Boy did that get misunderstood! I can't speak for the public school Hogworts poster, but I really was just joking. And that's precisely why I made the joke, to give Hogworts the benefit of the doubt and play along with her.

In fact, I'm hard pressed to see how anyone could see my post as anything but a joke since I even said it was a joke, and included the little a little smiley face to be sure! Also ... "getting stabbed in the lunch line"?!? There may be things I don't like about my local public option, but getting stabbed in the Rosemary Hills lunchroom isn't one of them. My other ridiculous option was going to be "huffing model airplane glue behind the gym," but that seemed dated. You all need to calm down and consider that not everyone is in attack mode all the time.

I'm sorry if I confused anyone. I hope we can end this silliness. I stand by my original post that we should agree to this mantra ...

Why don't I assume that you are an intelligent and thoughtful person who chose your child's school based on what is best for your child and family. And that you are neither duped nor swayed by superficial concerns. Then, perhaps you could assume the same of me.

I already subscribed to it once. Now will all of you agree to follow it, without including any "joking jabs" at other schools?

Hogwarts Mom here: I took your comment in the spirit it was offered. I think some PPs are just a bit worked up about the end of the school year. Hope everyone gets to spend lots of time with your kids over the next couple of months. Enjoy it; they grow up way too fast.

[Anonymous]

Fortunately my kid's in DCPS, so he's in a small class in a newly renovated building a half-block from our house. As far as the budget cutbacks go, you'd be surprised how many school supplies involved parents can purchase with the extra $30k dollars a year they save on tuition.




Unfortunately, the differences between pubic and private go far beyond facilities and school supplies. Even if allowed, your extra $30k thrown at DCPS wouldn't purchase the 1:12 ratio, 4 days a week of art/music/drama, 3-4 days/week of foreign language, 4 days of p.e., and fewer disruptive peers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Fortunately my kid's in DCPS, so he's in a small class in a newly renovated building a half-block from our house. As far as the budget cutbacks go, you'd be surprised how many school supplies involved parents can purchase with the extra $30k dollars a year they save on tuition.

Unfortunately, the differences between pubic and private go far beyond facilities and school supplies. Even if allowed, your extra $30k thrown at DCPS wouldn't purchase the 1:12 ratio, 4 days a week of art/music/drama, 3-4 days/week of foreign language, 4 days of p.e., and fewer disruptive peers.

Troll. Same for the "gotcha" poster (let me call you fat/tell you your schools are bad, then complain that you didn't get my "joke").

[Anonymous]

"Unfortunately, the differences between pubic and private go far beyond facilities and school supplies. Even if allowed, your extra $30k thrown at DCPS wouldn't purchase the 1:12 ratio, 4 days a week of art/music/drama, 3-4 days/week of foreign language, 4 days of p.e., and fewer disruptive peers."

Yes, this is what you pay for, and it's not gloating. It's facts. For our family, that short walk to DCPS was right at the time. I was as self-satisfied as 11:22 for years, and still am, for that time, because we saved a bundle and our kids are competitive with kids who attended private all along.

Really it should be two separate conversations, one for pre-k/k through about grade 5, which is where families are move divided on the private vs. public. It's a different ball game entirely for MS and HS, and families are more understanding of individual choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not to start a firestorm here but I am getting really tired of the public school parents in my neighborhood who feel it is appropriate to gloat to me that they have so many more school days than the privates. I can't tell you how many times I have heard the "I guess you get what you pay for (har de har har)" line or the "I don't know how you can stand having your kids at home for so long?" routine.

I love the fact that my kids and our entire family have more time to relax. And they continue to learn throughout the summer even if they aren't in school. Sure, if the school year were longer, they might learn even more, but to what end? They're doing fine.