Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
There is no argument, just your opinion which is, an opinion, and one that I couldn't disagree more with. As the parent of two high achieving, college bound teens, my kids are involved in sports, voluneering, and of course studying. We are their parents and we are there for them, but there is plenty of time for both my husband and I to pursue careers, get a healthy, homemade meal on the table that we all share every night, and be involved in their school, education, and other aspects of their life. I supposse you are planning on having your kids live with you in college (if they are college bound)?
And sorry, it's hard to breast feed your kids if they are in daycare. I have NOTHING against parents working when their kids are young and no issue with high quality care in the infant and toddler years, but there are some things that a provider can't do that a mom can. Not to mention, economically it makes more sense to not pay for infant daycare if you have the choice and desire to stay home. Stats wise, there are a lot more moms home in the early years than in the teen or elem. school years, no doubt because if my children will be out of the home between 30-40 hours anyway, I might as we well be earning a living.
You seem to have completely misinterpreted what I have said. I never said that there wasn't time for both parents to have fulfilling careers. I merely think that teenagers need their own parents - not surrogates - more than toddlers do. Any loving caregiver can take excellent care of a preschooler - whether the child is breastfed or not.
I am glad that your kids are doing well. My mom worked, and I never got into drugs or premarital sex (helped no doubt my my strict Catholic upbringing). But there are many factors that go into whether teens get into trouble. And statistically, risky behaviors are far more likely among teenagers who are unsupervised. I responded initially to the person who said that the most crucial time for parental care-taking is when your child is 1-3. I - and, in fact, several other posters on this thread - disagree with that reasoning, and gave many reasons why. Your anecdotal refutation of our position is interesting, but hardly incontrovertible authority. You can disagree as much as you like, but your defensiveness about differing opinions is rather bizarre.
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