Do you want your kids to get married?

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Anonymous wrote:One is married. His wife’s mental health is the third partner. They will never have kids. They can’t do a lot of things that other 30 something couples do.

One might get engaged this year.

The two youngest are ambivalent to disinterested in marriage.

this sounds cold and uncaring, I hope you didn't mean it in that tone.

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Anonymous wrote:No, but they probably will. I will remind them the hell I went through and how unnecessary it is.
I will also remind them that they don't need to have kids.

What a horrible thing to hear from your mother.

Why is this horrible? They need to know they have a choice and it is 100% up to them.

Your experience is not necessarily their experience. Just b/c your marriage was bad, you shouldn't try and ruin the concept for them.

I had a parent who was like the original PP. always would byatch and moan about how much work kids were, blah blah. Interestingly she would also use the “who would want to marry you if you don’t do X or do Y badly” argument, go figure.
I needed therapy to pluck up my courage to have kids. Both my brother and I are pretty good parents and we never regretted having kids. It’s not hell for us like it was for our mentally ill parent.
Parents should NOT take out their life frustrations on their kids and fill them with their fears!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One is married. His wife’s mental health is the third partner. They will never have kids. They can’t do a lot of things that other 30 something couples do.

One might get engaged this year.

The two youngest are ambivalent to disinterested in marriage.

this sounds cold and uncaring, I hope you didn't mean it in that tone.

Not PP but this is one of my fears, than my kid ruins their life next to a mentally ill person. I had a mentally ill mother (manifested after she had kids) and knowingly marrying a mentally ill person is ruining one’s life.

[Anonymous]

My happiness and fulfillment are not tied in any way to my children’s life choices so I don’t have an opinion either way. I’m not saying that in a mean/judgemental way: it’s just how I parent my kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not at 26. Recipe for disaster. [/quote

26 is not that young to get married….

[Anonymous]

Well, 26 is rather timely not too young but this forum preaches marriage after 35 and divorce by 45 so you aren't too old for dating and remarrying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One is married. His wife’s mental health is the third partner. They will never have kids. They can’t do a lot of things that other 30 something couples do.

One might get engaged this year.

The two youngest are ambivalent to disinterested in marriage.

this sounds cold and uncaring, I hope you didn't mean it in that tone.

I have told our sons to avoid women with mental health issues. It's not worth it. I encourage them to be sympathetic, but from a safe distance.

[Anonymous]

I do want my daughters to marry and become mothers.

But maybe my perspective is skewed because I'm happily married and (mostly) enjoyed parenting. I also believe that for most people marriage enhances financial stability.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you want your kids to get married?
My daughter will be 26, next month and still not married. Should I be worried?

Did you go to college? Only the blue collar, uneducated people I know think a person should be married by 26. Tell us about yourself op.

My education goes past college, and I think people should marry before 26. I married DH when I was 25, and we've had a great 17 years together. I only wish we had started having children immediately instead of waiting a bit.

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Agree especially with not waiting to have kids.

He probably wishes he waited and married someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My happiness and fulfillment are not tied in any way to my children’s life choices so I don’t have an opinion either way. I’m not saying that in a mean/judgemental way: it’s just how I parent my kids.

Its not about your happiness or fulfillment, its about wanting them to be happy and fulfilled with a supportive partner to face life's ups and downs with.

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Anonymous wrote:One is married. His wife’s mental health is the third partner. They will never have kids. They can’t do a lot of things that other 30 something couples do.

One might get engaged this year.

The two youngest are ambivalent to disinterested in marriage.

this sounds cold and uncaring, I hope you didn't mean it in that tone.

I have told our sons to avoid women with mental health issues. It's not worth it. I encourage them to be sympathetic, but from a safe distance.

What if they've a mental disorder themselves? Would you give same advice to the girls they'll date?

[Anonymous]

I didn’t get married until I was 32. Odd that you’re obsessing when she’s only 26.
I have 2 sons. I want them to be happy. If being married makes them happy, I’m all for it. If being single makes them happy, I’m all for it.

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Anonymous wrote:No, but they probably will. I will remind them the hell I went through and how unnecessary it is.
I will also remind them that they don't need to have kids.

Wow. That's inappropriate.

No it is not. Republicans have made it very clear that children are not safe in this country.
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1. White Christian men, ie, Republicans, are pedos. Whether it is Trump/Epstein or Trump's spiritual advisor, Youth Pastors, or other church leaders, they are changing laws to make it easy to marry at age 10. Minorities are not making these laws; White Christian men are.
2. Vaccines given for childhood diseases will return because of RFK Jr no child should be suffering for that utter stupidity
3. Republicans will not feed children or educate them. They want them working in factories for pennies. Project 2025
4. Health care gone Project 2025
5. Overtime for workers and injury protections gone, Project 2025

If you bring a child into the US while they are in power, you suck as a human.

Sorry- but please do not project your own mental issues on whether or not your child should marry or have children of their own.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you want your kids to get married?
My daughter will be 26, next month and still not married. Should I be worried?

Nope because no babies should be born while the Trump administration is still a thing.

Republicans want to remove our right to vote hell no to more children.

Good lord. So the entire country should put all children on hold, due to the POTUS currently in power for the next 3 years?? You are insane, hopefully your children do not listen to you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My happiness and fulfillment are not tied in any way to my children’s life choices so I don’t have an opinion either way. I’m not saying that in a mean/judgemental way: it’s just how I parent my kids.

Its not about your happiness or fulfillment, its about wanting them to be happy and fulfilled with a supportive partner to face life's ups and downs with.

Tell me you don’t get it…