Do you want your kids to get married?

[Anonymous]

Not until at *least 25* preferably 30. I tell them their brains aren’t done developing til 25 and don’t make any huge life altering decisions like that.

[Anonymous]

No idea. Kids are 19 and 23, both in what feel like serious relationships right now (although the 18-year-old is heading to college so we expect this will wind down). I’m much more concerned about them being in relationships that are healthy and loving than whether or not they plan to get married. And I would never ask the question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not until at *least 25* preferably 30. I tell them their brains aren’t done developing til 25 and don’t make any huge life altering decisions like that.

Exactly. I told them to wait until 25 before they can marry but they can legally make unimportant decisions like have sex, have HIPPA, write living directive, donate organs, pick a career, get pregnant, drive, vote, drink, smoke weed, watch porn, go to strip clubs, get a passport, take student loan, travel overseas, get credit card, live in dorms, rent apartment, join military, go skydiving, buy a house, start a business, get gender change surgery etc.

[Anonymous]

+buy a gun, fight a war, fly a plane

[Anonymous]

also feel free to become a firefighter, a cop, EMT, nurse, anesthetist tech, bomb diffuser etc

[Anonymous]

Minimum age in 50 states:
4 states have no official minimum age, but still require either parental consent, court approval or both: California, Mississippi, New Mexico, and Oklahoma.
2 states have a minimum age of 15: Hawaii and Kansas.
20 states have a minimum age of 16.
8 states have a minimum age of 17.
16 states have a minimum age of 18, which is the same as their general age: Connecticut, Delaware, Maine, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Missouri, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New York, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, Vermont, Virginia and Washington.

[Anonymous]

Their choice to make. I will support and respect whatever they choose.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

I only see questions like this in the hyper-liberal sphere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes.

I only see questions like this in the hyper-liberal sphere.

This^. Almost all parents want to see their kids fully grown, healthy, educated, employed, timely and happily married and having no fertility issues. Yes, most parents would support whatever decisions adult kids make but wishes are universally similar.

[Anonymous]

I want to see them married before we get old so we don't have to worry about them being alone or having no support.

[Anonymous]

This is DCUM, OP, land of the wealthy and educated people who prioritize their careers before marriage and kids.

Wondering why a 26 year old isn't married is NOT going to go over well with this crowd.

You should know this. Maybe you're a troll.

[Anonymous]

26 is really young. I moved cross country twice between 25 and 30. I got married at 32 and am glad I didn't try to marry before I'd settled down geographically.

But yes I do want my kid to get married. Partly because she wants to get married, and partly because she really wants to have kids and I think it's much, much easier to do that if you are married. Though if it doesn't happen for her, I would be willing to help her out if she decided to have kids on her own. It's not the first choice for anyone though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you want your kids to get married?
My daughter will be 26, next month and still not married. Should I be worried?

Yes.
No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I want to see them married before we get old so we don't have to worry about them being alone or having no support.

If not, try to pass some resources to them so they can afford paid care in their later years. Good spouses are good for caring for each other for a long while. It’s one of the best benefits of a strong marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:26 is really young. I moved cross country twice between 25 and 30. I got married at 32 and am glad I didn't try to marry before I'd settled down geographically.

But yes I do want my kid to get married. Partly because she wants to get married, and partly because she really wants to have kids and I think it's much, much easier to do that if you are married. Though if it doesn't happen for her, I would be willing to help her out if she decided to have kids on her own. It's not the first choice for anyone though.

We married in mid 20's and moved around the world together, made it more convenient and fun to be together.