My wife wants a $8,000 handbag. Please help!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make sure she isn’t following Jett and Pookie on instagram. Yes, this is common in some circles but your hhi Is not high enough to justify this with young kids. Yes, some are investments but some are trends that fade away.

Who are they?

[Anonymous]

If you have the money, you spend it. That's what money is for.

If you don't, don't. Get her something thoughtful and nice that fits your budget.

("It's an investment" Snort.)

[Anonymous]

She gets to stay home with your kids. Not get an 8k handbag.
-says a full-time working mom of two kids who wishes she could stay home with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a SAHM, so I’m not throwing shade, but where and when does a SAHM carry an $8k handbag? I wouldn’t be comfortable carrying a bag like that to the grocery store or a parent/teacher conference.

SAHM here. I have many bags. I got a Chanel bag for my birthday and many birthdays. DH earns 2.5m per year though, not 250k.

I have them in my closet. Everyone has them so it isn’t any type of status symbol. I will carry one to lunch or dinner.

Around 20 years ago, DH brought me an LV bag for around 2k. He earned less than OP then. I’m much more into travel though. I would rather have a trip than a bag. DH can easily get me a bag. A week trip is harder because of time.

I don’t think OP needs to get the wife a bag they can’t easily afford for a non milestone birthday. I have a friend who got one for her 40th birthday.

Holy humble brag 🙄

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She gets to stay home with your kids. Not get an 8k handbag.
-says a full-time working mom of two kids who wishes she could stay home with them.

This is good perspective.
OP's wife needs to get a job

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bet she's Chinese. These days, only Chinese tai-tais are after those status symbols.

Or a white girl

Please let's not make racist comments.

How is that racist? It might be stereotypical but it’s not racist…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bet she's Chinese. These days, only Chinese tai-tais are after those status symbols.

Or a white girl

Please let's not make racist comments.

How is that racist? It might be stereotypical but it’s not racist…

It’s inaccurate for sure.

- WOC here

[Anonymous]

I got an $8k bike for my birthday, so I guess I support it. I do work, but my income alone doesn't support the bike purchase. I love it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
This is not a milestone birthday. She is turning 34. I’m 32.
Our kids are 3 and 5. After our second child was born, we decided she will stay home until both kids start school.
I’m the sole breadwinner. HHI is $250k.
We have a mortgage but our cars are paid off.
We only started funding our 529s last year.
Our net worth is approximately $700k including home equity.

I don’t think we can afford to spend $8k on a handbag.

I believe she is being influenced by some of her friends.
She said that if I don't get her that handbag, she'll just buy it herself and remember that I'm a worthless husband.

Just read this - NW of $700k, HHI of $250k, and just started funding 529 plans? Hard No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a SAHM, so I’m not throwing shade, but where and when does a SAHM carry an $8k handbag? I wouldn’t be comfortable carrying a bag like that to the grocery store or a parent/teacher conference.

SAHM here. I have many bags. I got a Chanel bag for my birthday and many birthdays. DH earns 2.5m per year though, not 250k.

I have them in my closet. Everyone has them so it isn’t any type of status symbol. I will carry one to lunch or dinner.

Around 20 years ago, DH brought me an LV bag for around 2k. He earned less than OP then. I’m much more into travel though. I would rather have a trip than a bag. DH can easily get me a bag. A week trip is harder because of time.

I don’t think OP needs to get the wife a bag they can’t easily afford for a non milestone birthday. I have a friend who got one for her 40th birthday.

Holy humble brag 🙄

I wonder what the purpose of PP’s post was to let us know she has lots of $ bags and a high HHI. Thanks for that, PP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got an $8k bike for my birthday, so I guess I support it. I do work, but my income alone doesn't support the bike purchase. I love it.

I support it for the same reason. I'd rather have a gift that I love and will use for years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It could be worse, I just bought a horse for twice that. She's pregnant, so really I bought two horses. Now we have nine.....

My poor husband. He's a saint.

DH just bought a race horse with a couple of friends. It was his dream to be a horse owner. He's an amazing husband and father.

[Anonymous]

You want a spouse who will support you, love you and help you become wealthy together.

Not someone who disparages you and is looking to use you, test you, or extract value from you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
This is not a milestone birthday. She is turning 34. I’m 32.
Our kids are 3 and 5. After our second child was born, we decided she will stay home until both kids start school.
I’m the sole breadwinner. HHI is $250k.
We have a mortgage but our cars are paid off.
We only started funding our 529s last year.
Our net worth is approximately $700k including home equity.

I don’t think we can afford to spend $8k on a handbag.

I believe she is being influenced by some of her friends.
She said that if I don't get her that handbag, she'll just buy it herself and remember that I'm a worthless husband.

Oh boy. When I was 35 and my husband was 32 (with similar incomes but I worked) he bought a Chanel wallet for me for a birthday. I found the receipt accidentally about three months and almost had a heart attack==$500 wallet?! That was 20 yrs ago. Our HHI is now $15m+. I still don't have a Chanel purse, still carry the wallet. But note the escalation in net worth. It's not from buying purses we can't afford.

BTW, assuming you're not trolling: your wife is a b--h. Calling you names is not ok.

He's trolling or he wouldn't have left all the important financial details out until now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You want a spouse who will support you, love you and help you become wealthy together.

Not someone who disparages you and is looking to use you, test you, or extract value from you.

Funny how he left all that out in the original post.