University of Tennessee womens basketball coach returns to work one week after giving birth

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Anonymous wrote:Knew a woman who adopted a newborn and went back to her demanding medical job 3 days after bringing the less-than-a-week old baby home.

She has a very, very healthy trust fund, no mortgage, no car payments, etc. and does not need the money.

I didn't understand this. At all.

You don’t understand why wealthy men work?

Why adopt. a baby then? You can't give it a few weeks of attention?

Idk this woman.
My friend found out on a Friday she was adopting a baby on Monday.

She needed to train someone to do her job so worked the 1st month she had the baby.

Which only shows how bad our adoption process is. Why didn't this parent have a plan in place with employer for this scenario?

Studies have already shown there is a primal loss from mother at that age, then the infant gets stuck with a caregiver because it's more important for adoptive mom to train someone rather than provide the infant bonding time for a month.

Because she was doing IVF for the 5th time when a coworker said her niece had the child removed by CPS and it was in foster care.

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Some ambitious women come willingly but they raise the bar and everyone is expected to rise up to it even if they can't and wouldn't have similar privileges.

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Anonymous wrote:Stepping back a bit, this situation gives me pause because we've set up a culture where there is this feeling that this time of life: pregnancy, giving birth, new parents, new baby, is just another thing on the to-do list.

In a case by case basis, sure, I'm happy for this coach who is able to get make the choice to get back to work for a bit during a peak time in her career. Great for those who can, but why, as a culture, don't we value this time?

Why as a culture do we hide the woman and child away like a chine doll for months at a time ?

Why not bond in your happy place.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel bad for the baby.

Why? The baby doesn't know it's mother from Adam's house cat. As long as there is someone to feed, change, and hold it is all the baby cares about.

This is the time to build a bond of trust and babies know voice of their mothers, often fathers too.

And the baby is with both mom and dad which is way more positive than mom is home alone and lonely. While dad works long hours.

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Anonymous wrote:This is what happens when society keeps telling women that career comes before their physical and mental health and all other aspects of their lives including their infants.

No this is what happens when women have choice,

She can choose to bring the baby to work, her h can choose to take paternity, she can choose to do part of her job not all of it.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel bad for the baby.

The baby has a loving, involved, healthy mother. Nothing to feel bad about, put your empathy to use in places where it will actually matter.

This is a time for mom and baby to bond. She is not poor. She can afford to stay home. It's sad she would prefer to go to work. She will never get this time back.

I'd have enjoyed baby time a lot more if I had breaks from it and more help and sleep.

Going to work is not getting a break and getting more sleep.

Well, depends on circumstances. It sure gets appreciation and socialization.

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Anonymous wrote:This is what happens when society keeps telling women that career comes before their physical and mental health and all other aspects of their lives including their infants.

No this is what happens when women have choice,

She can choose to bring the baby to work, her h can choose to take paternity, she can choose to do part of her job not all of it.

But then same could be expected of the gym cleaning lady and without a choice.

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Its fine for women with privilege to make choices but sets a bad precedent taking choices away from less privileged.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's bad for women. It makes it look like it's easy and now men will expect all women should be back at work with no break. Even 6 weeks is not enough and other countries give women like a year off paid. Maybe she didn't want to lose her job so felt pressured to go back to work early?

Like Kate Middleton coming down the hospital stairs in stilettos and full make up hours after giving birth.

Imagine expecting women to be able to walk after giving birth. Crazy!

I walked to the nursery a few hours after delivery and just about fainted. They had to bring me back to my room in a wheel chair. I was terrified that Kate Middleton was going to drop the baby on the steps. And she must have had industrial sized pads underneath that dress.

Some women are just fine hours after giving birth. I had no problems walking immediately after having all 3 kids. Not everyone takes months to recover.

Had she had a very difficult pregnancy I doubt she would be back at work so soon but she obviously feels up to it.