Just cannot take wife controlling food choices anymore. Divorce?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why is your wife in charge of what goes into your mouth 99% of the time? Are you bed bound and unable to cook for yourself even breakfasts and lunches? Clearly you have access to the internet so you would be able to order takeout from a second place so I’m actually feeling concerned for your safety being unable to do so.

So we need to arrange a wellness check as it seems you are being held hostage and don’t have the ability to cook or fend for yourself?

lol

just go to some of the area's best korean restaurants and look for the guy sobbing "I wish I had some cream and oregano!"

lol

The cream and oregano poster.

Not only a low IQ dimwit with zero reading comprehension, but a psychopath to boot.

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Anonymous wrote:Is she this controlling in all areas of your life? Tell her you’re going to alternate choosing restaurants. You can even write up a list so you can keep track! If she refuses, then it sounds like she isn’t a very good partner and you should divorce.

DH and I usually go back and forth and it takes us forever to decide what to order when we get takeout or go out. I would eat Asian food pretty much every time, though not always the same kind! But he likes pizza and burgers and BBQ. We can always find something we both agree on.

I’m in tears, laughing, at the idea of a tiny guy with a bad mustache riding around Nova in the backseat while his wife drives, sobbing because he HAS to eat the world’s favorite cuisine- AGAIN!

In no way is Korean food the world's favorite cuisine. Where on earth did you get that idea? It's not even the most popular Asian food--I would say Thai or Chinese claims that spot.

Imagine being so stupid and claiming Korean food alone 'is diverse'. Oh yeah, where are those tacos in Korean food that could eat a Mexican craving. Where do Koreans ever use things like tomatillo or something like chocolate in their cuisine or have anything remotely close to a feojada or use yucca in their traditional cooking? That poster is delusional in thinking any kind of single cuisine alone can be diverse when you are talking about diversity on a global culinary scale.

troll went too far here... korean tacos are, of course, a favorite of most people.

Tacos are not traditional Korean food, dimwit.

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Anonymous wrote:Please people by "diverse" he means he wants flavors that are not Korean.

He is not saying Korean food is not part of a diverse spectrum.

I mean, he's clearly dealing with some mental health issues, it's not really about the diversity of Korean food or whether Korean food includes enough cream and oregano.

Anyway, it's almost certainly a troll and I haven't laughed so hard at one in a long time.

He's dealing with the wife's mental health issues.

Why are people focusing on the type of food? It's not about Korean food. It's about a spouse who won't compromise and whines when she doesn't get her way. That's the problem that needs to be dealt with, probably in therapy, since the natural solution - take turns picking where we eat when we go out -- has obviously not worked.

The wife being unable suck it up and eat, without whining, at a not-first-choice cuisine a couple times a month is a serious personality problem and no doubt shows up in controlling behavior in other parts of their life.

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Anonymous wrote:Sympathies. Korean is my LEAST favorite cuisine. I cannot imagine 7 days a week. Be a man! Say I want my pizza!

If you want pizza before Korean you're a malfunctioning human. Also, same if you think the OP said he eats Korean seven days a week. Don't ever say you want your pizza unless you are six and are at a bowling alley birthday party.

it's ok, some people have immature taste buds, like little children.

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Anonymous wrote:Just curious where you live OP. I am Korean American and am in Seoul right now where it’s absolutely a food lover’s paradise. There are so many food options not just Korean. In the DMV a lot of restaurants have gone out of business or gone downhill post covid so I don’t like to eat out that much which includes Korean food. It’s just not worth the money anymore. Don’t see why you need to eat the same thing. My family of four have different food allergies etc and we often eat 4 different meals for dinner.

ha, I was in Korea last month. Agreed. The food there was great, and no, we didn't just have Korean food. And super cheap. Bonus: no tipping.

It was a downer coming back here.

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Anonymous wrote:Just curious where you live OP. I am Korean American and am in Seoul right now where it’s absolutely a food lover’s paradise. There are so many food options not just Korean. In the DMV a lot of restaurants have gone out of business or gone downhill post covid so I don’t like to eat out that much which includes Korean food. It’s just not worth the money anymore. Don’t see why you need to eat the same thing. My family of four have different food allergies etc and we often eat 4 different meals for dinner.

ha, I was in Korea last month. Agreed. The food there was great, and no, we didn't just have Korean food. And super cheap. Bonus: no tipping.

It was a downer coming back here.

I also just came back from Korea. My cousins and nieces all love pizza, pasta and burgers. I find it hard to believe that OP’s wife only eats Korean.

I’m Korean and Dh is not. We eat Korean about 1/3 of the time. Dh likes certain foods and doesn’t care for others. If he doesn’t like it, he may opt to make himself a sandwich or eat a salad.

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Anonymous wrote:Sympathies. Korean is my LEAST favorite cuisine. I cannot imagine 7 days a week. Be a man! Say I want my pizza!

If you want pizza before Korean you're a malfunctioning human. Also, same if you think the OP said he eats Korean seven days a week. Don't ever say you want your pizza unless you are six and are at a bowling alley birthday party.

it's ok, some people have immature taste buds, like little children.

Uh oh, look out everyone, we have the world's greatest taste bud God here. She is the ultimate gatekeeper in telling YOU what is or isn't good eats. You happen to want pizza open day rather than Korean!!!?? How could you you low class inferior child?

The queen has arrived to tell you what you should eat.

It must be the wife posting, lolololol.

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Anonymous wrote:Damn just go to a food hall or door dash. People can order what they want and eat together. But you know this isn't just about food. You're marriage problems are much deeper than that

It’s a troll or a mentally ill person… the giveaway was when he said he wanted diverse food like cream and oregano.

You're a dimwit. You tried to claim Korean food is diverse. It's not diverse on a global comparison. Examples of Korean food not being diverse were pointed out to you - traditional Korean cuisine doesn't use many ingredients that exist on the planet and are used by other cuisine like creams, cheeses, herbs (oregano, rosemary, thyme just to make a few), tropical fruits, . Korean food rarely uses other cooking techniques like roasting, sous, vide, roux, etc.

Your stupid claim would be akin to stating French food is diverse. Or Italian food is diverse. No they're not. No single cuisine alone is diverse.

Korean food is developed for harsh climates. It's flavor profile is constantly that of pickled. Everything is often cooked using a wok, hot pot, or grilled. It's good, I don't hate it. But maybe people want more diversity in their life than some cuisine developed on a small peninsula n East Asia? You can take the kimchi and shove it where the sun don't shine.

Besides, Thai food is far more diverse than Korean. I'd rather that anyway.

Thai food is no more diverse than Korean food.

I love both, FWIW. I had been searching for a good Thai restaurant in the area for years after we moved here from CA.

All foods evolve, including Korean food. They put cheese on different dishes today, and that is not traditional. A lot of ethnic foods now do fusion. Someone mentioned taco + Korean.

I agree with a different PP that you just need to put your big boy pants on and tell her you want to compromise. If she whines, let her. Just get take out and put headphones on (as someone suggested). More than likely, she will eventually give in.

To divorce over this seems really stupid, but your inability to handle this is stupid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sympathies. Korean is my LEAST favorite cuisine. I cannot imagine 7 days a week. Be a man! Say I want my pizza!

If you want pizza before Korean you're a malfunctioning human. Also, same if you think the OP said he eats Korean seven days a week. Don't ever say you want your pizza unless you are six and are at a bowling alley birthday party.

it's ok, some people have immature taste buds, like little children.

Uh oh, look out everyone, we have the world's greatest taste bud God here. She is the ultimate gatekeeper in telling YOU what is or isn't good eats. You happen to want pizza open day rather than Korean!!!?? How could you you low class inferior child?

The queen has arrived to tell you what you should eat.

It must be the wife posting, lolololol.

I did not say that wanting to eat pizza once in a while meant you had immature taste buds, but that the PP stated that Korean was the least favorite food, and that they wanted pizza.

If you think pizza is better than Korean food, yes, you have immature taste buds. Go to a restaurant that has children's menu, and you will see pizza most of the time on there.

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Anonymous wrote:Damn just go to a food hall or door dash. People can order what they want and eat together. But you know this isn't just about food. You're marriage problems are much deeper than that

It’s a troll or a mentally ill person… the giveaway was when he said he wanted diverse food like cream and oregano.

You're a dimwit. You tried to claim Korean food is diverse. It's not diverse on a global comparison. Examples of Korean food not being diverse were pointed out to you - traditional Korean cuisine doesn't use many ingredients that exist on the planet and are used by other cuisine like creams, cheeses, herbs (oregano, rosemary, thyme just to make a few), tropical fruits, . Korean food rarely uses other cooking techniques like roasting, sous, vide, roux, etc.

Your stupid claim would be akin to stating French food is diverse. Or Italian food is diverse. No they're not. No single cuisine alone is diverse.

Korean food is developed for harsh climates. It's flavor profile is constantly that of pickled. Everything is often cooked using a wok, hot pot, or grilled. It's good, I don't hate it. But maybe people want more diversity in their life than some cuisine developed on a small peninsula n East Asia? You can take the kimchi and shove it where the sun don't shine.

Besides, Thai food is far more diverse than Korean. I'd rather that anyway.

Thai food is no more diverse than Korean food.

I love both, FWIW. I had been searching for a good Thai restaurant in the area for years after we moved here from CA.

All foods evolve, including Korean food. They put cheese on different dishes today, and that is not traditional. A lot of ethnic foods now do fusion. Someone mentioned taco + Korean.

I agree with a different PP that you just need to put your big boy pants on and tell her you want to compromise. If she whines, let her. Just get take out and put headphones on (as someone suggested). More than likely, she will eventually give in.

To divorce over this seems really stupid, but your inability to handle this is stupid.

The fact that he's gotten to thinking divorce over "this" means her controlling and immature behavior is not limited to the weekly restaurant choice. OP - how else is she inflexible? Does she whine over other things when she doesn't get her way?

I'm trying to imagine if my DH only wanted to eat at one type of restaurant when we go out once a week. Yes, it would be annoying and would probably lead to us going out less often because I'd more often suggest we get take out from different places. And, I'd spend time solo with my friends at restaurants. If he was cool with that and is generally a good spouse, then that's fine. If he whined about the cost of double-take out, or about staying in because I didn't feel like eating at the only type of restaurant he'd go to, or gave me grief about going out with friends instead of him, then we'd have a big problem. It's not about the specific food, it's about maturity, respect, and compromise.

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Anonymous wrote:Wife constantly, coooooooooooooooonstantly only ever wants to eat Korean food whenever we order or go out. I am so sick of it to the point I am so internally angry I want to explode. If my wife doesn't get her way wrt food, she complains nonstop and whines like a damn child.

Look, I like Korean food, don't get me wrong, but I just do not want to have it for the 1000th time in a row. Yes, I have utter contempt for my wife who gets to have 99% of the control over what goes into our mouths and what I get to eat for dinner. Maybe once in a while I want pizza? Maybe every so often I want something as simple as a damn burger? I love Middle Eastern, Turkish, Greek, etc. types of foods, but because she doesn't like it we are forced to never eating it. Meanwhile I let her have Korean 100% of the time whenever she wants even though it is probably ranked 15th on my list for most favorite types of cuisines.


I am getting sick of it to the point I am considering a divorce. Am I crazy? The controlling freak nature she has over my dietary choices has gotten intolerable. Maybe I want more food diversity in my life besides Asian food. I want to punch a hole through a wall I am so angry over this issue.

Is she Korean? this happened to me when I dated a guy who is Korean. I don't think he realized it but, every time we went out we got some type of Asian food.

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Anonymous wrote:Just curious where you live OP. I am Korean American and am in Seoul right now where it’s absolutely a food lover’s paradise. There are so many food options not just Korean. In the DMV a lot of restaurants have gone out of business or gone downhill post covid so I don’t like to eat out that much which includes Korean food. It’s just not worth the money anymore. Don’t see why you need to eat the same thing. My family of four have different food allergies etc and we often eat 4 different meals for dinner.

ha, I was in Korea last month. Agreed. The food there was great, and no, we didn't just have Korean food. And super cheap. Bonus: no tipping.

It was a downer coming back here.

Well you don't have to tip but,you will be considered very cheap. If you are ok with that than what do you care what people think?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just curious where you live OP. I am Korean American and am in Seoul right now where it’s absolutely a food lover’s paradise. There are so many food options not just Korean. In the DMV a lot of restaurants have gone out of business or gone downhill post covid so I don’t like to eat out that much which includes Korean food. It’s just not worth the money anymore. Don’t see why you need to eat the same thing. My family of four have different food allergies etc and we often eat 4 different meals for dinner.

ha, I was in Korea last month. Agreed. The food there was great, and no, we didn't just have Korean food. And super cheap. Bonus: no tipping.

It was a downer coming back here.

Well you don't have to tip but,you will be considered very cheap. If you are ok with that than what do you care what people think?

? there is no tipping in Korea. Have you ever been there or any foreign country? Tipping is an American thing. Yes, I do tip here because I know it's expected here. But, food in Korea is good and cheap, and bonus, no tipping. That was the point.

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Anonymous wrote:Wife constantly, coooooooooooooooonstantly only ever wants to eat Korean food whenever we order or go out. I am so sick of it to the point I am so internally angry I want to explode. If my wife doesn't get her way wrt food, she complains nonstop and whines like a damn child.

Look, I like Korean food, don't get me wrong, but I just do not want to have it for the 1000th time in a row. Yes, I have utter contempt for my wife who gets to have 99% of the control over what goes into our mouths and what I get to eat for dinner. Maybe once in a while I want pizza? Maybe every so often I want something as simple as a damn burger? I love Middle Eastern, Turkish, Greek, etc. types of foods, but because she doesn't like it we are forced to never eating it. Meanwhile I let her have Korean 100% of the time whenever she wants even though it is probably ranked 15th on my list for most favorite types of cuisines.


I am getting sick of it to the point I am considering a divorce. Am I crazy? The controlling freak nature she has over my dietary choices has gotten intolerable. Maybe I want more food diversity in my life besides Asian food. I want to punch a hole through a wall I am so angry over this issue.

Is she Korean? this happened to me when I dated a guy who is Korean. I don't think he realized it but, every time we went out we got some type of Asian food.

Asian food is diverse. Unless you think all Asians are the same. I also like to have Asian food when we eat out because we don't cook it as much at home. It's easier to cook things like pasta, roasted meats, general western food, so that's what we eat mostly at home. So, when we go out, I like to eat Asian food.

And I'm Asian.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why is your wife in charge of what goes into your mouth 99% of the time? Are you bed bound and unable to cook for yourself even breakfasts and lunches? Clearly you have access to the internet so you would be able to order takeout from a second place so I’m actually feeling concerned for your safety being unable to do so.

So we need to arrange a wellness check as it seems you are being held hostage and don’t have the ability to cook or fend for yourself?

lol

just go to some of the area's best korean restaurants and look for the guy sobbing "I wish I had some cream and oregano!"

lol

The cream and oregano poster.

Not only a low IQ dimwit with zero reading comprehension, but a psychopath to boot.

Well, OP, some of us were willing to try to help you, but you’ve now shown yourself to be a nasty piece of work. Enjoy the kimchi.