Just cannot take wife controlling food choices anymore. Divorce?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wife constantly, coooooooooooooooonstantly only ever wants to eat Korean food whenever we order or go out. I am so sick of it to the point I am so internally angry I want to explode. If my wife doesn't get her way wrt food, she complains nonstop and whines like a damn child.

Look, I like Korean food, don't get me wrong, but I just do not want to have it for the 1000th time in a row. Yes, I have utter contempt for my wife who gets to have 99% of the control over what goes into our mouths and what I get to eat for dinner. Maybe once in a while I want pizza? Maybe every so often I want something as simple as a damn burger? I love Middle Eastern, Turkish, Greek, etc. types of foods, but because she doesn't like it we are forced to never eating it. Meanwhile I let her have Korean 100% of the time whenever she wants even though it is probably ranked 15th on my list for most favorite types of cuisines.


I am getting sick of it to the point I am considering a divorce. Am I crazy? The controlling freak nature she has over my dietary choices has gotten intolerable. Maybe I want more food diversity in my life besides Asian food. I want to punch a hole through a wall I am so angry over this issue.

Is she Korean? this happened to me when I dated a guy who is Korean. I don't think he realized it but, every time we went out we got some type of Asian food.

Asian food is diverse. Unless you think all Asians are the same. I also like to have Asian food when we eat out because we don't cook it as much at home. It's easier to cook things like pasta, roasted meats, general western food, so that's what we eat mostly at home. So, when we go out, I like to eat Asian food.

And I'm Asian.

But would you whine and pout if your spouse occasionally wanted to try an Italian or Mexican restaurant?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wife constantly, coooooooooooooooonstantly only ever wants to eat Korean food whenever we order or go out. I am so sick of it to the point I am so internally angry I want to explode. If my wife doesn't get her way wrt food, she complains nonstop and whines like a damn child.

Look, I like Korean food, don't get me wrong, but I just do not want to have it for the 1000th time in a row. Yes, I have utter contempt for my wife who gets to have 99% of the control over what goes into our mouths and what I get to eat for dinner. Maybe once in a while I want pizza? Maybe every so often I want something as simple as a damn burger? I love Middle Eastern, Turkish, Greek, etc. types of foods, but because she doesn't like it we are forced to never eating it. Meanwhile I let her have Korean 100% of the time whenever she wants even though it is probably ranked 15th on my list for most favorite types of cuisines.


I am getting sick of it to the point I am considering a divorce. Am I crazy? The controlling freak nature she has over my dietary choices has gotten intolerable. Maybe I want more food diversity in my life besides Asian food. I want to punch a hole through a wall I am so angry over this issue.

Is she Korean? this happened to me when I dated a guy who is Korean. I don't think he realized it but, every time we went out we got some type of Asian food.

Asian food is diverse. Unless you think all Asians are the same. I also like to have Asian food when we eat out because we don't cook it as much at home. It's easier to cook things like pasta, roasted meats, general western food, so that's what we eat mostly at home. So, when we go out, I like to eat Asian food.

And I'm Asian.

Asian American here. I prefer Asian food. That doesn’t mean I don’t eat American food. We also eat shake shack, sandwiches, pizza, pasta, etc. lots of white people eat the same food. I have many white friends who eat salad and grilled chicken and fish mostly. I personally like more flavor and love Thai, Japanese, Chinese, Korean and Indian food. I would pick Asian food over American food 9 out of 10 times. Of course if someone else picks an American restaurant, I eat there and it is totally fine and we often pick a Michelin type restaurant for special occasions.

[Anonymous]

Did OP ever answer if wife is Korean? Maybe she makes non Korean food, but would like to get it when they’re ordering out. There’s. A lot of context missing that would be helpful.

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Love to know how wife is in charge of what goes into OPs mouth 99% of the time, which is confusing if he, or both of them, are probably out of the house for at least 1 meal a day.

[Anonymous]

Dude quit complaining about your wife on the internet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dude quit complaining about your wife on the internet.

What good is the Internet then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dude quit complaining about your wife on the internet.

I could see anyone with a spouse from a different culture complaining about this.

If I were married to a Mexican or Persian person and they only wanted to eat that cuisine, it would bother me even if I liked that food. To only eat that food when it is not your native and preferred food would annoy me too. I would put Mexican maybe last of foods I like. I crave it once every few months but not every month and would hate to eat it everyday.

I have been with Dh for over 20 years. We met in grad school and he used to eat what I wanted to eat. This thread reminded me that eating is important in a relationship.

I clicked on this thread thinking it would be about eating vegan or gluten free.

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Anonymous wrote:Korean food is pretttty diverse. Difficult to imagine you eat SO much of it you can't find new/interesting things on the menu.

Also, sounds like you hate your wife and there's a lot going on and this is just the thing you're complaining about today.

No it is not diverse.

It never uses cheese. No cream. No use of herbs like basil, thyme, oregano. Rarely does it ever use techniques like roasting, baking, or anything ever to do with an oven.

Look, I like Korean. I just don't need that same flavor profile for 999 out of 1000 meals I my life and have someone else dictate the crap out of what goes into my mouth the majority of the time. I'm so tired of it.

If you can afford to eat out this often, you can afford some cooking classes so you can learn how to use cheese, cream, basil, thyme and oregano for your damned self. That is some of the simplest stuff, the most basic flavor profiles.

What you're NOT going to be able to easily replicate at home straight out the gate is ssamjang. I've tried. Also, a good kimchi is an art, not to mention the time it can take. Get your basic taste bud needs met at home and then be grateful you can afford to take your wife out somewhere she likes (not that you seem to like her much these days, ingrate).

And if you want a meal out from somewhere else, there's this thing called "lunch" and it's totally acceptable to go alone.

Remember to tip, since I suspect you suck there, too.

NP. Why on earth are you being so hostile to the perfectly understandable desire to switch up the restaurants at which they dine on date nights? I don't care what the cuisine, anything eaten EVERY time you go out will get a bit stultifying. No one is talking about cooking at home or lunch, we are talking about going out to dinner. It's unreasonable for one partner to refuse to switch up the cuisine.

[Anonymous]

I knew a Korean guy married to an American who had the opposite problem. The wife and kids would eat chicken tenders and mac and cheese type food. Poor guy would make himself rice and eat kimchi by himself. They are now divorced and I don’t think it was because of food.

[Anonymous]

I'm Asian (Japanese). I like Korean food, but there's no way I'd want to eat any particular cuisine all the time. Also, it's rude to force your spouse to eat the same thing when he or she doesn't feels like eating something else.

The OP is probably a troll. I can't believe a couple would be this dysfunctional.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dude quit complaining about your wife on the internet.

What good is the Internet then?

It’s for wives to complain about their husbands.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Korean food is pretttty diverse. Difficult to imagine you eat SO much of it you can't find new/interesting things on the menu.

Also, sounds like you hate your wife and there's a lot going on and this is just the thing you're complaining about today.

No it is not diverse.

It never uses cheese. No cream. No use of herbs like basil, thyme, oregano. Rarely does it ever use techniques like roasting, baking, or anything ever to do with an oven.

Look, I like Korean. I just don't need that same flavor profile for 999 out of 1000 meals I my life and have someone else dictate the crap out of what goes into my mouth the majority of the time. I'm so tired of it.

If you can afford to eat out this often, you can afford some cooking classes so you can learn how to use cheese, cream, basil, thyme and oregano for your damned self. That is some of the simplest stuff, the most basic flavor profiles.

What you're NOT going to be able to easily replicate at home straight out the gate is ssamjang. I've tried. Also, a good kimchi is an art, not to mention the time it can take. Get your basic taste bud needs met at home and then be grateful you can afford to take your wife out somewhere she likes (not that you seem to like her much these days, ingrate).

And if you want a meal out from somewhere else, there's this thing called "lunch" and it's totally acceptable to go alone.

Remember to tip, since I suspect you suck there, too.

NP. Why on earth are you being so hostile to the perfectly understandable desire to switch up the restaurants at which they dine on date nights? I don't care what the cuisine, anything eaten EVERY time you go out will get a bit stultifying. No one is talking about cooking at home or lunch, we are talking about going out to dinner. It's unreasonable for one partner to refuse to switch up the cuisine.

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People are being so rude to OP who has a very reasonable complaint. I'm not usually one of the posters claiming the response would be the opposite if the woman posted instead of the man but I think it's actually true in this case. I cannot imagine these responses if a woman said her husband would only go out to eat bar food/pizza/insert-any-cuisine for all meals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm Asian (Japanese). I like Korean food, but there's no way I'd want to eat any particular cuisine all the time. Also, it's rude to force your spouse to eat the same thing when he or she doesn't feels like eating something else.

The OP is probably a troll. I can't believe a couple would be this dysfunctional.

I had a Korean friend married to a non Korean. She always told me how much her husband loved Korean food, how she packed him Korean food for lunch. My Korean friend has dated plenty of non Koreans and would rarely eat Korean when out. He never expressed to her he did not want Korean all the time until the divorce. I could see him feeling the way OP does. I cannot imagine OP’s wife being so controlling if the food upset OP that much. Some people hold in their feelings.

We have a friend who is gluten free and I hate hanging out with them because she talks about food so much. She is controlling and judgmental about food. She must think about it a lot because all conversations lead to food. I probably should just tell her that I prefer not to talk about food so instead I avoid her.

[Anonymous]

OMG WTF is this thread? If you are a troll, OP, well done.

If not, yeah, I'm on your side here. But you need to set some boundaries as PPs have indicated above. Let her whine and pout.

[Anonymous]

You guys seem like a bad fit. Surprised you got married. Do you have kids?

Korean restaurants aren’t exactly romantic. Dh often makes reservations for date night. How did you date? Often men plan the date or at least some of the dates. Did she only eat Korean food when you were dating?

[Anonymous]

My DH wants Two Amys pizza at least once a week. Not always my first choice but then I get to make choices at other times. It didn't occur to me that would be grounds for divorce.