| My kid is normal and went to Hopkins. Not URM, not legacy (except her cousin went there). Not sure if this matters but she's done CYT since elementary school. |
| In VA, JMU, VCU, GMU, and some get lucky for VT |
ok, if she is doing cyt, she is in the gifted program. And likely has multiple AP classes under her belt. WE're having definition problems again |
My normal kid goes to Loyola MD and I went there too. |
I’ve lived in the Midwest & in the Northeast. Except for a few wealthy suburbs, college aspirations are indeed strikingly different in the Midwest. After trying to explain the difference many times, the best way I’ve found to sum it up is that most Midwesterners simply don’t view college as a source of prestige. You went to Princeton, great. You went to Eastern Illinois, great. THAT you went to college is far more important than WHERE you went, but neither is directly connected to prestige. Prestige is more likely linked to what kind of boat you have, if you shot a deer during hunting season, how well your house & yard are maintained, what your golf handicap is, and so on. Most Midwesterners know smart & financially stable farmers, tradesmen, and union workers who never went to college at all, so assuming there is a necessary connection between college & brains/wealth seems odd to them. |
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My B/C student was accepted to plenty of great colleges:
UC Boulder WVU MSU Creighton USF CCU ODU VCU Marquette He chose WVU and is in his Junior year. He's done very well and loves the area. |
I like this |
+100 |
Me too! And makes me even more thrilled that my DD is deciding between two Midwestern schools. The way of life there is just so so different. I can’t wait for her to get out of this cesspool people on the race to nowhere. I went to Michigan (not one of her choices) and the difference in people/attitudes between here and there is stark. Shes gonna love it! |
They give amazing merit scholarships to OOS kids and honestly the requirements aren’t that bad - meaning you don’t need a 1500 SAT or 34 ACT to qualify. I would have had my DD apply if I had known this! Keeping it in mind for the next kid… |
One reason the situation at a school like Mizzou is not as dire as you think is because the students quickly separate themselves due to major & level of courses. Like the ones who graduated from high school with a 2.3 GPA and the high school valedictorians might be together in an intro-level history or sociology class, but otherwise they will likely get separated into different paths. They aren’t usually going to be sitting next to each other in chemical engineering classes, advanced math classes, or a 400-level Shakespeare class. |
I grew up in Ohio and it is very true there, as well. Most kids in Ohio never even consider colleges outside of the State. The only ones I know who went out of state in my class were a couple to ND (we were a Catholic school so that wasn't surprising) and maybe one or two went out of state to Michigan. At least where I lived, it was not a wealthy area so costs (even then at a fraction of what they are now) were prohibitive to go very far from home (my college roommate gave up an Ivy that was not affordable for a full ride at our low tier state school). All of our teachers, parents, doctors, etc. all went to Ohio schools. We didn't "mix" with ivy leaguers or T10 schools. I left Ohio for a reason but, I will say, I do miss the fact that the people there are not prestige obsessed like they are here. It's so tiresome and the cutting down of schools (and kids) that are not top 50 in the country is really, really grotesque. But people seem to have no shame about how they act and the things they say. Also gross. |
I always assumed this was because we’re all anonymous. You think these status chasers say crazy stuff IRL? |
You haven't talked to the parents at my kid's private. |
No, IRL too. I had one parent recently tell me it was great my kid (high stats but chasing merit at lower tiered schools) was mature to be able to consider "a school like that." That's just one example of the rude sh-- I've heard out of peoples' mouths. |