What type of death terrifies you the most

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Anonymous wrote:People scared of these short but catastrophic scenarios are interesting to me.

I've seen somehow fully mentally sound die a long and slow death of cancer where their body fails them and in the end they are trapped inside their body and have lost all dignity.

That's what I'm scared of.

That happened to my mom. She was begging God to take her. She lsnguishes 6 months in hospice. My dad recently passed away— basically malnutrition and then aspiration pneumonia due to swallowing problem and sepsis. Was terrible. I support euthanasia.

+1. Those afraid of these quick, tragic yet very rare scenarios have clearly never watched a loved one die a slow agonizing death.

+100. Eight years later, and I can still hear the death rattle sound of my mother dying.

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Anonymous wrote:Surprised that so many list fires as a fear. Fire wouldn't even be in my top 10.

Why not?

Not saying that I want to die in a fire, it's just not high on my list of fears. I fear water far more than fire.

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You guys, as a stage IV cancer patient this is NOT HELPING! Better than being dismembered slowly by a serial killer, ya’ll! At least it’s not fire! I’m sure there will be good drugs at the end. And it is nice to have a long lead up where I can get some stuff off my bucket list and get everything in order. Wishing you all long lives and peaceful exits.

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Anonymous wrote:You guys, as a stage IV cancer patient this is NOT HELPING! Better than being dismembered slowly by a serial killer, ya’ll! At least it’s not fire! I’m sure there will be good drugs at the end. And it is nice to have a long lead up where I can get some stuff off my bucket list and get everything in order. Wishing you all long lives and peaceful exits.

I'm so sorry about your cancer. Fwiw, I've witnessed a death from late stage cancer and it was harder on the surviving family members, not as much on the patient.

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Anonymous wrote:The best thing about a slow death is everyone around you gets to say "goodbye" and is grateful when you finally croak.

the best thing about a fast death is your own absence of suffering.

I've had sudden and slow deaths of family members, and sudden deaths are far more difficult from a grief perspective IMO. Being able to say goodbye was invaluable and healing for me.

I’ve wondered about this as my dad died three days after being hit by a car. He didn’t suffer because those three days were in a coma but the rest of us certainly did. I have friends who have lost parents or spouses over a long period of time which seems like such a completely different experience. Would wish neither on anyone.

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I'm surprised by the number of people who've said cancer, since that's what most of you are going to die of. I don't think I know of anyone who has died of anything else.

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being buried alive!

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Anonymous wrote:Surprised that so many list fires as a fear. Fire wouldn't even be in my top 10.

Why not?

That PP must’ve never seen the Rescue 911 episode where the car was stuck after the accident under a burning tanker trunk with fuel leaking and flames all while passengers were trapped inside the vehicle.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised by the number of people who've said cancer, since that's what most of you are going to die of. I don't think I know of anyone who has died of anything else.

That’s why it terrifies me. I know it’s the most likely scenario and I’ve watched a slow painful cancer death. Drowning or dying in a house fire or plane crash is way less likely.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised by the number of people who've said cancer, since that's what most of you are going to die of. I don't think I know of anyone who has died of anything else.

That’s why it terrifies me. I know it’s the most likely scenario and I’ve watched a slow painful cancer death. Drowning or dying in a house fire or plane crash is way less likely.

I'm lucky to live in Canada. A friend recently died at home by assisted suicide. She was diagnosed with terminal cancer earlier this year. She knocked a few things off her bucket list, settled her affairs, and peaced out.

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I am terrified of crowd crush. Somebody upthread mentioned the Station nightclub fire and that's it, exactly. I once got caught on an escalator that stopped working (fortunately, only for a few seconds) while leaving a sporting event years ago and I still have nightmares about it.

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Apparently in one of Saddam Hussein's palaces there was a place called "the underworld" which was a crawlspace just tall enough to lie in, where all the palace toilets drained to. Saddam would order people to be locked in it, and it would fill up almost to the top with raw sewage but leave just enough space to breathe. People would languish in there for days or even weeks until dehydration or infection killed them, unless they could manage to fight the last minute survival instinct and drown themselves in poop.

So yeah, probably that is the death that terrifies me the most.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m scared of a death where I’m conscious of the fact I’m about to die, particularly if it’s scary or painful (e.g. plane crash, house fire). But a million times more than that, I’m terrified of a death in which my kids are with me and I know they’re going to die too (again, e.g. plane crash or house fire).

Also, scared of like creepy torture/serial killer murder.

Interesting. If my kids were with me and I knew they were going to die too, I'd feel more at peace than if they weren't with me and I was conscious of the fact I was dying and about to leave my kids motherless. Obviously the former is horrible too but of the two options I'd rather we all die together. Is that horrible/psychopathic of me?

No I’m with you. I’m actually most scared of dying in some horrible and unexpected way in front of my kids while they’re forced to live and deal with that, like freak heart attack or impaled by a shower rod or something.

That would be terrible.

Now that my child is an adult, I don't fear that so much anymore. It would still be traumatic but not the way it would be for a child. Now I fear dying and leaving my dog home alone for days with my dead body until discovered.

There is a certain relief as a parent that you got then through and if you die now they will be ok.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m scared of a death where I’m conscious of the fact I’m about to die, particularly if it’s scary or painful (e.g. plane crash, house fire). But a million times more than that, I’m terrified of a death in which my kids are with me and I know they’re going to die too (again, e.g. plane crash or house fire).

Also, scared of like creepy torture/serial killer murder.

Interesting. If my kids were with me and I knew they were going to die too, I'd feel more at peace than if they weren't with me and I was conscious of the fact I was dying and about to leave my kids motherless. Obviously the former is horrible too but of the two options I'd rather we all die together. Is that horrible/psychopathic of me?

DP. I feel exactly the same way. I told my husband that once and he thought that was horrible, which I guess it is. But that's how I felt when my kids were younger. Now that they're older, I wouldn't feel like that.

There is not a single scenario in which I would want my kids to die with me.

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I have a family member who was burned in a fire and then died from those burns. Definitely has to be the worst way to go after being tortured to death.