Dooce /Heather Armstrong

[Anonymous]

Terribly sad.

Someone posted on here not too long ago about a rambling nonsense post she made. It was abundantly clear to me as a mental health professional that she had gone off meds or was on a regiment that was no longer meeting her needs.

Please, everyone, remember that mental health disorders are for life. Just because you are doing well and have meds that are working, it doesn't mean you will stay that way. Especially as we age. Don't stop taking your meds!

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Anonymous wrote:I feel so bad for her younger kid. They are only 13 and now almost certainly going to be ripped from her home and end up... where? At least her older daughter is already away at college.

Her last post on her website is like a love letter to her older daughter posted when her partner confirms she was still really sober.

I thought her kids were living full time with their father and had been for some time....

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Anonymous wrote:GOMI is owned and written by someone named Alice. She posts things about other people who write on the internet, mostly. She gets the most views by being entertainingly critical, and encourages people who post comments to see things in the same glass-half-empty-and-people-especially-mommybloggers-are-awful-amirite? way way she does.

At some point about 10 years ago after a bunch of negative stories about Dooce, Alice posted something like "Dooce Fakes a Break" saying ... I think that dooce was pretending to need a break from her website (when she was going through a divorce and financial difficulties). Alice ultimately took the post down because she had no substantiation for the "fakes" part -- after armstrong hired a lawyer and basically made her take it down, according to what Alice wrote on GOMI. From this, Alice labeled Dooce as a bully and then continued to make post after post criticizing her, to the point where she is now apparently posting about her death, and now the cycle is complete, amen.

Dooce has her own wikipedia page -- she became internet famous because she wrote about her job on her website and was one of the first people to get fired for that. Later she wrote about her post-partum depression and her family and her kids and her dogs. She was funny. She had problems with alcohol and depression.

Clearly you are a huge Dooce fangirl. Does that mean you are also transphobic?

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Anonymous wrote:Terribly sad.

Someone posted on here not too long ago about a rambling nonsense post she made. It was abundantly clear to me as a mental health professional that she had gone off meds or was on a regiment that was no longer meeting her needs.

Please, everyone, remember that mental health disorders are for life. Just because you are doing well and have meds that are working, it doesn't mean you will stay that way. Especially as we age. Don't stop taking your meds!

Agreed. She was mentally ill. She posted for years, LONG BEFORE GOMI, about her mental health issues. She died by suicide caused by her mental health issues, not by internet trolls. The internet trolls may have exacerbated her mental health issues, but they're not the cause. Hope this satisfies the fangirl who is going on and on about GOMI.

*Someone probably posted about her TERF rant. She was transphobic.

[Anonymous]

Strange that nyt had Cup of Jo’s husband write her obituary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Strange that nyt had Cup of Jo’s husband write her obituary.

Isn't Cup of Jo divorced? I thought they broke up like last summer or something.

[Anonymous]

Putting your whole life on the internet is not good for your mental health, and minor children should definitely not be exposed in that way by their parents or guardians.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:GOMI is owned and written by someone named Alice. She posts things about other people who write on the internet, mostly. She gets the most views by being entertainingly critical, and encourages people who post comments to see things in the same glass-half-empty-and-people-especially-mommybloggers-are-awful-amirite? way way she does.

At some point about 10 years ago after a bunch of negative stories about Dooce, Alice posted something like "Dooce Fakes a Break" saying ... I think that dooce was pretending to need a break from her website (when she was going through a divorce and financial difficulties). Alice ultimately took the post down because she had no substantiation for the "fakes" part -- after armstrong hired a lawyer and basically made her take it down, according to what Alice wrote on GOMI. From this, Alice labeled Dooce as a bully and then continued to make post after post criticizing her, to the point where she is now apparently posting about her death, and now the cycle is complete, amen.

Dooce has her own wikipedia page -- she became internet famous because she wrote about her job on her website and was one of the first people to get fired for that. Later she wrote about her post-partum depression and her family and her kids and her dogs. She was funny. She had problems with alcohol and depression.

Clearly you are a huge Dooce fangirl. Does that mean you are also transphobic?

I'm actually not. And I agree it can be problematic to write about your kids. Truly and honestly I just really hate GOMI. I absolutely hate that the owner does exactly the same crap that she mocks other bloggers for doing, and worse! And now to post about this! You spend your whole life mocking other people -- that's what her website was, one mocking post after another -- and then when they ultimately commit suicide you write another post about it, and profit off the pageviews you get, and in your mind you are totally removed from the whole cycle of what happened. You're not connecting these two events at all.

What are the defenses for GOMI at this point? "These bloggers do bad things so we should do bad things to them." Are you twelve? It's fine to say that you don't think writers should write openly about their kid's lives, but when everything you write on your website is a florid and nasty takedown, and you want all your commenters to take everybody down even harder, what are you contributing? What are you accomplishing, exactly?

Don't go there and don't contribute to it.

[Anonymous]

I am scrolling through her Instagram photos and she looked severely thin.

[Anonymous]

And remember, at least some of the GOMI posts weren't even true, and had to be removed. Alice would receive anonymous tips, and she'd post it. "Dooce takes a break" was not substantiated and Alice was mad that Armstrong got a lawyer involved and had the temerity to threaten her with a lawsuit if she didn't take the falsehood down! Tell the truth and stand by it or don't complain about it when you get called out and have to take back your lies. Be a real journalist or not but don't get huffy because you broke the rules and someone actually called you out on it. And don't write sh*t about everyone else but then have the thinnest skin yourself when other people call you out on your bs. Seriously, GOMI is the bottom-feeder of the internet.

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Anonymous wrote:Putting your whole life on the internet is not good for your mental health, and minor children should definitely not be exposed in that way by their parents or guardians.

This. There needs to be regulation. There's none that I'm aware of. There aren't even any rules regarding the division of money earned by these family bloggers/vloggers or rules that money must be put in a Coogan account for the kids.

I listened to a podcast episode late last year with the college-aged daughter from a well-known family vlogging channel. They didn't reveal her identity and skewed her voice, but it was sad. She wasn't allowed to have a job like other teens to earn money because it took away from making content. When she didn't want to film, her mother gaslit her with statements like "sorry guys, we won't be able to go to Hawaii this year because Jane doesn't want to film today" etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Strange that nyt had Cup of Jo’s husband write her obituary.

He's a longtime NYT journalist and obituaries are his beat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:GOMI is owned and written by someone named Alice. She posts things about other people who write on the internet, mostly. She gets the most views by being entertainingly critical, and encourages people who post comments to see things in the same glass-half-empty-and-people-especially-mommybloggers-are-awful-amirite? way way she does.

At some point about 10 years ago after a bunch of negative stories about Dooce, Alice posted something like "Dooce Fakes a Break" saying ... I think that dooce was pretending to need a break from her website (when she was going through a divorce and financial difficulties). Alice ultimately took the post down because she had no substantiation for the "fakes" part -- after armstrong hired a lawyer and basically made her take it down, according to what Alice wrote on GOMI. From this, Alice labeled Dooce as a bully and then continued to make post after post criticizing her, to the point where she is now apparently posting about her death, and now the cycle is complete, amen.

Dooce has her own wikipedia page -- she became internet famous because she wrote about her job on her website and was one of the first people to get fired for that. Later she wrote about her post-partum depression and her family and her kids and her dogs. She was funny. She had problems with alcohol and depression.

Clearly you are a huge Dooce fangirl. Does that mean you are also transphobic?

I'm actually not. And I agree it can be problematic to write about your kids. Truly and honestly I just really hate GOMI. I absolutely hate that the owner does exactly the same crap that she mocks other bloggers for doing, and worse! And now to post about this! You spend your whole life mocking other people -- that's what her website was, one mocking post after another -- and then when they ultimately commit suicide you write another post about it, and profit off the pageviews you get, and in your mind you are totally removed from the whole cycle of what happened. You're not connecting these two events at all.

What are the defenses for GOMI at this point? "These bloggers do bad things so we should do bad things to them." Are you twelve? It's fine to say that you don't think writers should write openly about their kid's lives, but when everything you write on your website is a florid and nasty takedown, and you want all your commenters to take everybody down even harder, what are you contributing? What are you accomplishing, exactly?

Don't go there and don't contribute to it.

How is DCUM any different than GOMI? Yet you're still here.