Dooce /Heather Armstrong

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh so sad.

I was so holding out hope she'd right her ship and find stable standing. She has seemed a complete mess in the last few years, so I had to look away and stop following her.

But in 2009? She was incredible. Hilarious, honest, raw and loving. She prepared me for motherhood in ways no one else could have.

I so wish she'd been able to be healthy.

Totally agree with this.

So sad. May she rest in peace.

[Anonymous]

Can someone screenshot the IG? It's giving me an error.

[Anonymous]

Hope GOMI is proud of itself for pursuing and mocking this lady. Remember how mad GOMI was 10 years ago that MOMS were making money off the INTERNET by telling their STORIES about raising their children?! And how awful Alice thought it was that women were asking readers for donations, and then Alice asked her readers for donations (and got them, while also policing their website emails and deleting the accounts of people who wrote bad things about her - I was never a member but that's what I saw on reddit)?

Please don't read GOMI and don't support Alice. Follow or don't follow who you want, but don't subscribe to the culture of women knocking down other women just for sport and some lols.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hope GOMI is proud of itself for pursuing and mocking this lady. Remember how mad GOMI was 10 years ago that MOMS were making money off the INTERNET by telling their STORIES about raising their children?! And how awful Alice thought it was that women were asking readers for donations, and then Alice asked her readers for donations (and got them, while also policing their website emails and deleting the accounts of people who wrote bad things about her - I was never a member but that's what I saw on reddit)?

Please don't read GOMI and don't support Alice. Follow or don't follow who you want, but don't subscribe to the culture of women knocking down other women just for sport and some lols.

GOMI did not kill Heather. Just because people write things on the internet about you doesn't mean you have to read them. I've never googled my own name, for example.

[Anonymous]

Of course GOMI didn't kill her. Alice just hounded her and mocked her endlessly. I'm sure that didn't contribute positively to her well being. And now Alice is posting about her death on GOMI, and essentially profiting off of it. And so the circle is complete.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hope GOMI is proud of itself for pursuing and mocking this lady. Remember how mad GOMI was 10 years ago that MOMS were making money off the INTERNET by telling their STORIES about raising their children?! And how awful Alice thought it was that women were asking readers for donations, and then Alice asked her readers for donations (and got them, while also policing their website emails and deleting the accounts of people who wrote bad things about her - I was never a member but that's what I saw on reddit)?

Please don't read GOMI and don't support Alice. Follow or don't follow who you want, but don't subscribe to the culture of women knocking down other women just for sport and some lols.

GOMI did not kill Heather. Just because people write things on the internet about you doesn't mean you have to read them. I've never googled my own name, for example.

Justifying the tormenting of a human being is shameful. Shame on you.

[Anonymous]

Wow. She was the first real influencer/blogger I followed! I'm very sad for her girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hope GOMI is proud of itself for pursuing and mocking this lady. Remember how mad GOMI was 10 years ago that MOMS were making money off the INTERNET by telling their STORIES about raising their children?! And how awful Alice thought it was that women were asking readers for donations, and then Alice asked her readers for donations (and got them, while also policing their website emails and deleting the accounts of people who wrote bad things about her - I was never a member but that's what I saw on reddit)?

Please don't read GOMI and don't support Alice. Follow or don't follow who you want, but don't subscribe to the culture of women knocking down other women just for sport and some lols.

I did think about this. Even now there is still a Dooce haters forum on Reddit. So hard for anyone struggling with mental health.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course GOMI didn't kill her. Alice just hounded her and mocked her endlessly. I'm sure that didn't contribute positively to her well being. And now Alice is posting about her death on GOMI, and essentially profiting off of it. And so the circle is complete.

GOMI is horrific.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course GOMI didn't kill her. Alice just hounded her and mocked her endlessly. I'm sure that didn't contribute positively to her well being. And now Alice is posting about her death on GOMI, and essentially profiting off of it. And so the circle is complete.

1+. Of course GOMI & its ilk wasn't the primary or probably even a significant reason for her (alleged) suicide. But it is also ridiculous how quickly the extraordinary toxicity of internet culture is just waived off, e.g. "don't read it," "well you made your life public," "she's crazy anyway"... And then we wonder why everyone's (and esp. our kid's) mental health is flatlining?

[Anonymous]

First Dave Hollis now Dooce.

Mid 40s both. Tragic. Much too young.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is it really true? Sad to say, that's what I assumed when I saw this. But OTOH she's a drama queen so I wouldn't put it past her to post her own obituary.

Wow.

Would you say that out loud? Would you say that about someone you knew, while you were waiting to confirm that they were dead? "She's a drama queen" and "I wouldn't put it past her"? You are a bad person, PP. That is bad person talk.

No, I'm a person who has been reading Dooce for almost 20 years and has seen her full decline.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hope GOMI is proud of itself for pursuing and mocking this lady. Remember how mad GOMI was 10 years ago that MOMS were making money off the INTERNET by telling their STORIES about raising their children?! And how awful Alice thought it was that women were asking readers for donations, and then Alice asked her readers for donations (and got them, while also policing their website emails and deleting the accounts of people who wrote bad things about her - I was never a member but that's what I saw on reddit)?

Please don't read GOMI and don't support Alice. Follow or don't follow who you want, but don't subscribe to the culture of women knocking down other women just for sport and some lols.

GOMI did not kill Heather. Just because people write things on the internet about you doesn't mean you have to read them. I've never googled my own name, for example.

Seriously? It's probably a good idea to curate your web presence once in a while.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hope GOMI is proud of itself for pursuing and mocking this lady. Remember how mad GOMI was 10 years ago that MOMS were making money off the INTERNET by telling their STORIES about raising their children?! And how awful Alice thought it was that women were asking readers for donations, and then Alice asked her readers for donations (and got them, while also policing their website emails and deleting the accounts of people who wrote bad things about her - I was never a member but that's what I saw on reddit)?

Please don't read GOMI and don't support Alice. Follow or don't follow who you want, but don't subscribe to the culture of women knocking down other women just for sport and some lols.

GOMI did not kill Heather. Just because people write things on the internet about you doesn't mean you have to read them. I've never googled my own name, for example.

Justifying the tormenting of a human being is shameful. Shame on you.

I feel no shame, because I bear no responsibility. Firstly, we're all assuming Heather killed herself. For all we know, she got hit by a car or something. Secondly, adults are responsible for themselves. Heather had health insurance, family and friends - she had access to all the resources for blocking any site that talked about her online. Again, if you don't want to read things about yourself, you make a choice to avoid them.

You bear responsibility for saying things that are hurtful, whether anyone knew that it was you who said them or not. Anonymity on the internet doesn't mean it's not absolutely hurtful and toxic to have the attitude that you have. It just means that you don't have to be accountable for your behavior.