Can't relate to ppl without kids

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, as a single, childless woman, I have to say, this is a mean thing to do to people you considered friends.

However, you are not alone. Many of my friends have dropped me once they have kids.

I now consider baby showers to essentially be going away parties for my friendship, because I know there is a good chance my friends will drop me and focus on only having mom friends.

It's pretty mean.

What the everlasting f are you doing on a toddler forum?

For the love of god, why don’t people like you understand that people read the “recent topics” forum? That is the only one I read. And this topic relates to me.

Right, but this is still a forum geared towards parents. It is bizarre that you read and post here. It is deeply, deeply pathetic to frequent a forum for parents when you are childless. Serious question, do your friends who have children know you post on here?

I do wonder about that. Is DCUM meant for parents or does the name need some updating?

So you're thinking maybe a person without children shouldn't have an interest in entertainment, jobs, health.. ?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, as a single, childless woman, I have to say, this is a mean thing to do to people you considered friends.

However, you are not alone. Many of my friends have dropped me once they have kids.

I now consider baby showers to essentially be going away parties for my friendship, because I know there is a good chance my friends will drop me and focus on only having mom friends.

It's pretty mean.

What the everlasting f are you doing on a toddler forum?

For the love of god, why don’t people like you understand that people read the “recent topics” forum? That is the only one I read. And this topic relates to me.

Right, but this is still a forum geared towards parents. It is bizarre that you read and post here. It is deeply, deeply pathetic to frequent a forum for parents when you are childless. Serious question, do your friends who have children know you post on here?

NP but, my goodness, you are the one who has issues. Surely you know that DCUM has forums for TTC, real estate, dining, and myriad other interests to the community? And surely you know that many people view DCUM by Recent Topics? It is "deeply, deeply pathetic" to get so triggered over whether people reading about IVF, home prices, politics, eldercare, etc. have children. Probably a quarter of people on DCUM are either empty nesters or child free.

[Anonymous]

I love my childfree friends. We have better conversations than my parent friends. Convos with parent friends all too often devolve into conversations about kids. I’m more likely to talk about stuff I truly enjoy talking about. Turns out my kid’s disabilities or their kids petty sibling fights are not what I really want to talk about when I hang out with my friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't relate at all anymore to my friends who don't have kids, especially the ones who treat their pets like kids (like I know someone who baby-wears her dog in a babybjorn-type thing), and feel like I'm letting those friendships fade and don't even really care... Is this common?

I feel this way too. It's natural and nothing to be ashamed of. Plenty of childless people slow fade their friends who become parents because they can't relate either. Don't let internet strangers give you grief over it. And the cool thing is someday some of those childless friends will become parents and then the friendship can bloom again. Don't stress.

OP is letting the friendships drop. These friends won't be around anymore when they become interesting to her again. OP will reap what she sows.

[Anonymous]

Do you set a calendar notification that every month you need to post this identical thread?

I think you missed your deadline for another anti-pit bull thread in the pets forum, and one railing against work from home in jobs. Tsk tsk.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, as a single, childless woman, I have to say, this is a mean thing to do to people you considered friends.

However, you are not alone. Many of my friends have dropped me once they have kids.

I now consider baby showers to essentially be going away parties for my friendship, because I know there is a good chance my friends will drop me and focus on only having mom friends.

It's pretty mean.

What the everlasting f are you doing on a toddler forum?

For the love of god, why don’t people like you understand that people read the “recent topics” forum? That is the only one I read. And this topic relates to me.

Right, but this is still a forum geared towards parents. It is bizarre that you read and post here. It is deeply, deeply pathetic to frequent a forum for parents when you are childless. Serious question, do your friends who have children know you post on here?

I do wonder about that. Is DCUM meant for parents or does the name need some updating?

So you're thinking maybe a person without children shouldn't have an interest in entertainment, jobs, health.. ?

No that’s not what I’m saying. I only found DCUM a few months ago because I was looking for a forum for parents. If I didn’t have kids I probably wouldn’t care to read a forum called DC Urban MOM. I was just wondering why it was even called that if it’s not just for parents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, as a single, childless woman, I have to say, this is a mean thing to do to people you considered friends.

However, you are not alone. Many of my friends have dropped me once they have kids.

I now consider baby showers to essentially be going away parties for my friendship, because I know there is a good chance my friends will drop me and focus on only having mom friends.

It's pretty mean.

What the everlasting f are you doing on a toddler forum?

For the love of god, why don’t people like you understand that people read the “recent topics” forum? That is the only one I read. And this topic relates to me.

Right, but this is still a forum geared towards parents. It is bizarre that you read and post here. It is deeply, deeply pathetic to frequent a forum for parents when you are childless. Serious question, do your friends who have children know you post on here?

I do wonder about that. Is DCUM meant for parents or does the name need some updating?

So you're thinking maybe a person without children shouldn't have an interest in entertainment, jobs, health.. ?

No that’s not what I’m saying. I only found DCUM a few months ago because I was looking for a forum for parents. If I didn’t have kids I probably wouldn’t care to read a forum called DC Urban MOM. I was just wondering why it was even called that if it’s not just for parents.

I'm wondering how those of you who have kids but have no time for your friends find so much time to devote to this site.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, as a single, childless woman, I have to say, this is a mean thing to do to people you considered friends.

However, you are not alone. Many of my friends have dropped me once they have kids.

I now consider baby showers to essentially be going away parties for my friendship, because I know there is a good chance my friends will drop me and focus on only having mom friends.

It's pretty mean.

What the everlasting f are you doing on a toddler forum?

For the love of god, why don’t people like you understand that people read the “recent topics” forum? That is the only one I read. And this topic relates to me.

Right, but this is still a forum geared towards parents. It is bizarre that you read and post here. It is deeply, deeply pathetic to frequent a forum for parents when you are childless. Serious question, do your friends who have children know you post on here?

I do wonder about that. Is DCUM meant for parents or does the name need some updating?

So you're thinking maybe a person without children shouldn't have an interest in entertainment, jobs, health.. ?

No that’s not what I’m saying. I only found DCUM a few months ago because I was looking for a forum for parents. If I didn’t have kids I probably wouldn’t care to read a forum called DC Urban MOM. I was just wondering why it was even called that if it’s not just for parents.

I'm wondering how those of you who have kids but have no time for your friends find so much time to devote to this site.

Also gotta love someone who's been here a few months gatekeeping with people who've been here for years, perhaps even decades.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, as a single, childless woman, I have to say, this is a mean thing to do to people you considered friends.

However, you are not alone. Many of my friends have dropped me once they have kids.

I now consider baby showers to essentially be going away parties for my friendship, because I know there is a good chance my friends will drop me and focus on only having mom friends.

It's pretty mean.

What the everlasting f are you doing on a toddler forum?

For the love of god, why don’t people like you understand that people read the “recent topics” forum? That is the only one I read. And this topic relates to me.

Right, but this is still a forum geared towards parents. It is bizarre that you read and post here. It is deeply, deeply pathetic to frequent a forum for parents when you are childless. Serious question, do your friends who have children know you post on here?

I do wonder about that. Is DCUM meant for parents or does the name need some updating?

So you're thinking maybe a person without children shouldn't have an interest in entertainment, jobs, health.. ?

No that’s not what I’m saying. I only found DCUM a few months ago because I was looking for a forum for parents. If I didn’t have kids I probably wouldn’t care to read a forum called DC Urban MOM. I was just wondering why it was even called that if it’s not just for parents.

I'm wondering how those of you who have kids but have no time for your friends find so much time to devote to this site.

Because it takes a few minutes to write something.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, as a single, childless woman, I have to say, this is a mean thing to do to people you considered friends.

However, you are not alone. Many of my friends have dropped me once they have kids.

I now consider baby showers to essentially be going away parties for my friendship, because I know there is a good chance my friends will drop me and focus on only having mom friends.

It's pretty mean.

What the everlasting f are you doing on a toddler forum?

For the love of god, why don’t people like you understand that people read the “recent topics” forum? That is the only one I read. And this topic relates to me.

Right, but this is still a forum geared towards parents. It is bizarre that you read and post here. It is deeply, deeply pathetic to frequent a forum for parents when you are childless. Serious question, do your friends who have children know you post on here?

I do wonder about that. Is DCUM meant for parents or does the name need some updating?

So you're thinking maybe a person without children shouldn't have an interest in entertainment, jobs, health.. ?

No that’s not what I’m saying. I only found DCUM a few months ago because I was looking for a forum for parents. If I didn’t have kids I probably wouldn’t care to read a forum called DC Urban MOM. I was just wondering why it was even called that if it’s not just for parents.

I'm wondering how those of you who have kids but have no time for your friends find so much time to devote to this site.

Also gotta love someone who's been here a few months gatekeeping with people who've been here for years, perhaps even decades.

Gatekeeping?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, as a single, childless woman, I have to say, this is a mean thing to do to people you considered friends.

However, you are not alone. Many of my friends have dropped me once they have kids.

I now consider baby showers to essentially be going away parties for my friendship, because I know there is a good chance my friends will drop me and focus on only having mom friends.

It's pretty mean.

What the everlasting f are you doing on a toddler forum?

For the love of god, why don’t people like you understand that people read the “recent topics” forum? That is the only one I read. And this topic relates to me.

Right, but this is still a forum geared towards parents. It is bizarre that you read and post here. It is deeply, deeply pathetic to frequent a forum for parents when you are childless. Serious question, do your friends who have children know you post on here?

I do wonder about that. Is DCUM meant for parents or does the name need some updating?

So you're thinking maybe a person without children shouldn't have an interest in entertainment, jobs, health.. ?

No that’s not what I’m saying. I only found DCUM a few months ago because I was looking for a forum for parents. If I didn’t have kids I probably wouldn’t care to read a forum called DC Urban MOM. I was just wondering why it was even called that if it’s not just for parents.

I'm wondering how those of you who have kids but have no time for your friends find so much time to devote to this site.

Also gotta love someone who's been here a few months gatekeeping with people who've been here for years, perhaps even decades.

Gatekeeping?

The constant, tiresome questioning about why we're here, don't we know that the word MOMS is in the name, we have nothing to contribute, etc etc. That's called gatekeeping.

And look lady, who finally knows what love and purpose are now that you go to approx 15 soccer games per week, we kid-free DCUMers been addicted to this site since before you googled your way here, and we'll be here long after you decide that you can't stand one more battle over whether work from home is here to stay or definitely on its way out. You probably don't even know what lightly fried tuna means, or why it's funny when anyone mentions the word capris.

So whine all you want that people without kids just don't get it - you are certainly the first person in the world to wonder whether yourself, perhaps even life itself, has changed now that you have children - but save your newcomers' hubris that you get to decide who spends time on this site.

[Anonymous]

It's sad you have lost yourself.

[Anonymous]

Frankly, this site is the best BC there is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, as a single, childless woman, I have to say, this is a mean thing to do to people you considered friends.

However, you are not alone. Many of my friends have dropped me once they have kids.

I now consider baby showers to essentially be going away parties for my friendship, because I know there is a good chance my friends will drop me and focus on only having mom friends.

It's pretty mean.

What the everlasting f are you doing on a toddler forum?

For the love of god, why don’t people like you understand that people read the “recent topics” forum? That is the only one I read. And this topic relates to me.

Right, but this is still a forum geared towards parents. It is bizarre that you read and post here. It is deeply, deeply pathetic to frequent a forum for parents when you are childless. Serious question, do your friends who have children know you post on here?

I do wonder about that. Is DCUM meant for parents or does the name need some updating?

So you're thinking maybe a person without children shouldn't have an interest in entertainment, jobs, health.. ?

No that’s not what I’m saying. I only found DCUM a few months ago because I was looking for a forum for parents. If I didn’t have kids I probably wouldn’t care to read a forum called DC Urban MOM. I was just wondering why it was even called that if it’s not just for parents.

I'm wondering how those of you who have kids but have no time for your friends find so much time to devote to this site.

Also gotta love someone who's been here a few months gatekeeping with people who've been here for years, perhaps even decades.

Gatekeeping?

The constant, tiresome questioning about why we're here, don't we know that the word MOMS is in the name, we have nothing to contribute, etc etc. That's called gatekeeping.

And look lady, who finally knows what love and purpose are now that you go to approx 15 soccer games per week, we kid-free DCUMers been addicted to this site since before you googled your way here, and we'll be here long after you decide that you can't stand one more battle over whether work from home is here to stay or definitely on its way out. You probably don't even know what lightly fried tuna means, or why it's funny when anyone mentions the word capris.

So whine all you want that people without kids just don't get it - you are certainly the first person in the world to wonder whether yourself, perhaps even life itself, has changed now that you have children - but save your newcomers' hubris that you get to decide who spends time on this site.

Ok….glad you got that off your chest. I don’t know what the big deal is about wondering whether a forum with “mom” attracts a lot of non-parents. I have no issue with you being on here and aren’t one of the new posters who objected.

Not sure how to respond to everything else you wrote…shrugs.

[Anonymous]

If the moms are concerned about non parents being on this site, they can go to Website Feedback and ask the owner and moderator if non-parents are allowed. I'm sure he'd love that.