Are male babysitters not a thing here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is anonymous so I will be honest. I am not hiring a male to watch my children. My children are males. I don’t want them influenced or encouraged to see this as normal for men.

Wow. You sound dumb.

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Anonymous wrote:I have two boys, I would not hire a male babysitter. I just wouldn’t. I realize it’s a double standard, but I was molester by a male babysitter and it’s not worth the risk for me.

You will one day reap the irony of failing to trust young men when your young men are not trusted one day.

Oh shut up. What kind of parent would put their kids in the same situation they were molested in.

Ok. Just be prepared for your kids to always be viewed as pedophiles.

It's ok. My son will get over the discrimination over babysitting and daycare jobs.

We get it. You’re a sexist pig. No need to keep doubling down.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't hire a 14 year old - my kids are 8 and 10.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As the mother of a son it is so depressing that so many otherwise smart people view him as a potential pedophile. It’s a horrible way to treat people.

I wouldn’t view him as a potential pedo, but l won’t take the risk anyways. Plenty of female babysitters out there.

Who are more likely to abuse kids than males.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Correct. The DMV is very conservative, though they think they're progressive. One of several reasons we left.

This is so true

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As the mother of a son it is so depressing that so many otherwise smart people view him as a potential pedophile. It’s a horrible way to treat people.

I wouldn’t view him as a potential pedo, but l won’t take the risk anyways. Plenty of female babysitters out there.

Who are more likely to abuse kids than males.

"An estimated 91% of victims of rape & sexual assault are female and 9% male. Nearly 99% of perpetrators are male"

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Anonymous wrote:As the mother of a son it is so depressing that so many otherwise smart people view him as a potential pedophile. It’s a horrible way to treat people.

I wouldn’t view him as a potential pedo, but l won’t take the risk anyways. Plenty of female babysitters out there.

Who are more likely to abuse kids than males.

"An estimated 91% of victims of rape & sexual assault are female and 9% male. Nearly 99% of perpetrators are male"

I think PP meant physical abuse. There are more types of abuse than just sexual abuse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As the mother of a son it is so depressing that so many otherwise smart people view him as a potential pedophile. It’s a horrible way to treat people.

I wouldn’t view him as a potential pedo, but l won’t take the risk anyways. Plenty of female babysitters out there.

Who are more likely to abuse kids than males.

"An estimated 91% of victims of rape & sexual assault are female and 9% male. Nearly 99% of perpetrators are male"

“ Of sexual abuse cases reported to law enforcement, 93% of juvenile victims knew the perpetrator: 59% were acquaintances.”

I can quote stats too!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As the mother of a son it is so depressing that so many otherwise smart people view him as a potential pedophile. It’s a horrible way to treat people.

I wouldn’t view him as a potential pedo, but l won’t take the risk anyways. Plenty of female babysitters out there.

Who are more likely to abuse kids than males.

"An estimated 91% of victims of rape & sexual assault are female and 9% male. Nearly 99% of perpetrators are male"

“ Of sexual abuse cases reported to law enforcement, 93% of juvenile victims knew the perpetrator: 59% were acquaintances.”

I can quote stats too!

What are you trying to say? I'm pretty sure a babysitter would qualify as someone the victims "knew" as opposed to a random perpetrator jumping out of the bushes

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As the mother of a son it is so depressing that so many otherwise smart people view him as a potential pedophile. It’s a horrible way to treat people.

I wouldn’t view him as a potential pedo, but l won’t take the risk anyways. Plenty of female babysitters out there.

Who are more likely to abuse kids than males.

"An estimated 91% of victims of rape & sexual assault are female and 9% male. Nearly 99% of perpetrators are male"

I think PP meant physical abuse. There are more types of abuse than just sexual abuse.

Yeah but physical abuse, none the less tragic, is usually perpetrated by parents not an occasional sitter (largely by moms since they are the caretakers). Post-partum depression and distress is generally ignored and mothers hurt their babies or kill themselves. In France for example, port-partum suicide claims more lives than post-partum hemorrhage.

[Anonymous]

A sea change of more men breaking from traditional domestic and occupational roles to enter the field of education would indeed help:
1) deconstruct toxic cycles where boys are taught they need to be the primary bread winner and threatened by women earning more.
2) shift societal “norms” where men seem to by default not share or even assume the majority of childcare responsibilities

Why this will never happen…

how many boys in their right mind would knowingly enter a field where they will:
1) be paid less to be in a work environment dominated by the female majority where they will still be blamed for the misogynist constructs that benefit the men who did not take the same noble career path.
2) be labeled by many as a possible pedophile for going into education

And should that male educator happen to find themselves in one of the 50% of marriages that don’t work out and they have children, they’ll find themselves a single dad that will be looked down upon for receiving child support, have limited options as a result for attracting a new partner, and still be questioned for their intentions as a male educator.

Not clamoring to encourage my boys to take that path to be a martyr for what would be more beneficial to society overall (and the advancement of women).

Sorry for also sidetracking the original question about babysitting. But some of the responses speak to deeper questions that are related to why it’s probably best to encourage your son to find other options for earning extra money just in case they actually find themselves talented in connecting with and teaching children. Society won’t support it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A sea change of more men breaking from traditional domestic and occupational roles to enter the field of education would indeed help:
1) deconstruct toxic cycles where boys are taught they need to be the primary bread winner and threatened by women earning more.
2) shift societal “norms” where men seem to by default not share or even assume the majority of childcare responsibilities

Why this will never happen…

how many boys in their right mind would knowingly enter a field where they will:
1) be paid less to be in a work environment dominated by the female majority where they will still be blamed for the misogynist constructs that benefit the men who did not take the same noble career path.
2) be labeled by many as a possible pedophile for going into education

And should that male educator happen to find themselves in one of the 50% of marriages that don’t work out and they have children, they’ll find themselves a single dad that will be looked down upon for receiving child support, have limited options as a result for attracting a new partner, and still be questioned for their intentions as a male educator.

Not clamoring to encourage my boys to take that path to be a martyr for what would be more beneficial to society overall (and the advancement of women).

Sorry for also sidetracking the original question about babysitting. But some of the responses speak to deeper questions that are related to why it’s probably best to encourage your son to find other options for earning extra money just in case they actually find themselves talented in connecting with and teaching children. Society won’t support it.

It's never going to change until those jobs are better paid. Even women are turning away from them now (I'm thinking about teachers, nurses). Increase the pay and attract more men and women. We particularly need more men in education.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A sea change of more men breaking from traditional domestic and occupational roles to enter the field of education would indeed help:
1) deconstruct toxic cycles where boys are taught they need to be the primary bread winner and threatened by women earning more.
2) shift societal “norms” where men seem to by default not share or even assume the majority of childcare responsibilities

Why this will never happen…

how many boys in their right mind would knowingly enter a field where they will:
1) be paid less to be in a work environment dominated by the female majority where they will still be blamed for the misogynist constructs that benefit the men who did not take the same noble career path.
2) be labeled by many as a possible pedophile for going into education

And should that male educator happen to find themselves in one of the 50% of marriages that don’t work out and they have children, they’ll find themselves a single dad that will be looked down upon for receiving child support, have limited options as a result for attracting a new partner, and still be questioned for their intentions as a male educator.

Not clamoring to encourage my boys to take that path to be a martyr for what would be more beneficial to society overall (and the advancement of women).

Sorry for also sidetracking the original question about babysitting. But some of the responses speak to deeper questions that are related to why it’s probably best to encourage your son to find other options for earning extra money just in case they actually find themselves talented in connecting with and teaching children. Society won’t support it.

It's never going to change until those jobs are better paid. Even women are turning away from them now (I'm thinking about teachers, nurses). Increase the pay and attract more men and women. We particularly need more men in education.

Let me add that it's interesting to see how some professions were highly regarded when done by men (like teachers) but when women started taking those jobs the profession dropped in prestige and remuneration. My job used to be super fancy when only men were doing it. Not so much the case now that we are mostly women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A sea change of more men breaking from traditional domestic and occupational roles to enter the field of education would indeed help:
1) deconstruct toxic cycles where boys are taught they need to be the primary bread winner and threatened by women earning more.
2) shift societal “norms” where men seem to by default not share or even assume the majority of childcare responsibilities

Why this will never happen…

how many boys in their right mind would knowingly enter a field where they will:
1) be paid less to be in a work environment dominated by the female majority where they will still be blamed for the misogynist constructs that benefit the men who did not take the same noble career path.
2) be labeled by many as a possible pedophile for going into education

And should that male educator happen to find themselves in one of the 50% of marriages that don’t work out and they have children, they’ll find themselves a single dad that will be looked down upon for receiving child support, have limited options as a result for attracting a new partner, and still be questioned for their intentions as a male educator.

Not clamoring to encourage my boys to take that path to be a martyr for what would be more beneficial to society overall (and the advancement of women).

Sorry for also sidetracking the original question about babysitting. But some of the responses speak to deeper questions that are related to why it’s probably best to encourage your son to find other options for earning extra money just in case they actually find themselves talented in connecting with and teaching children. Society won’t support it.

It's never going to change until those jobs are better paid. Even women are turning away from them now (I'm thinking about teachers, nurses). Increase the pay and attract more men and women. We particularly need more men in education.

Let me add that it's interesting to see how some professions were highly regarded when done by men (like teachers) but when women started taking those jobs the profession dropped in prestige and remuneration. My job used to be super fancy when only men were doing it. Not so much the case now that we are mostly women.

what is your job? secretary?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have two boys, I would not hire a male babysitter. I just wouldn’t. I realize it’s a double standard, but I was molester by a male babysitter and it’s not worth the risk for me.

You will one day reap the irony of failing to trust young men when your young men are not trusted one day.

Oh shut up. What kind of parent would put their kids in the same situation they were molested in.

Ok. Just be prepared for your kids to always be viewed as pedophiles.

It's ok. My son will get over the discrimination over babysitting and daycare jobs.

We get it. You’re a sexist pig. No need to keep doubling down.

Yep and it’s the same person that will be complaining later on in life that her husband isn’t nurturing towards kids Or know how to take care of them, because they were being blocked and labeled at an early age. These parents don’t understand the stats. Start watching male family members more than a 14 year old babysitter as stats back up that the parents should be more concerned about family molesting their children. Parents here seem to hate facts and evidence.