We're not talking about possibilities. The fact is that it's not YOUNG. On the spectrum of age of childbearing its at the far end. Just as much as 16 as the other end. Which would be young. |
For you. Not for those of us with desire, means and ample fertility. |
Claire Danes didn't wait until 40+ - it's her third child. That matters. |
Dang, she's only 43? Skinny white women age faster. |
My MIL was an "oops change of life baby" 70 year ago - her Mom was 44 when she was born. My MIL had two siblings, 18 and 15 years older than her. So yes, it happens and has happened for many years. |
If 43 is too old to have a baby, I’m curious what IS the oldest acceptable age according to this harsh crowd?
Also, maybe it was an accident and she decided to keep it. |
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The IVF nurse is implying a lot of women are lying about donor eggs. Celebs maybe, but let's not act as every woman has access to the resources for donor eggs. Implying that is ridiculous. |
The part that flew right over your head is that the nurse was saying that lots of women *who are definitely using donor eggs* do not disclose that fact to anyone. She wasn’t implying that practically every 40-something woman who gets pregnant used donor eggs. She specifically said that only 10% of IVF cycles involve donor eggs. |
Most women aren't "banking on it." But implying that women can't get pregnant in their 40s, especially for those of us who have a history of established fertility in 30s/especially late 30s is also doing just a big a disservice. Unplanned pregnancies are not fun. Most women in their 40s, including mid and late, unless you have a history of infertility should be taking precautions unless they are okay with getting pregnant. |
She was trying to discount people's stories of women in their family and friends circles who got pregnant late by saying women who use donor eggs don't tell. I'm sure that is true, but not everyone uses donor eggs. |
+1 My 75-year old aunt was born when my grandmother was 46, the last of her seven children. I’m reasonably certain IVF and donor eggs were not a thing back then. |
your RE has lost her marbles. she only sees people who struggle to conceive and started to believe that's all that happens. my grandmother had her last child at 46 and I had my third at 45. no, it was not IVF. don't gamble and wait till your 40s to start having children, but don't assume every 42+ mom used donor eggs, either. |
Same time period, my mother was born when my grandmother was 45. She was the second child, my uncle was born (first pregnancy) when she was 43. |
Lol. There is NO woman in her 40s with “ample” fertility. You might beat the odds and get pregnant at 42 but fertility is not ample. We’d all love to believe that we have the fertility of a 22 year old but fertility declines with age. Basic facts |