Your sleeveless fleece vest is very nice |
OP. I will offer advice, as this thread has gone off the rails. Private schools are, first and foremost, a business, and every school has its issues. I've been around a while and have plenty of opinions of Potomac's strengths and weaknesses, but those insights have happened over time. You won't get particularly get amazing insight from a new parent, or truthfully from the breezy booster types who "love" the school. Look for parents who seem to be grounded and are willing to offer answers to concrete questions. Your acquaintances' feelings about Potomac can be a data point but should be a relatively small one because your top goal is to figure out fit for your kids. The reality is that the beautiful campus, lovely events, etc feel good for parents who are writing big checks. No one can tell you if Potomac or any private school is "worth it" because there are many personal variables at stake. Your job as a parent is to determine fit and quality of the program. Stop your mindset of "getting in" and instead look at a range of schools to understand differing approaches, curricula, etc. Even if the school isn't one where you'd like to apply owing to geographic and other factors, go to open houses, check out campuses. Be an informed consumer. If you think you might want to be there long-term, talk with US parents. Ask about leadership, counseling support, the learning centers. Also, if you do decide to go to a private school, stay plugged in and evaluate fit as your kids change. You can always adjust as needed, but really do your homework up front, as it does become more complicated to switch with friend groups etc. |
Are you kidding me? Have some decency. |
All vests are sleeveless. 🤔 |
So you are keeping your kid somewhere they struggle? Ok. |
In my experience, it's families like this who so value the social aspects and elitism of the school that they won't make a change. They are also the ones oblivious to the broader issues. My spouse is one of them. My kids have all hated the school but spouse refused to pull them and spouse pays the bills. |
Not pp, but academic “struggle” can be fine, even good. There are so many threads here about wanting kids to be “challenged” when they are breezing through material. Learning should feel difficult sometimes, and it seems like this student’s teachers are providing support so they can learn. |
+1000 |
+1,000,000. Do your homework and research and look beyond the glossy prospectus and beautiful campuses. Those are marketing and PR( and they work). You have to determine fit for your child and family and constantly reflect. Particular at each new level. 4th grade is not 9th grade and your kids won’t be the same at each point. |
making an awful lot over honor council. are there any other roles that are hand-picked? |
That’s a sad and unhealthy state for your kids and you to live in. |
+1,000,000. Do you homework and ask US parents about admin. Cant stress this one enough. From our experience, the pressure-cooker environment comes from the US school environment and curriculum, not from the students and competition with each other. |
Your daughter was called stupid more that once? By the same teacher or different teachers? That is terrible. |
Of course we are keeping them there. There will be struggles everywhere they go in life and it's okay. They are learning how to manage their time, advocate for themselves, work hard, have fun, be a part of a wonderful community, play sports, appreciate the arts, value the teachers who offer extra support and...know that Bs and Cs at a school like Potomac are OK. We don't want or need them to attend an Ivy League college. And we are extremely confident that they will be very well prepared for the college of their choice. Struggle is not a bad word. Their mental health seems just fine because I believe we have a healthy attitude towards school at home. And we appreciate that while Potomac US is very academically rigorous, our kid is up for the challenge, regardless of grades. |
OP - building on this post above. If you are starting with younger kids and you are interested in finding the fit mentioned by PP, you probably want to consider some of the strong k-8 schools in the area. (Langley is near Potomac, Norwood is just across the bridge...etc) These k-8 schools tend to be child centered and can focus on lower and middle school education and well-being without the pressures that come with running HS programs. It also means the school is not as focused with their "brand name" (and the same can be said for most of the families at the k-8). Another benefit is that as your child matures, you know far more about them as a student to find a good HS match. HS is intense in the DMV, no matter where you go. And it's just impossible to know how your child will be able to navigate various cultures until they go through middle school. It's also helpful that k-8 will know your kid and the HS options and they have formal process to help you in the admissions process. Our children went this route and one is currently at a highly competitive DMV school. I would never trade in those pre-HS years at the k-8 to be at a Big 3/Big 5 earlier. They received a great education that was nurturing but also gave them public speaking skills and prepared them for rigorous HS academics. |