Anyone's kid still undecided?

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Anonymous wrote:Still undecided at 8:00 Saturday night. None of the schools is the perfect choice. It will have to just be a good enough choice.

These threads are driving me nuts. It’s not that deep, at this point the kid needs to make a gut decision. In life, once you’ve weighed the pros and cons, you make the gut decision. Shouldn’t be this hard.

When you only got into safeties that you didn’t expect to have to choose from, and they’re fairly similar with none standing out over the other, or with each having one significant flaw that you need to decide you can live with, then yes it can be hard.

Visit both and pick one! Not hard. They can allwsys transfer.

Some people are a little less cavalier about major life decisions than you.

DP exactly what I was thinking. Glad ppp's kid was able to make a choice and hope they feel good about it.

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Anonymous wrote:Still undecided at 8:00 Saturday night. None of the schools is the perfect choice. It will have to just be a good enough choice.

These threads are driving me nuts. It’s not that deep, at this point the kid needs to make a gut decision. In life, once you’ve weighed the pros and cons, you make the gut decision. Shouldn’t be this hard.

When you only got into safeties that you didn’t expect to have to choose from, and they’re fairly similar with none standing out over the other, or with each having one significant flaw that you need to decide you can live with, then yes it can be hard.

Visit both and pick one! Not hard. They can allwsys transfer.

My kid already decided but this PP shows a shocking lack of empathy.

Agreed.

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Anonymous wrote:Mine decided yesterday. I was like, just have a decision logged at some point Friday. It's Brown for the win!!!!

I am so happy for you! And I am an NU alum, too, with one dc who graduated in 2020.

My honest opinion: NU is a great school, but it's not worth $83k. If my dc had lived in a dorm senior year, it would have cost $71k (it was less because dc lived in an apartment). That was just three years ago! There's a point where you just say it's ridiculous and steer your kids to other schools.

Thank you!! To be fair, NU offered good financial aid, but Brown was about 8k less in the end, which does make a difference. And, I'm excited about students being able to propose things and get grant money for that purpose.

Another point in favor of Brown is that it is consistently on the list of "happiest" schools, while NU never is. Before people start slamming this as a fluff reason, I have hired several relatively recent NU graduates (graduated pre covid, but within the past five years), and all of them said, in one form or another, that while they got an excellent education, the students were grim and unfriendly, and many students couldn't seem to find the balance between being ultra competitive and being a kind human being. One of my hires was very depressed at one point and contemplated suicide. We have relatives in the Chicago area and took a tour of the school while visiting a month ago. The students did not look happy, and we did not get a warm vibe. By contrast, I hear good things about the Brown campus.

Of course, this is an extremely limited data set, but it does not inspire confidence.

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Anonymous wrote:16 hours and 23 mins to go and still no decision!

Oh, my!!! Get that decision in, Kid! What are they deciding between?

7 hours and 23 mins ans still no decision! DD actually asked if we could put deposits down at both schools. It’s gonna be a long night.

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Anonymous wrote:16 hours and 23 mins to go and still no decision!

Oh, my!!! Get that decision in, Kid! What are they deciding between?

7 hours and 23 mins ans still no decision! DD actually asked if we could put deposits down at both schools. It’s gonna be a long night.

What are the two schools?

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Anonymous wrote:16 hours and 23 mins to go and still no decision!

Oh, my!!! Get that decision in, Kid! What are they deciding between?

7 hours and 23 mins ans still no decision! DD actually asked if we could put deposits down at both schools. It’s gonna be a long night.

Is that possible?
Do you just loose $250-400.

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Anonymous wrote:16 hours and 23 mins to go and still no decision!

Oh, my!!! Get that decision in, Kid! What are they deciding between?

7 hours and 23 mins ans still no decision! DD actually asked if we could put deposits down at both schools. It’s gonna be a long night.

Just make them choose. I told my kid that she decided yesterday by 6p or I decided for her.

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Anonymous wrote:Kind of curious what happens if someone misses the deadline? I assume it is not a big deal if you miss it by a day or two. It is not like they will immediately give your spot to the waitlist.

Deadlines are deadlines. I would not risk it.

Absolutely THIS

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Anonymous wrote:Mine decided yesterday. I was like, just have a decision logged at some point Friday. It's Brown for the win!!!!

I am so happy for you! And I am an NU alum, too, with one dc who graduated in 2020.

My honest opinion: NU is a great school, but it's not worth $83k. If my dc had lived in a dorm senior year, it would have cost $71k (it was less because dc lived in an apartment). That was just three years ago! There's a point where you just say it's ridiculous and steer your kids to other schools.

Thank you!! To be fair, NU offered good financial aid, but Brown was about 8k less in the end, which does make a difference. And, I'm excited about students being able to propose things and get grant money for that purpose.

Another point in favor of Brown is that it is consistently on the list of "happiest" schools, while NU never is. Before people start slamming this as a fluff reason, I have hired several relatively recent NU graduates (graduated pre covid, but within the past five years), and all of them said, in one form or another, that while they got an excellent education, the students were grim and unfriendly, and many students couldn't seem to find the balance between being ultra competitive and being a kind human being. One of my hires was very depressed at one point and contemplated suicide. We have relatives in the Chicago area and took a tour of the school while visiting a month ago. The students did not look happy, and we did not get a warm vibe. By contrast, I hear good things about the Brown campus.

Of course, this is an extremely limited data set, but it does not inspire confidence.

The campus feel and read of accepted students definitely played into her decision. Brown was more her people and environs. Also, she's in a competitive magnet now and is really craving a collaborative atmosphere. Very excited for Brown.

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Anonymous wrote:16 hours and 23 mins to go and still no decision!

Oh, my!!! Get that decision in, Kid! What are they deciding between?

7 hours and 23 mins ans still no decision! DD actually asked if we could put deposits down at both schools. It’s gonna be a long night.

PP here. Oh no! What are you oscillating between? Schools? What they offer? Environment? Program?

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Anonymous wrote:Still undecided at 8:00 Saturday night. None of the schools is the perfect choice. It will have to just be a good enough choice.

These threads are driving me nuts. It’s not that deep, at this point the kid needs to make a gut decision. In life, once you’ve weighed the pros and cons, you make the gut decision. Shouldn’t be this hard.

When you only got into safeties that you didn’t expect to have to choose from, and they’re fairly similar with none standing out over the other, or with each having one significant flaw that you need to decide you can live with, then yes it can be hard.

Visit both and pick one! Not hard. They can allwsys transfer.

Some people are a little less cavalier about major life decisions than you.

DP exactly what I was thinking. Glad ppp's kid was able to make a choice and hope they feel good about it.

yep they did ED so the decision was made back in December and there are absolutely no regrets. Good luck to all of you with kids who can't make a decision... and I truly mean that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:16 hours and 23 mins to go and still no decision!

Oh, my!!! Get that decision in, Kid! What are they deciding between?

7 hours and 23 mins ans still no decision! DD actually asked if we could put deposits down at both schools. It’s gonna be a long night.

Just make them choose. I told my kid that she decided yesterday by 6p or I decided for her.

I would so do that as well. Good for you mom. These kids really need to learn that life is about choices and living with those choices. This might be their first big choice, but it will not my ANY means be their last.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine decided yesterday. I was like, just have a decision logged at some point Friday. It's Brown for the win!!!!

I am so happy for you! And I am an NU alum, too, with one dc who graduated in 2020.

My honest opinion: NU is a great school, but it's not worth $83k. If my dc had lived in a dorm senior year, it would have cost $71k (it was less because dc lived in an apartment). That was just three years ago! There's a point where you just say it's ridiculous and steer your kids to other schools.

Thank you!! To be fair, NU offered good financial aid, but Brown was about 8k less in the end, which does make a difference. And, I'm excited about students being able to propose things and get grant money for that purpose.

Another point in favor of Brown is that it is consistently on the list of "happiest" schools, while NU never is. Before people start slamming this as a fluff reason, I have hired several relatively recent NU graduates (graduated pre covid, but within the past five years), and all of them said, in one form or another, that while they got an excellent education, the students were grim and unfriendly, and many students couldn't seem to find the balance between being ultra competitive and being a kind human being. One of my hires was very depressed at one point and contemplated suicide. We have relatives in the Chicago area and took a tour of the school while visiting a month ago. The students did not look happy, and we did not get a warm vibe. By contrast, I hear good things about the Brown campus.

Of course, this is an extremely limited data set, but it does not inspire confidence.

This was not at all the vibe we got when touring.

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SO? I am assuming these kids finally made decisions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:SO? I am assuming these kids finally made decisions?

My kid made their decision and has been in tears the last week, regretting their decision. Unfortunately, they declined all the other offers, and now they don't have a choice unless they want to wait until the spring. We were a little surprised at the school our child chose. Although it is a school that would be considered "better" by the stats, we thought the other one was a better fit. I wish we had double deposited. If we have this same issue with our next two children, we will double deposit. I realize some of you will tell me this is wrong (you already did), but I really regret not doing it.