Anyone's kid still undecided?

[Anonymous]

We thought so, but DC got off a waitlist today with a half-tuition merit award (unexpected from a WL, but scores were above the 75th%). Letting that one sink in a day or two more before deciding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, we are here as well. She has two options we think are great. However, she is still hung up on two other schools that we ruled out because she didn’t get any merit. I think she will come around soon.

Why why do you people let your kids apply to schools you can’t afford and have no intention of letting them attend? It’s crappy to both your kid and other kids who didn’t get that spot and have parents who can afford it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yup. I've posted before, but he really would like to go to Indiana's School of Music. He got wait-listed there. So, he went ahead and accepted admission to the University.

Meanwhile, however, if he doesn't go to the IU School of Music he'd rather go to either Purdue or Michigan State for computer science. But he hasn't chosen which.

I share the PP's worry about an Internet outage or some other random disaster.

Do you guys live in the 90s and only have desktop computers?

Starbucks free Wi-Fi, friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We thought so, but DC got off a waitlist today with a half-tuition merit award (unexpected from a WL, but scores were above the 75th%). Letting that one sink in a day or two more before deciding.

Was this CWRU?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, we are here as well. She has two options we think are great. However, she is still hung up on two other schools that we ruled out because she didn’t get any merit. I think she will come around soon.

Why why do you people let your kids apply to schools you can’t afford and have no intention of letting them attend? It’s crappy to both your kid and other kids who didn’t get that spot and have parents who can afford it.

Because you don’t know what merit aid you’ll get when you apply. And because financial situations can change.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, we are here as well. She has two options we think are great. However, she is still hung up on two other schools that we ruled out because she didn’t get any merit. I think she will come around soon.

Why why do you people let your kids apply to schools you can’t afford and have no intention of letting them attend? It’s crappy to both your kid and other kids who didn’t get that spot and have parents who can afford it.

Because you don’t know what merit aid you’ll get when you apply. And because financial situations can change.[/quote

What PP said. Because the merit is completely unpredictable you might as well try. Eyes wide open and corresponding chats with the kid. Try harder to be such a 1% bitxh in another way since you can afford it and want that spot.

[Anonymous]

DS is deciding:

Option A: Harvard, undecided major
Option B: University of Indiana school of music, and he wants to major in music,
Option C: Go to work for my BIL in Palo Alto startup company, or my SIL who is a SVP at one of the venture capital there,

He has until tomorrow afternoon to make a decision. At the moment, he is leaning toward option B.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, we are here as well. She has two options we think are great. However, she is still hung up on two other schools that we ruled out because she didn’t get any merit. I think she will come around soon.

Why why do you people let your kids apply to schools you can’t afford and have no intention of letting them attend? It’s crappy to both your kid and other kids who didn’t get that spot and have parents who can afford it.

I never said we couldn’t afford it; we can. However, she knew that she needed to be offered merit money to attend. She received significant merit money from other schools, including two similarly ranked ones that didn’t provide any. If we thought they were worth the additional $100,000 or she could clearly explain why they were, we would move forward. We know she will get an excellent education, be happy at these other schools, and learn a lesson about being fiscally responsible and not always getting everything you want.

I’m not sure how to respond to being “crappy” and her taking another kid’s spot. If schools were more clear about merit and the actual costs to attend, that would help significantly.

By the way, these (T40) schools are often ridiculed on DCUM, so if I had said we were paying full tuition, another person would post about how awful those schools were and why would we ever pay that much. You can’t win with this crowd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We thought so, but DC got off a waitlist today with a half-tuition merit award (unexpected from a WL, but scores were above the 75th%). Letting that one sink in a day or two more before deciding.

Wow. Congrats!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, we are here as well. She has two options we think are great. However, she is still hung up on two other schools that we ruled out because she didn’t get any merit. I think she will come around soon.

Oh, that's a tough one. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, we are here as well. She has two options we think are great. However, she is still hung up on two other schools that we ruled out because she didn’t get any merit. I think she will come around soon.

Why why do you people let your kids apply to schools you can’t afford and have no intention of letting them attend? It’s crappy to both your kid and other kids who didn’t get that spot and have parents who can afford it.

I never said we couldn’t afford it; we can. However, she knew that she needed to be offered merit money to attend. She received significant merit money from other schools, including two similarly ranked ones that didn’t provide any. If we thought they were worth the additional $100,000 or she could clearly explain why they were, we would move forward. We know she will get an excellent education, be happy at these other schools, and learn a lesson about being fiscally responsible and not always getting everything you want.

I’m not sure how to respond to being “crappy” and her taking another kid’s spot. If schools were more clear about merit and the actual costs to attend, that would help significantly.

By the way, these (T40) schools are often ridiculed on DCUM, so if I had said we were paying full tuition, another person would post about how awful those schools were and why would we ever pay that much. You can’t win with this crowd.

So true. So true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yup. I've posted before, but he really would like to go to Indiana's School of Music. He got wait-listed there. So, he went ahead and accepted admission to the University.

Meanwhile, however, if he doesn't go to the IU School of Music he'd rather go to either Purdue or Michigan State for computer science. But he hasn't chosen which.

I share the PP's worry about an Internet outage or some other random disaster.

I am making kid decide by tomorrow as well so we don't have any internet issues!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We thought so, but DC got off a waitlist today with a half-tuition merit award (unexpected from a WL, but scores were above the 75th%). Letting that one sink in a day or two more before deciding.

My kid hasn’t committed yet, either. I think he isn’t very excited about his choices and hopes something like this happens to him (even though he knows it won’t).

Can you name the school where your child got off the WL and got money?

[Anonymous]

Can you commit to two schools if you feel you need extra time to decide or is it frowned upon?

[Anonymous]

How much does saving money play into decisions? This is so hard for DD (& me). DD accepted to great schools. Top 2 choices are NU and Brown. Both offered aid to get within what we would be willing to pay w/ no loans. NU has better major specific program (theatre performance and music theatre composing), but she is not completely sure about major. and is interested in math and music (which would be limited to composing minor at NU). Brown has open curriculum, no limitations and is more her atmosphere, she could triple major, and I think the name carries a little more cache, but theatre curriculum for her interests is thin and grad classes in theatre are not open to UG. Brown is currently $6k cheaper and may be more when we get a final review from FA. I feel like the choice tips heavily to either one based on what she wants, which keeps shifting. Both schools offer great reputations, faculty, and flexibility, so she has win either way. So, how heavily would 6-10k savings per year factor in for others? My thought is that that could buy a lot of area specific workshops or be a nice grad or law school nest egg. Also, if she did want to go into her primary field, Brown has a great MFA program, which I think is free. And, they seem to like their own. But, the NU program seems so cool. I think of cost were equal, she would choose NU.

PS. No need to weigh in on quality if music programs, that's been covered (thanks for all the info), and I think it would drive others crazy! Ha ha