Siblings with birthdays within weeks of each other

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Anonymous wrote:Unless they decide they want a joint party, two parties. Each kid gets their own party.

Yep. But we don’t throw lavish events - cupcakes from a box, a Costco thing of chips, and a playground = party.

Ugh. I hate those parties. Especially the ones like that where you are expected to bring a gift.

+ 1. I’m sorry, PP, but I really hate those parties too unless it’s absolutely a no gift party.

+1 I really dislike these parties as well. It's not about the gifts. I don't care if I have to bring or not. It's more that it doesn't really feel like a party. As a parent I have to stay because I'm not comfortable leaving them in an open public park. There isn't anywhere for parents to sit, no coffee or snacks for parents. And there typically are not bathrooms. It's really not a well hosted party.

+3. With or without a gift expectation I hate park parties! It’s the park my kids go to everyday except with cupcakes. Nothing special about it.

+4. I loathe them too. I always feel so bad for the other kids at the park who look at the cupcakes and party favors longingly. Such a cheap-assed way to celebrate your kid’s birthday.

Its an invitation not a summons. You are free to decline. (Or just get over your petty annoyance. My kids still have fun at park parties - its still a treat to have all their friends there.)

We do decline. It’s not a “treat” for my kids or me.

I’m sorry the truth hurts you. Most people hate the park-party. We aren’t being petty, we’re being honest. Don’t give a party every year and you can afford a real party.

I don't have park parties - my kids have winter birthdays. But I'm happy to attend them and haven't noticed any lack of attendance by others. So glad my friends aren't like you, judging people over their lack of lavish kid birthday parties.

I'm more judgemental about people who spend 1,000 over a preschool birthday party

Not me! I love a party that fun for all attendees! Give me a crepe station and coffee bar while my kids are being entertained by the Beat Buds any day of the week. And include siblings!

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My kids are 3 days apart. Each get their own friends party.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless they decide they want a joint party, two parties. Each kid gets their own party.

Yep. But we don’t throw lavish events - cupcakes from a box, a Costco thing of chips, and a playground = party.

Ugh. I hate those parties. Especially the ones like that where you are expected to bring a gift.

+ 1. I’m sorry, PP, but I really hate those parties too unless it’s absolutely a no gift party.

+1 I really dislike these parties as well. It's not about the gifts. I don't care if I have to bring or not. It's more that it doesn't really feel like a party. As a parent I have to stay because I'm not comfortable leaving them in an open public park. There isn't anywhere for parents to sit, no coffee or snacks for parents. And there typically are not bathrooms. It's really not a well hosted party.

+3. With or without a gift expectation I hate park parties! It’s the park my kids go to everyday except with cupcakes. Nothing special about it.

+4. I loathe them too. I always feel so bad for the other kids at the park who look at the cupcakes and party favors longingly. Such a cheap-assed way to celebrate your kid’s birthday.

Its an invitation not a summons. You are free to decline. (Or just get over your petty annoyance. My kids still have fun at park parties - its still a treat to have all their friends there.)

We do decline. It’s not a “treat” for my kids or me.

I’m sorry the truth hurts you. Most people hate the park-party. We aren’t being petty, we’re being honest. Don’t give a party every year and you can afford a real party.

I don't have park parties - my kids have winter birthdays. But I'm happy to attend them and haven't noticed any lack of attendance by others. So glad my friends aren't like you, judging people over their lack of lavish kid birthday parties.

I'm more judgemental about people who spend 1,000 over a preschool birthday party

Not me! I love a party that fun for all attendees! Give me a crepe station and coffee bar while my kids are being entertained by the Beat Buds any day of the week. And include siblings!

+1. Absolutely!

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Anonymous wrote:Unless they decide they want a joint party, two parties. Each kid gets their own party.

Yep. But we don’t throw lavish events - cupcakes from a box, a Costco thing of chips, and a playground = party.

Ugh. I hate those parties. Especially the ones like that where you are expected to bring a gift.

+ 1. I’m sorry, PP, but I really hate those parties too unless it’s absolutely a no gift party.

+1 I really dislike these parties as well. It's not about the gifts. I don't care if I have to bring or not. It's more that it doesn't really feel like a party. As a parent I have to stay because I'm not comfortable leaving them in an open public park. There isn't anywhere for parents to sit, no coffee or snacks for parents. And there typically are not bathrooms. It's really not a well hosted party.

+3. With or without a gift expectation I hate park parties! It’s the park my kids go to everyday except with cupcakes. Nothing special about it.

+4. I loathe them too. I always feel so bad for the other kids at the park who look at the cupcakes and party favors longingly. Such a cheap-assed way to celebrate your kid’s birthday.

Its an invitation not a summons. You are free to decline. (Or just get over your petty annoyance. My kids still have fun at park parties - its still a treat to have all their friends there.)

We do decline. It’s not a “treat” for my kids or me.

I’m sorry the truth hurts you. Most people hate the park-party. We aren’t being petty, we’re being honest. Don’t give a party every year and you can afford a real party.

I don't have park parties - my kids have winter birthdays. But I'm happy to attend them and haven't noticed any lack of attendance by others. So glad my friends aren't like you, judging people over their lack of lavish kid birthday parties.

I'm more judgemental about people who spend 1,000 over a preschool birthday party

I love those parties! Yesterday we went to a great party at a country club where they had amazing food for the adults and kids and a guy who brought reptiles for the kids and a kids band! All siblings were included. Host’s extended family and family friends were there to meet the host’s friends. It was a great party for everyone!

Judge away. I had a plank roasted salmon salad for lunch and a great cup of coffee!!!

The food at our country club is like wedding food, hardly anything to be impressed with.

We did spend a lot on my daughter’s birthday party this weekend. We considered having it at our country club.

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Anonymous wrote:Anticipating when covid is over.

If you have kids with birthday a couple weeks apart, do you alternate party years between the two. Obviously we’ll have family parties every year but I mean the entire class, family friend, neighbors party? One year is his year for a big party and the next year is hers?

My kids birthdays are 5/2 and 5/14.

Wow, that’s crap. So each kid should get a half-assed birthday every other year because you’re bad at family planning ?

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Anonymous wrote:Unless they decide they want a joint party, two parties. Each kid gets their own party.

Yep. But we don’t throw lavish events - cupcakes from a box, a Costco thing of chips, and a playground = party.

Ugh. I hate those parties. Especially the ones like that where you are expected to bring a gift.

+ 1. I’m sorry, PP, but I really hate those parties too unless it’s absolutely a no gift party.

DP but what's wrong with that kind of a party? What does a gift have to do with the type of party thrown?

It’s a gift-grab. My kids go to that park twice a week and having cupcakes there isn’t special or worthy of the parents spending $25 bucks for a gift.

I'm so grateful for my group of down-to-earth like-minded parents that absolutely throw these kinds of parties. The kids have a blast and its all good.

Its also surprising to me that people actually expect gifts at kids birthday parties in this region still. I can't remember the last one I've been to where anyone has brought a gift.

I am the PP and surprised! I haven’t been to any other kind of party in two years, but even before that our fanciest party was at a My Gym (so totally not fancy). Guess my circle is just too normal and boring!

I have three kids, oldest nine, and have bought exactly one classmate birthday present ever. Who does birthday parties with presents anymore? Aren’t all present parties a gift grab? Or stone cold transactional - I am only buying your kid a jar of play dough if you give him a single slice of cold pizza in the gymnasium place we are all at last week for someone else?

Good lord, some of you people. Low-key parties are great. The parties are for the *kids*, not the grown ups, so as long as the kids have fun, who cares?

Also, who are you Scrooges who don't want to give children birthday gifts? What in the actual? We've done no gift parties, but come on, people. No one said you have to spend a certain dollar amount but stop being so damn stingy. Is the formula that only host parents who shell out for a super expensive party deserve to have gifts for their child? Un-f*ing-believable.

What? The “gifts for their child” are bought by the parents, and maybe grandma and grandpa, aunts and uncles.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless they decide they want a joint party, two parties. Each kid gets their own party.

Yep. But we don’t throw lavish events - cupcakes from a box, a Costco thing of chips, and a playground = party.

Ugh. I hate those parties. Especially the ones like that where you are expected to bring a gift.

+ 1. I’m sorry, PP, but I really hate those parties too unless it’s absolutely a no gift party.

+1 I really dislike these parties as well. It's not about the gifts. I don't care if I have to bring or not. It's more that it doesn't really feel like a party. As a parent I have to stay because I'm not comfortable leaving them in an open public park. There isn't anywhere for parents to sit, no coffee or snacks for parents. And there typically are not bathrooms. It's really not a well hosted party.

+3. With or without a gift expectation I hate park parties! It’s the park my kids go to everyday except with cupcakes. Nothing special about it.

+4. I loathe them too. I always feel so bad for the other kids at the park who look at the cupcakes and party favors longingly. Such a cheap-assed way to celebrate your kid’s birthday.

Its an invitation not a summons. You are free to decline. (Or just get over your petty annoyance. My kids still have fun at park parties - its still a treat to have all their friends there.)

We do decline. It’s not a “treat” for my kids or me.

I’m sorry the truth hurts you. Most people hate the park-party. We aren’t being petty, we’re being honest. Don’t give a party every year and you can afford a real party.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless they decide they want a joint party, two parties. Each kid gets their own party.

Yep. But we don’t throw lavish events - cupcakes from a box, a Costco thing of chips, and a playground = party.

Ugh. I hate those parties. Especially the ones like that where you are expected to bring a gift.

+ 1. I’m sorry, PP, but I really hate those parties too unless it’s absolutely a no gift party.

+1 I really dislike these parties as well. It's not about the gifts. I don't care if I have to bring or not. It's more that it doesn't really feel like a party. As a parent I have to stay because I'm not comfortable leaving them in an open public park. There isn't anywhere for parents to sit, no coffee or snacks for parents. And there typically are not bathrooms. It's really not a well hosted party.

+3. With or without a gift expectation I hate park parties! It’s the park my kids go to everyday except with cupcakes. Nothing special about it.

+4. I loathe them too. I always feel so bad for the other kids at the park who look at the cupcakes and party favors longingly. Such a cheap-assed way to celebrate your kid’s birthday.

Its an invitation not a summons. You are free to decline. (Or just get over your petty annoyance. My kids still have fun at park parties - its still a treat to have all their friends there.)

We do decline. It’s not a “treat” for my kids or me.

I’m sorry the truth hurts you. Most people hate the park-party. We aren’t being petty, we’re being honest. Don’t give a party every year and you can afford a real party.

I don't have park parties - my kids have winter birthdays. But I'm happy to attend them and haven't noticed any lack of attendance by others. So glad my friends aren't like you, judging people over their lack of lavish kid birthday parties.

I'm more judgemental about people who spend 1,000 over a preschool birthday party

If only $1,000 and park with Costco cupcakes weren’t the only two options.

Oh, wait. They aren’t!

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Anonymous wrote:Unless they decide they want a joint party, two parties. Each kid gets their own party.

Yep. But we don’t throw lavish events - cupcakes from a box, a Costco thing of chips, and a playground = party.

Ugh. I hate those parties. Especially the ones like that where you are expected to bring a gift.

+ 1. I’m sorry, PP, but I really hate those parties too unless it’s absolutely a no gift party.

DP but what's wrong with that kind of a party? What does a gift have to do with the type of party thrown?

It’s a gift-grab. My kids go to that park twice a week and having cupcakes there isn’t special or worthy of the parents spending $25 bucks for a gift.

Good lord. What is wrong with people?? In my experience, kids have a great time at these playground parties. They get to run around and play with their friends and eat sugar. Honestly, the adults seem to have equal amounts of fun/boredom standing around a playground or standing around Little Gym or a trampoline park. Or if they drop off, it's no different. I would never base bringing a gift on how "worthy" I though the party venue is. But then, I'm not a snob.

Thank you. This the most DCUM take I have ever read. "Sorry, kiddo, only rich kids get presents." I have welcomed the return of playground birthday parties in this covid era. I only wish weddings were next.

Give me a playground party with fresh air and a bench to sit on so I can read a book. What parent is actually wishing they were at Chuck E Cheese instead?

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It is the people and food that make the party for me. Some of the worst and best parties I have been to have been park parties. When I was a kid, I loved going to family friend and church picnics and birthdays at the park. Food was always good and I got to run around with my friends.

I have also been to some scorching hot park parties with no or bad food and poor company. Those are the worst.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless they decide they want a joint party, two parties. Each kid gets their own party.

Yep. But we don’t throw lavish events - cupcakes from a box, a Costco thing of chips, and a playground = party.

Ugh. I hate those parties. Especially the ones like that where you are expected to bring a gift.

+ 1. I’m sorry, PP, but I really hate those parties too unless it’s absolutely a no gift party.

+1 I really dislike these parties as well. It's not about the gifts. I don't care if I have to bring or not. It's more that it doesn't really feel like a party. As a parent I have to stay because I'm not comfortable leaving them in an open public park. There isn't anywhere for parents to sit, no coffee or snacks for parents. And there typically are not bathrooms. It's really not a well hosted party.

Yeah I'm annoyed about the lack of bathrooms at playgrounds. When I visit my parents in North Carolina I noticed that most of the playgrounds have real bathroom facilities and it's seriously lacking in Montgomery county.

The rest I don't necessarily agree, when I've been invited to playground birthday parties usually there is snacks for adults and benches.

I'm a fan of low key parties for preschool aged kids because I think kids are just happy to get to the play and have fun and they don't need a lot of extras to be happy. We didn't start doing really big birthday parties until age 5. (And with covid didn't end up getting to do the big party that was planned so we did a much bigger party when she turned six)

I’m in loudoun county and our parks do all have bathrooms. I love it because the playground I go to has a bathroom which was great when I was pregnant. It’s a mix of county and state parks.

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Is money the reason you would alternate years?

A year is a long time to wait to celebrate your birthday after seeing your sibling have a party.

Even if it is just a few friends over for pizza and cake, i think all kids should have the option of a party.

Last year, one child had 3 friends over for his birthday. Other child had a laser tag party. They were both parties they chose. Parties can be done cheaply.