Siblings with birthdays within weeks of each other

[Anonymous]

Anticipating when covid is over.

If you have kids with birthday a couple weeks apart, do you alternate party years between the two. Obviously we’ll have family parties every year but I mean the entire class, family friend, neighbors party? One year is his year for a big party and the next year is hers?

My kids birthdays are 5/2 and 5/14.

[Anonymous]

Unless they decide they want a joint party, two parties. Each kid gets their own party.

[Anonymous]

My kids’s birthdays are 17 days apart. Each gets a birthday party every year. Why would you alternative?

[Anonymous]

My kids have birthdays one day apart.

We have always done separate parties.

This year, we are doing one big joint party.

[Anonymous]

11 days apart. For the elementary and middle school years, we did elaborate parties for both kids every year. They are 5 years apart, so no joint parties.

[Anonymous]

Why is everyone talking about joint parties? OP did not mention joint parties. OP is asking about doing one big party per year. One year the big party is for one sibling, the next year, the big party is for the other sibling. Both get family parties every year. I think that's what the OP says, anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone talking about joint parties? OP did not mention joint parties. OP is asking about doing one big party per year. One year the big party is for one sibling, the next year, the big party is for the other sibling. Both get family parties every year. I think that's what the OP says, anyway.

Because it's an obvious solution, but sometimes not actually workable, so people discuss it.

[Anonymous]

Yes, we alternate years. There are just too many people who would have to go to both parties. This year (covid permitting) our six year old will get the party and our four year old will get the birthday Disneyland trip (we’re in California) with us, sibling, nanny and local grandparents. We do this every year. When they grow out of Disneyland, we’ll find another birthday vacation for the kid with the non-party year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone talking about joint parties? OP did not mention joint parties. OP is asking about doing one big party per year. One year the big party is for one sibling, the next year, the big party is for the other sibling. Both get family parties every year. I think that's what the OP says, anyway.

That's....worse than a joint party!? That's each kid effectively only getting a party every other year. A family-only party does not count. Why on earth would someone do this to their kid?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless they decide they want a joint party, two parties. Each kid gets their own party.

Yep. But we don’t throw lavish events - cupcakes from a box, a Costco thing of chips, and a playground = party.

[Anonymous]

Three kids all with birthdays in the same month and each gets a big party every three years. We do something special as a family for the off-party-year kids of course.

My kids are 19, 16, and 15 and always were fine with the arrangement. I think it made their parties more meaningful and special.

[Anonymous]

If covid taught me one thing it’s that kids do not need birthday parties every year. My kids birthdays are six months apart and we’re going to do alternating year parties from now on. Family parties every year of course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids’s birthdays are 17 days apart. Each gets a birthday party every year. Why would you alternative?

This.

Why should they not get a party of their own every year just because you had them close together?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, we alternate years. There are just too many people who would have to go to both parties. This year (covid permitting) our six year old will get the party and our four year old will get the birthday Disneyland trip (we’re in California) with us, sibling, nanny and local grandparents. We do this every year. When they grow out of Disneyland, we’ll find another birthday vacation for the kid with the non-party year.

Perfect! Btw, my DD would forego every birthday party for the rest of her life for a Disneyland birthday!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless they decide they want a joint party, two parties. Each kid gets their own party.

Yep. But we don’t throw lavish events - cupcakes from a box, a Costco thing of chips, and a playground = party.

Ugh. I hate those parties. Especially the ones like that where you are expected to bring a gift.