Official Holiday Petty Complaints Thread

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get out of my house!
You said you were leaving by 9!
Get.out.
Get out!

Open the doors, start carrying stuff out, let them know you’ve got to leave in the next 30 minutes. Basically just act like they have said “we’re going to be leaving soon.” Ask if they’ve stripped the bed, and if not, ask if you can get in there and do it yourself to get the sheets started. Time’s up. If someone stayed an hour past stated departure time, I’d feel very free to start acting as if is indeed departure time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I spent 15 hours sewing and cross stitching a stocking for my new SIL and she didn't say thank you. (Everyone in the family has the same style stocking--adults and kids. It's our tradition.)

Maybe she doesn’t like it. I mean, I would still say thank you, but I hate the whole Assimilate: ONE OF US mentality. Maybe it’s not her style, or maybe she’s not that into celebrating Christmas with stuff, stuff, more things, stuff, more things.

It’s…a Christmas stocking. If she didn’t make one for SIL, she’d complain that she isn’t seen as a part of the family. For the cross-stitch pp, are you sure she knows you made it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I spent 15 hours sewing and cross stitching a stocking for my new SIL and she didn't say thank you. (Everyone in the family has the same style stocking--adults and kids. It's our tradition.)

Maybe she doesn’t like it. I mean, I would still say thank you, but I hate the whole Assimilate: ONE OF US mentality. Maybe it’s not her style, or maybe she’s not that into celebrating Christmas with stuff, stuff, more things, stuff, more things.

It’s…a Christmas stocking. If she didn’t make one for SIL, she’d complain that she isn’t seen as a part of the family. For the cross-stitch pp, are you sure she knows you made it?

Yeah, and? It’s a Christmas stocking. I personally wouldn’t care at all not to have one. I think they’re kitschy, and not in a good way. If you like them, great. I personally hate the cross-stitching aesthetic. But whatever you like that’s great.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I spent 15 hours sewing and cross stitching a stocking for my new SIL and she didn't say thank you. (Everyone in the family has the same style stocking--adults and kids. It's our tradition.)

Maybe she doesn’t like it. I mean, I would still say thank you, but I hate the whole Assimilate: ONE OF US mentality. Maybe it’s not her style, or maybe she’s not that into celebrating Christmas with stuff, stuff, more things, stuff, more things.

It’s…a Christmas stocking. If she didn’t make one for SIL, she’d complain that she isn’t seen as a part of the family. For the cross-stitch pp, are you sure she knows you made it?

Yeah, and? It’s a Christmas stocking. I personally wouldn’t care at all not to have one. I think they’re kitschy, and not in a good way. If you like them, great. I personally hate the cross-stitching aesthetic. But whatever you like that’s great.

I always make fun of the “I feel sorry for you” posters but I really do feel sorry for you! It’s not about the Christmas stocking, it’s about welcoming to the family, but somehow you consider that some sort of ASSIMILATE-ONE OF US insult. If this is typical of your personality, I’m honestly amazed someone married you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I spent 15 hours sewing and cross stitching a stocking for my new SIL and she didn't say thank you. (Everyone in the family has the same style stocking--adults and kids. It's our tradition.)

Maybe she doesn’t like it. I mean, I would still say thank you, but I hate the whole Assimilate: ONE OF US mentality. Maybe it’s not her style, or maybe she’s not that into celebrating Christmas with stuff, stuff, more things, stuff, more things.

It’s…a Christmas stocking. If she didn’t make one for SIL, she’d complain that she isn’t seen as a part of the family. For the cross-stitch pp, are you sure she knows you made it?

Yeah, and? It’s a Christmas stocking. I personally wouldn’t care at all not to have one. I think they’re kitschy, and not in a good way. If you like them, great. I personally hate the cross-stitching aesthetic. But whatever you like that’s great.

I always make fun of the “I feel sorry for you” posters but I really do feel sorry for you! It’s not about the Christmas stocking, it’s about welcoming to the family, but somehow you consider that some sort of ASSIMILATE-ONE OF US insult. If this is typical of your personality, I’m honestly amazed someone married you.

I treat the people who date or marry into my family as individuals. I pay attention to what they like. I would ask someone who has different tastes if they would like a stocking, in a way that made it clear it would be my pleasure to make them one. “Meredith, I was hoping to make you a traditional Smith Family-style something, if you would like one. If you are interested, please let me know what colors you prefer.” It’s a lovely gesture, but not if someone doesn’t like the item or the style or what have you. Would you make a Christmas stocking for a Jewish person who married into the family without asking?!

My ILs have never paid attention to my likes and my interests. They simply push their preferences on me. For example, they get me dark chocolate every year because that’s MIL/SIL’s favorite, even though they know I do not like dark chocolate. They even SAY, “We know you don’t like dark chocolate, but it’s tradition.” They get me what they get each other, even though they know I don’t like Vera Bradley and that kind of aesthetic. At what point is it the opposite of “welcoming” when people literally never ask for your preferences or likes/dislikes, and just get you what they like and tell you as you’re opening it, “I know you won’t like this.”

[Anonymous]

WHY do my in-laws always give the children gifts that require expensive refills?

It's not a gift if I have to spend more than the cost of the toy to buy refills!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My petty vent is that I've been telling DH a leak in the bathroom has been getting visibly worse, he didn't call a plumber this week before the holiday (he was off work all week and I wasnt until the end, so I figured he could do it), and...it's still leaking. At this point we're going to have to shut off the water before travel and hope we don't have a mold problem between the floor and ceiling.

wow, this actually isn’t petty, water is no joke and could result in thousands upon thousands of dollars in repairs. I’d shut it off until you can get it fixed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My petty vent is that I've been telling DH a leak in the bathroom has been getting visibly worse, he didn't call a plumber this week before the holiday (he was off work all week and I wasnt until the end, so I figured he could do it), and...it's still leaking. At this point we're going to have to shut off the water before travel and hope we don't have a mold problem between the floor and ceiling.

wow, this actually isn’t petty, water is no joke and could result in thousands upon thousands of dollars in repairs. I’d shut it off until you can get it fixed.

+1 We had neighbors whose house had to basically be gutted because of a leak that turned to a gushing waterfall of water while they were on vacation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I spent 15 hours sewing and cross stitching a stocking for my new SIL and she didn't say thank you. (Everyone in the family has the same style stocking--adults and kids. It's our tradition.)

She should have said thank you.

That said, are these for YOUR home or are you insisting that she put it up in her home? Because I, personally, am really sick of my MIL insisting that we follow her and only her traditions, and then we we try to make our own, she co-opts them. For example - last year, the kids told her about how we hide a pickle in our tree, and this year, surprise, there was a pickle in HER tree.

[Anonymous]

I had to insist a couple years that MIL stop labeling all the gifts under the tree as being from Santa. Santa gifts are for our house only. Grown adults should not be getting gifts from Santa, crazy lady.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My petty vent is that I've been telling DH a leak in the bathroom has been getting visibly worse, he didn't call a plumber this week before the holiday (he was off work all week and I wasnt until the end, so I figured he could do it), and...it's still leaking. At this point we're going to have to shut off the water before travel and hope we don't have a mold problem between the floor and ceiling.

wow, this actually isn’t petty, water is no joke and could result in thousands upon thousands of dollars in repairs. I’d shut it off until you can get it fixed.

+1 We had neighbors whose house had to basically be gutted because of a leak that turned to a gushing waterfall of water while they were on vacation.

Exactly. This isn't a leaving the dirty dishes in the sink to prove a point moment. You'll both be howling when you see the bill to repair the water damage.

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Anonymous wrote:I spent 15 hours sewing and cross stitching a stocking for my new SIL and she didn't say thank you. (Everyone in the family has the same style stocking--adults and kids. It's our tradition.)

Maybe she doesn’t like it. I mean, I would still say thank you, but I hate the whole Assimilate: ONE OF US mentality. Maybe it’s not her style, or maybe she’s not that into celebrating Christmas with stuff, stuff, more things, stuff, more things.

It’s…a Christmas stocking. If she didn’t make one for SIL, she’d complain that she isn’t seen as a part of the family. For the cross-stitch pp, are you sure she knows you made it?

Yeah, and? It’s a Christmas stocking. I personally wouldn’t care at all not to have one. I think they’re kitschy, and not in a good way. If you like them, great. I personally hate the cross-stitching aesthetic. But whatever you like that’s great.

I always make fun of the “I feel sorry for you” posters but I really do feel sorry for you! It’s not about the Christmas stocking, it’s about welcoming to the family, but somehow you consider that some sort of ASSIMILATE-ONE OF US insult. If this is typical of your personality, I’m honestly amazed someone married you.

I treat the people who date or marry into my family as individuals. I pay attention to what they like. I would ask someone who has different tastes if they would like a stocking, in a way that made it clear it would be my pleasure to make them one. “Meredith, I was hoping to make you a traditional Smith Family-style something, if you would like one. If you are interested, please let me know what colors you prefer.” It’s a lovely gesture, but not if someone doesn’t like the item or the style or what have you. Would you make a Christmas stocking for a Jewish person who married into the family without asking?!

My ILs have never paid attention to my likes and my interests. They simply push their preferences on me. For example, they get me dark chocolate every year because that’s MIL/SIL’s favorite, even though they know I do not like dark chocolate. They even SAY, “We know you don’t like dark chocolate, but it’s tradition.” They get me what they get each other, even though they know I don’t like Vera Bradley and that kind of aesthetic. At what point is it the opposite of “welcoming” when people literally never ask for your preferences or likes/dislikes, and just get you what they like and tell you as you’re opening it, “I know you won’t like this.”

NP here but laughing because this is a ridiculous take. And for the record my mom got (didn’t make) my Jewish DH a cross stitch stocking the first Christmas he celebrated with our family and he was so incredibly happy because he’s never had a stocking before!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I do stockings for our family of 5. This includes the adults, I buy useful and fun items for everyone, including 1 or 2 things for my own stocking. It would be nice of just once, my husband or older teens thought to put something in my stocking as a surprise.

Although, on the bright side, I do get what I want!

Open your mouth and ask them to fill your stocking.

Scrooge is back. Bugger off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had to insist a couple years that MIL stop labeling all the gifts under the tree as being from Santa. Santa gifts are for our house only. Grown adults should not be getting gifts from Santa, crazy lady.

Did she do it this year again?

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Anonymous wrote:I spent 15 hours sewing and cross stitching a stocking for my new SIL and she didn't say thank you. (Everyone in the family has the same style stocking--adults and kids. It's our tradition.)

Maybe she doesn’t like it. I mean, I would still say thank you, but I hate the whole Assimilate: ONE OF US mentality. Maybe it’s not her style, or maybe she’s not that into celebrating Christmas with stuff, stuff, more things, stuff, more things.

It’s…a Christmas stocking. If she didn’t make one for SIL, she’d complain that she isn’t seen as a part of the family. For the cross-stitch pp, are you sure she knows you made it?

Yeah, and? It’s a Christmas stocking. I personally wouldn’t care at all not to have one. I think they’re kitschy, and not in a good way. If you like them, great. I personally hate the cross-stitching aesthetic. But whatever you like that’s great.

I always make fun of the “I feel sorry for you” posters but I really do feel sorry for you! It’s not about the Christmas stocking, it’s about welcoming to the family, but somehow you consider that some sort of ASSIMILATE-ONE OF US insult. If this is typical of your personality, I’m honestly amazed someone married you.

I treat the people who date or marry into my family as individuals. I pay attention to what they like. I would ask someone who has different tastes if they would like a stocking, in a way that made it clear it would be my pleasure to make them one. “Meredith, I was hoping to make you a traditional Smith Family-style something, if you would like one. If you are interested, please let me know what colors you prefer.” It’s a lovely gesture, but not if someone doesn’t like the item or the style or what have you. Would you make a Christmas stocking for a Jewish person who married into the family without asking?!

My ILs have never paid attention to my likes and my interests. They simply push their preferences on me. For example, they get me dark chocolate every year because that’s MIL/SIL’s favorite, even though they know I do not like dark chocolate. They even SAY, “We know you don’t like dark chocolate, but it’s tradition.” They get me what they get each other, even though they know I don’t like Vera Bradley and that kind of aesthetic. At what point is it the opposite of “welcoming” when people literally never ask for your preferences or likes/dislikes, and just get you what they like and tell you as you’re opening it, “I know you won’t like this.”

NP here but laughing because this is a ridiculous take. And for the record my mom got (didn’t make) my Jewish DH a cross stitch stocking the first Christmas he celebrated with our family and he was so incredibly happy because he’s never had a stocking before!

+1. Would you not hang a stocking for an in law or sibling’s spouse because they’re Jewish? How incredibly rude.