Would you break up with someone even if they were fit but their parents were not?
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Anonymous
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Would you worry about how the person will age in the future?
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Anonymous
| "When all candles be out all cats be gray.” - John Heywood. |
Anonymous
| No. If you broke up with every person who has parents with cancer or altimeters, you'll find yourself with slim (no pun intended) options. |
Anonymous
| I mean, look at their parents lifestyle. Both of my parents were already overweight in their 30s and my wife’s mom was obese in her 30s. We are 40 and perfectly healthy because unlike our parents we eat vegetables and don’t pig out on sweets and fatty food. Not all health issues and fitness issues are hereditary |
Anonymous
| No that's really odd. |
Anonymous
| What the heck? No. |
Anonymous
| LOL |
Anonymous
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No but I wish I'd paid more attention to my now XH's parents, their relationship with him and their relationship with each other. My XH slowly morphed into his dad over the 20 years we were together and his dad was NOT a nice man and treated his wife horribly.
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Anonymous
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I have a cousin who was agonizing over marrying a woman because her mom was overweight. He did end up marrying her. His own parents are slim. Well, as it turns out, his thin dad died at 70 of a terrible neurological disease (rare enough I won’t specify). His thin mom is doing well, but so is his wife’s overweight mom.
The kicker is he struggles with his weight - his wife - the daughter of the overweight lady - has much less difficulty with her weight (not svelte by DCUM standards, but OK in terms of medical guidelines). So you never know how it will turn out! |
Anonymous
| wtaf. no. |
Anonymous
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What are his lifestyle habits?
Does he live like his metabolism will last forever? Or is he generally health conscious and active? |
Anonymous
| Jesus OP. You sound psychotic. |
Anonymous
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It would depend on the SO's relationship with their parents. I would be careful about situations where the in-laws will be toxic to my relationship, like a lack of boundaries type situation with SO unable to be firm with them.
My FIL/MIL are about as incompatible with me as you can imagine. But DH is much more like me, has no problem setting boundaries with his parents, and it helps that we live across the country. So it hasn't been an issue at all. I don't worry the slightest bit about DH turning into them. |
Anonymous
| Fitness has a lot to do with lifestyle. If his/her parents don't lead a healthy lifestyle and your SO does then I see no issue. |
Anonymous
| Hell no. Before I accepted a date I had biodata on his whole family. You did too, didn't you? |