Daycare not checking IDs

[Anonymous]

We started a new DC in the past few weeks b/c we moved. I had my mom pick up DD yesterday and DD cried when she saw her. They still let her go home with her. I know they aren't doing the drop off/pick up PINS through the iPad checkin, but shouldn't they check IDs of people who they don't recognize? At my last daycare, an unauthorized grandparent picked up the child and threatened the director so she called the police. I know it's more work because everything is outside but it still seems essential.

What do you think DCUM?

[Anonymous]

Did you notify them ahead of time that grandma would be picking up?

[Anonymous]

Send an email to the director. If there are policies and they are not being followed, he/she should be made aware

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you notify them ahead of time that grandma would be picking up?

No but she's on the OK list for pickups.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you notify them ahead of time that grandma would be picking up?

No but she's on the OK list for pickups.

If they have never met her and didn't know she was coming to pick-up then yes I would be uncomfortable.

Did they at least ask her name and check a list or something?

I'd be tempted to have a random friend show up to pick her up one day and see how that goes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you notify them ahead of time that grandma would be picking up?

No but she's on the OK list for pickups.

If they have never met her and didn't know she was coming to pick-up then yes I would be uncomfortable.

Did they at least ask her name and check a list or something?

I'd be tempted to have a random friend show up to pick her up one day and see how that goes.

I feel like they should ask for her ID the first time and if they recognize her the next then fine. But she didn't even give them her name, just said "I'm here for Larla" and Larla cried and they said have a great day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you notify them ahead of time that grandma would be picking up?

No but she's on the OK list for pickups.

If they have never met her and didn't know she was coming to pick-up then yes I would be uncomfortable.

Did they at least ask her name and check a list or something?

I'd be tempted to have a random friend show up to pick her up one day and see how that goes.

I feel like they should ask for her ID the first time and if they recognize her the next then fine. But she didn't even give them her name, just said "I'm here for Larla" and Larla cried and they said have a great day!

Wow. I'm generally someone who thinks "stranger danger" is way overblown, and this would really make me uncomfortable. Definitely bring it up with the director, that's completely unacceptable.

[Anonymous]

Bring it up, but this is incredibly common.

[Anonymous]

I would have freaked out. They’ll just hand your child to anyone who knows their name?????

Insane.

[Anonymous]

Op here. This happened again! My dad did pickup and no ID! I’m about to name them.

I emailed the director when it was my mom and she apologized and said it wouldn’t happen again. And I could always let them know if he’s coming. I got surgery today and my husband had a last minute meeting. I sent my dad and wasn’t able to let them know he was coming, but I shouldnt have to. There are a dozen people DD would run up to but I don’t want them taking her home. If she got hurt, I’d sue them for every penny they have.

[Anonymous]

OMG, yes, you need to follow up on the email chain you previously started with the director about this the last time it happened, and if it's a corporate daycare, find out who the district/regional manager is and copy them on it. If it's just a standalone daycare (not a corporate chain) and there's no one above the director, then I would both email the director AND contact OSSE (state superintendent of education), which regulates DC daycares. DC public schools had an issue with this last year, and it got quite a lot of attention in the news. I'm certain OSSE doesn't want another repeat of an incident like that, especially involving children who are too young to speak or advocate for themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG, yes, you need to follow up on the email chain you previously started with the director about this the last time it happened, and if it's a corporate daycare, find out who the district/regional manager is and copy them on it. If it's just a standalone daycare (not a corporate chain) and there's no one above the director, then I would both email the director AND contact OSSE (state superintendent of education), which regulates DC daycares. DC public schools had an issue with this last year, and it got quite a lot of attention in the news. I'm certain OSSE doesn't want another repeat of an incident like that, especially involving children who are too young to speak or advocate for themselves.

This is md. But it’s not a standalone so I may contact above her.

[Anonymous]

As one of my child’s grandparents is well loved by said child, but absolutely NOT allowed to do pick ups (mental illness) I’d be upset. Also, always call ahead if you’re not going.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As one of my child’s grandparents is well loved by said child, but absolutely NOT allowed to do pick ups (mental illness) I’d be upset. Also, always call ahead if you’re not going.

Meh, they should ask for ID for anyone they don’t recognize.

[Anonymous]

Is this really a concern? I mean, we didn't have authorized pickup lists when I was a kid..I went home with parents, grandparents, and family friends at different times. I don't think the world is actually less safe now than it was 30 years ago.

Sure, it makes sense to have special procedures for at-risk situations (e.g., messy divorces), but I wouldn't be freaked out if they weren't checking IDs at my kids' daycare. (Actually, I know they don't. I had to have a friend pick up my kids one day and there definitely wasn't an ID check involved. I just texted ahead of time.)