I don't want anyone else to have him.

[Anonymous]

How do you let go of someone who is truly bad for you? I need to end a long-term relationship, and I *know* I will be better off without him in the long run, but the thought of him being with someone else makes me feel nauseous and sad.

As silly as it sounds, I made a pro and con list last night for him. The cons greatly outweigh the pros, but I still cannot bring myself to do it. I don't want to be with him because he's truly a bad person and not something worth hanging in there for, but I don't want him to be with anyone else either.

I wish I didn't feel this way. Have you ever experienced this? What can I do to stop it and gain enough self-respect to walk away?

[Anonymous]

Once you're out of the relationship that feeling will fade. Eventually you'll see him with someone else and just think, that poor girl.

[Anonymous]

Don’t cater to those thoughts!

I keep thinking that I love him. I decided this morning that I will stop those thoughts whenever they come up by saying “I will not/can’t love someone who doesn’t love me”.

[Anonymous]

This is one of the worst components of breaking up.

And it doesn’t necessarily mean that you still love + want the person.

Since this guy doesn’t sound like a very good guy, I think imagining him w/someone else should not be a legit reason to stay.
(I know from personal experience >> Much easier said than done‼️)
But try to keep a realistic perspective.

Because if he does move on & find someone else -
Just keep in mind that he is “her” problem now and no longer yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is one of the worst components of breaking up.

And it doesn’t necessarily mean that you still love + want the person.

Since this guy doesn’t sound like a very good guy, I think imagining him w/someone else should not be a legit reason to stay.
(I know from personal experience >> Much easier said than done‼️)
But try to keep a realistic perspective.

Because if he does move on & find someone else -
Just keep in mind that he is “her” problem now and no longer yours.

OP: That's what I've been trying. I keep imagining him losing his temper with someone else, being cold to someone else, and calling someone else a b*tch. I'm trying hard to imagine the bad parts of him that will be dumped onto someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you let go of someone who is truly bad for you? I need to end a long-term relationship, and I *know* I will be better off without him in the long run, but the thought of him being with someone else makes me feel nauseous and sad.

As silly as it sounds, I made a pro and con list last night for him. The cons greatly outweigh the pros, but I still cannot bring myself to do it. I don't want to be with him because he's truly a bad person and not something worth hanging in there for, but I don't want him to be with anyone else either.

I wish I didn't feel this way. Have you ever experienced this? What can I do to stop it and gain enough self-respect to walk away?

[youtube] https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=RDwEdRhmBx8IU&feature=share&playnext=1[/youtube]

[Anonymous]

Focus on yourself. Not him. Focus on lifting your self-esteem enough that you stop letting this guy live rent free in your mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you let go of someone who is truly bad for you? I need to end a long-term relationship, and I *know* I will be better off without him in the long run, but the thought of him being with someone else makes me feel nauseous and sad.

As silly as it sounds, I made a pro and con list last night for him. The cons greatly outweigh the pros, but I still cannot bring myself to do it. I don't want to be with him because he's truly a bad person and not something worth hanging in there for, but I don't want him to be with anyone else either.

I wish I didn't feel this way. Have you ever experienced this? What can I do to stop it and gain enough self-respect to walk away?

Sorry I screwed up the youtube link

[Anonymous]

You "don't want someone else to have him"?

OP, you don't own this guy. He's an independent human being and the faster you realize that, the better. Regardless of whether he's an asshole - and yes, he sure does sound like one - don't imagine you can control ANYONE. That's what stalkers and abusers do.

[Anonymous]

OP - I think rather than waiting until you're comfortable with the idea of him dating someone else, or figuring out why it bothers you, or whatever - that's all just a form of weird emotional procrastination.

Yeah, you'll be jealous and nauseous and sad. Both in thinking about it, and then when it happens. Break up with him anyway, and be jealous and nauseous and sad, and then you'll move on.

[Anonymous]

Well, given his personality type, he would eventually cheat on you (if he hasn’t already) so then you’d be forced to imagine him with someone else. It is nauseating and sole destroying to have those mental movies playing on loop in your head.

Get out now.

[Anonymous]

Maybe individual therapy would help.

It should be more of a good riddance thing. Maybe time would help that. Or a rebound.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you let go of someone who is truly bad for you? I need to end a long-term relationship, and I *know* I will be better off without him in the long run, but the thought of him being with someone else makes me feel nauseous and sad.

As silly as it sounds, I made a pro and con list last night for him. The cons greatly outweigh the pros, but I still cannot bring myself to do it. I don't want to be with him because he's truly a bad person and not something worth hanging in there for, but I don't want him to be with anyone else either.

I wish I didn't feel this way. Have you ever experienced this? What can I do to stop it and gain enough self-respect to walk away?

Why do you want to break up with him? did he cheat? waste your time? Is he rich? good looking? You still have feelings for him obviously. I'd say work through those feelings and communicate more with him.

[Anonymous]

If he cheated think of him giving head to the other woman. Think of what a huge slut he is and how new women he meets will think he has a clean slate and date him or not care he cheated because women are easy like that.

[Anonymous]

Calm down OP it’s not the end of the world.