Necessity of a DTR talk
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Anonymous
| I'm in my thirties dating a woman in my thirties. I haven't dated or been in a relationship for a while. Is a relationship, or even exclusivity, assumed after a while? It seems kind of juvenile to have a DTR talk, but are you supposed to? Any suggestions for having one? I'm pretty sure she isn't dating anyone else (and neither am I), so I feel like it's almost bad to bring it up and say hey want to be exclusive. Is two months too soon? |
Anonymous
| What's DTR talk? |
Anonymous
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Don’t assume anything. Use your words.
Two months is not “too soon” if you’ve been seeing each other frequently - but with covid, that might not be true... |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| Define The Relationship |
Anonymous
Thank you. If you are over 28, two months does not seem too soon. |
Anonymous
| I think it depends on the circumstance. I’ve been dating a young widower for almost six months and I’m not pushing him to define our relationship. It’s progressing nicely and I’m fine with that. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like you are a man dating a woman. I’d bring it up. She may be waiting for you to do so. |
Anonymous
| At 38 and 39, DH and I had the DTR talk at 3 weeks. |
Anonymous
| Two months is fine in your thirties. |
Anonymous
+1. Whenever I've done this I was pretty sure we were already exclusive and it's been a 2 minute check-in to confirm. |
Anonymous
| I’d ask unless it doesn’t bother you she is still dating others. |
Anonymous
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You need to have the talk or assume that she is still seeing other people. Two months is fine in your 30s.
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Anonymous
| 2 motnhs isn't too soon at any age. Never assume exlusivity. |
Anonymous
| Definitely necessary. Dated a good friend of many years when he turned 40. After almost 3 months, lightheartedly asked if we were exclusive. He said no. You have to ask. Always. Don’t assume. |