Am I unreasonable not wanting BIL to spend the night at our house?

[Anonymous]

BIL is moving from one hot spot to another hot spot. He will be flying and taking the train. He wants to crash in our house for a night or two. He also plans to move to the new hot spot and then fly to visit their mother.

I do not want him staying at our house. I don’t want DH picking him up from the airport or train station, whichever he decides.

We have 3 kids and have not had anyone in our house. I don’t want my BIL to come stay with us. I don’t care if we pay for his hotel.

[Anonymous]

Sad but true. It’s risky.

[Anonymous]

Well you should not have to have him at your house, but I would let DH pick him up, take him to dinner at a socially distancing restaurant and then a hotel.

[Anonymous]

Discuss this with your DH. Yes, not unreasonable but then he’s not my brother. I’d actually let my brother stay at our house with all precautions.

[Anonymous]

Hell no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well you should not have to have him at your house, but I would let DH pick him up, take him to dinner at a socially distancing restaurant and then a hotel.

The second they're in a car, an ENCLOSED SPACE, they are sharing germs. DH is getting ALL the germs BIL picked up on the plane/train. Don't you understand that? Now DH is compromised and bringing that home to a wife and three kids!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well you should not have to have him at your house, but I would let DH pick him up, take him to dinner at a socially distancing restaurant and then a hotel.

The second they're in a car, an ENCLOSED SPACE, they are sharing germs. DH is getting ALL the germs BIL picked up on the plane/train. Don't you understand that? Now DH is compromised and bringing that home to a wife and three kids!

+1

[Anonymous]

Nope. Your idea of paying for the hotel is great!

[Anonymous]

I don't think you're being unreasonable. You're putting your family's safety first--as it should be. In addition you're being gracious enough to offer to pay BIL's hotel bill. Hang tough, OP. You're doing the right thing. Imagine how much you'd kick yourself if one of your kid's got sick after having BIL as a house guest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:BIL is moving from one hot spot to another hot spot. He will be flying and taking the train. He wants to crash in our house for a night or two. He also plans to move to the new hot spot and then fly to visit their mother.

I do not want him staying at our house. I don’t want DH picking him up from the airport or train station, whichever he decides.

We have 3 kids and have not had anyone in our house. I don’t want my BIL to come stay with us. I don’t care if we pay for his hotel.

This is insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well you should not have to have him at your house, but I would let DH pick him up, take him to dinner at a socially distancing restaurant and then a hotel.

The second they're in a car, an ENCLOSED SPACE, they are sharing germs. DH is getting ALL the germs BIL picked up on the plane/train. Don't you understand that? Now DH is compromised and bringing that home to a wife and three kids!

This. Cars are actually really risky. As is eating out. No way.

And no I would not let him stay in the house. I would refuse. I would not even let him in to use the bathroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well you should not have to have him at your house, but I would let DH pick him up, take him to dinner at a socially distancing restaurant and then a hotel.

The second they're in a car, an ENCLOSED SPACE, they are sharing germs. DH is getting ALL the germs BIL picked up on the plane/train. Don't you understand that? Now DH is compromised and bringing that home to a wife and three kids!

This. Cars are actually really risky. As is eating out. No way.

And no I would not let him stay in the house. I would refuse. I would not even let him in to use the bathroom.

If you open the windows and get good airflow they’re not that risky. Especially if both parties are masked.

[Anonymous]

what does your DH say? this is all moot if he agrees with you.

Would BIL take a test before he comes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you're being unreasonable. You're putting your family's safety first--as it should be. In addition you're being gracious enough to offer to pay BIL's hotel bill. Hang tough, OP. You're doing the right thing. Imagine how much you'd kick yourself if one of your kid's got sick after having BIL as a house guest.

This

[Anonymous]

Yes you are being unreasonable.