Are any of your kids expressing concern about going back?

[Anonymous]

I have been surprised in the last few days to realize that my kid seems to be considering doing distance learning even though her school is opening.

I suspect she is nervous, though she says why bother to move in if they will be sent home in a few weeks anyway.

Now I am not sure what to encourage.

College is good for kids this age (being with peers) but how much of that will even go on if they are following covid precautions?

[Anonymous]

Is she a freshman?

Of course she's nervous and of course you should keep encouraging her. If they have to move back home in a month, so what.

This is difficult on all of us, but these kids have to learn to buck up and accept reality. Staying home and doing correspondence courses from mommy's basement does not sound like a good idea to me.

[Anonymous]

Yes dd is super nervous. She said she flat out hopes her college goes all virtual, at-home learning. She is a rising freshman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she a freshman?

Of course she's nervous and of course you should keep encouraging her. If they have to move back home in a month, so what.

This is difficult on all of us, but these kids have to learn to buck up and accept reality. Staying home and doing correspondence courses from mommy's basement does not sound like a good idea to me.

It sounds like a great idea during a global pandemic. All mantras about “socialization” have to go out the window right now.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP. These are tough times for almost everyone but in different ways of course. Personally I do not see any problem with allowing her to a have a say in what she does.

[Anonymous]

Unless I was personally concerned about kids bringing it home to us (e.g., I am caring for an elderly family member, spouse is at-risk, etc.), I would encourage a rising freshman to go. It is her decision in the end, but the socialization / integration into campus is still very important.

I would be especially encouraging if I sensed she was using covid as an excuse because she was nervous for other reasons (like leaving home for first time).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she a freshman?

Of course she's nervous and of course you should keep encouraging her. If they have to move back home in a month, so what.

This is difficult on all of us, but these kids have to learn to buck up and accept reality. Staying home and doing correspondence courses from mommy's basement does not sound like a good idea to me.

It sounds like a great idea during a global pandemic. All mantras about “socialization” have to go out the window right now.

It's a great idea. You'll save a lot of money. The OP's daughter is probably right about students being sent home so quickly once there's an outbreak.

[Anonymous]

OP know that it’s okay for a teen to be scared of anything. Literally anything. The important part is how you or the teen control and manage that fear.

[Anonymous]

OP your daughter is sensible!! Stay home and save the money.

[Anonymous]

We haven’t had another family over for dinner since March. And probably won’t for a long time. Why does anyone think sending kids to live in a campus dorm is a good idea??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless I was personally concerned about kids bringing it home to us (e.g., I am caring for an elderly family member, spouse is at-risk, etc.), I would encourage a rising freshman to go. It is her decision in the end, but the socialization / integration into campus is still very important.

I would be especially encouraging if I sensed she was using covid as an excuse because she was nervous for other reasons (like leaving home for first time).

She is not a freshman and adjusted well to college.

I myself am over 60, so there is that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless I was personally concerned about kids bringing it home to us (e.g., I am caring for an elderly family member, spouse is at-risk, etc.), I would encourage a rising freshman to go. It is her decision in the end, but the socialization / integration into campus is still very important.

I would be especially encouraging if I sensed she was using covid as an excuse because she was nervous for other reasons (like leaving home for first time).

She is not a freshman and adjusted well to college.

I myself am over 60, so there is that.

Ah got it -- if she isn't a freshman, I guess I wouldn't try to sway her either way, since she knows what she is missing out on. But you know her best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless I was personally concerned about kids bringing it home to us (e.g., I am caring for an elderly family member, spouse is at-risk, etc.), I would encourage a rising freshman to go. It is her decision in the end, but the socialization / integration into campus is still very important.

I would be especially encouraging if I sensed she was using covid as an excuse because she was nervous for other reasons (like leaving home for first time).

She is not a freshman and adjusted well to college.

I myself am over 60, so there is that.

In that case, it is a total non brainer. She has a good sense of what college was like, and what she will be missing if she goes.

She will not be the only one by any means.

Colleges absolutely know they should not be reopening their campuses; they are doing it because they need to, to stay afloat financially.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP your daughter is sensible!! Stay home and save the money.

OP, if she feels that way, and Financial Aid isn't in the balance, ask her if she'd prefer not to start. Evidence shows that not all kids are affected the same way from the move on line. It might be very lonely at her school and maybe she's right about it being risky.

My child is counting days until he can go to his campus apartment with his buddies (not a freshman) but if he expressed trepidation, I'd support staying home.

[Anonymous]

My child is a freshman and is worried her roommate will think Covid is a Hoax and not take any precautions.