Cheating ex says he chooses not to contact me

[Anonymous]

So I found out my ex was cheating on the date apps. Confronted him and I broke it off. He didn't insist and left things as is because I didn't respond to him, his texts, or his call. I hear back from him 2 weeks later when he gets a new dog. A dog he had talked to me about and asked opinions as if we were in it together but he was cheating during that time. After that the last I heard from him was June 18 and he's off the date apps now which means he's probably dating someone. He left a text waiting for my response about trying things out again but I didn't respond. Why would he say he chooses not to talk to me but sends random texts and should I video chat with him like he wanted to? I'm 38 about to me 39 soon and feel like my time's a running.

[Anonymous]

Time running out for what? Children?
Parenting with cheating, manipulative person is not what you want to do.

Delete and block his number and any other forms of contact you have with him and move on.

[Anonymous]

I broke off things on May 20.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I broke off things on May 20.

And why haven't you blocked him? You aren't friends. You don't have children together. There's no reason for you to be in contact with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Time running out for what? Children?
Parenting with cheating, manipulative person is not what you want to do.

Delete and block his number and any other forms of contact you have with him and move on.

He said that I didn't video chat with him when he wanted to/didn't get enough attention/felt depressed. Since we're long distance it's true I didn't do those things but I had a lot of things going on and a grievance. However, not the first time he's done it since we've been long distance. He kept sayign he felt like he was wasting his time and he really wanted marriage/kids with someone so he was focused on finding that if it wasn't with me and cheated because I wouldn't give in to what he asked for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I broke off things on May 20.

And why haven't you blocked him? You aren't friends. You don't have children together. There's no reason for you to be in contact with him.

History. We've been friends/dating for 6 yrs.

[Anonymous]

He sounds like an attention whore. He cheated because you don’t pay him enough attention (instead of acting like an adult and talking to you), and now he’s trying to get attention from you because you’ve moved on.

Block him and don’t respond.

[Anonymous]

Why would you be with a man whose cheating? If you were dating for 6 years and no marriage/commitment, time to move on. He's a player not a husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you be with a man whose cheating? If you were dating for 6 years and no marriage/commitment, time to move on. He's a player not a husband.

It was the long distance that distanced us. I blame myself for that. I didn't want to move just yet/felt apprehensive and he just got bored but what sustained it was the great connection we had when we were together.

[Anonymous]

Now you know how he handles rough patches. He cheats. Cut him out of your life. The sooner you can let go of him, the sooner you’ll find someone better to be with. Let him go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you be with a man whose cheating? If you were dating for 6 years and no marriage/commitment, time to move on. He's a player not a husband.

It was the long distance that distanced us. I blame myself for that. I didn't want to move just yet/felt apprehensive and he just got bored but what sustained it was the great connection we had when we were together.

How long were you dating long distance? I’ve done it, it’s very hard. Especially if there’s no set end date for it.

[Anonymous]

Move on. I feel bad for the dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He sounds like an attention whore. He cheated because you don’t pay him enough attention (instead of acting like an adult and talking to you), and now he’s trying to get attention from you because you’ve moved on.

Block him and don’t respond.

Exactly. I haven't quite moved on yet but I am disgusted at the cheating after he promised he wouldn't hurt me again when I cried about it. I'd like to video chat though (lost ten lbs since and looking pretty good) but I'd feel like he was sizing me up with the women he cheated. He also lied about giving oral to a woman whose bigger than me months ago when we tried things again. We had a break august-november. I'm just puzzled why he said he would choose not to contact me when he cheated and not me. It's as if he blames me somehnow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you be with a man whose cheating? If you were dating for 6 years and no marriage/commitment, time to move on. He's a player not a husband.

It was the long distance that distanced us. I blame myself for that. I didn't want to move just yet/felt apprehensive and he just got bored but what sustained it was the great connection we had when we were together.

How long were you dating long distance? I’ve done it, it’s very hard. Especially if there’s no set end date for it.

3 years. Maybe a little longer. Time flies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I broke off things on May 20.

And why haven't you blocked him? You aren't friends. You don't have children together. There's no reason for you to be in contact with him.

History. We've been friends/dating for 6 yrs.

That’s a shit excuse and you know it. You deserve better.

Block him.