Getting married just to have a baby

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine just recently got engaged, she doesn't really want to get married, but she wants a baby. Her plan is to get married and then divorce him once the baby is born because she doesn't want her child to be born out of wedlock. Sounds like a foolish idea to me, but she's that desperate to have a baby. I feel bad for her fiance.

[Anonymous]

Okay Trolly Polly

MYOB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay Trolly Polly

MYOB

That’s kind of hard to do when she told me her intentions.

[Anonymous]

How old is she and why can’t she just get knocked up? Much cheaper approach that I plan to take if I hit my mid-to-late 30s unmarried.

[Anonymous]

That's stupid. I have kids who were born out of wedlock. Their father and I just never felt any desire to get married. So we haven't. Everyone is thriving.

It's 2020. No need for marriage to have a baby.

[Anonymous]

I adopted as a single woman. I get to make all the decisions myself. She won’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old is she and why can’t she just get knocked up? Much cheaper approach that I plan to take if I hit my mid-to-late 30s unmarried.

Seriously. Why would you opt into a likely contentious, divorced, co-parenting relationship? I get you do the best with what you're given if you divorce with young kids, but would never walk into it with those feelings. She should get a sperm donor and call it a day.

[Anonymous]

What if he wants 50/50 custody and she had to hand over a 3 month old baby???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I adopted as a single woman. I get to make all the decisions myself. She won’t.

Plus 1

[Anonymous]

TROLL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if he wants 50/50 custody and she had to hand over a 3 month old baby???

I have a friend who divorced with a 4 month old; they gave her more than 50/50 but it was dependent on her breastfeeding. Let's say, 8 years later it is still a shitshow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay Trolly Polly

MYOB

That’s kind of hard to do when she told me her intentions.

Why is it hard?
Even if you know her intentions it’s still none of your business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if he wants 50/50 custody and she had to hand over a 3 month old baby???

I have a friend who divorced with a 4 month old; they gave her more than 50/50 but it was dependent on her breastfeeding. Let's say, 8 years later it is still a shitshow.

She is still breastfeeding to keep primary custody????

[Anonymous]

I had my own wth a known donor and we decided how it would work up front. Our kid is now a teenager, and it’s generally worked well. This is my child, and the donor serves the role of an affectionate uncle. Kid has never known anything different and can get questions answered about the other part of his background. If your friend does a bait and switch it could be a disaster.

[Anonymous]

Yeah stupid. He can go for 50/50 custody and he will be there for half of all the holidays. Stupid, just get a sperm donor if she wants to be a single mother. Why go through all the drama of getting married to get divorced?

She won't get half of everything if that is what she is thinking. She honestly sounds too mentally unstable to raise a child healthily.