Do you allow name calling amongst your kids
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If your kids called each other stupid, annoying, stinky, shit and other nasty names would you intervene and stop? Every time? Do you set a rule (I.e. no name calling or else you don't get X)?
We do not allow physical fighting / pushing ... do I also take away name calling? It especially affect the older child who cries and says it creates insecurities. Kids are 9 and 6. Please share what do you do? |
Anonymous
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Your 9 and 6 year old call each other "shit"? WTF. No name calling is acceptable and that language would get them in HUGE trouble in my home.
I mean, is this the first time you're trying to stop it? Because not sure I can help you there. From the time my children were preschoolers, they knew that calling names is unacceptable. Maybe they do it when I'm not around, but they know it's not allowed. |
Anonymous
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Well, I call my son stinky or stink (started when he was a baby and continues now that he’s 11) so I couldn’t really disallow it.
I think most kids do it. |
Anonymous
+1 Until recently my 8 year old would come crying to me that her brother called her the "S" word (stupid). He would get punished. Demeaning language is not allowed but, sure, they're allowed to tell each they're annoying, to go away etc. That's just communication. |
Anonymous
| How is this even a question? Yes, and you punish it. |
Anonymous
The real question is where are they getting the S word ... they have more going on in that house. |
Anonymous
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For every negative thing they say towards their sibling, we ask they follow up with a positive remark.
If they continue the negative behavior, then it's up to 2 positive things... |
Anonymous
| Yeah, name calling is mean and not allowed at.all. My kids are 9 and 11 and they do not call each other names. I may say to them, “you’re a little stinker” but only when their being mischievous and we are all in on the joking. If my kids called each other “shit” on a regular basis, I would look seriously at my own language and how I talk about other people. Because that’s what they’re emulating. |
Anonymous
| Mine are 7 and 4 and one might call the other poopy head or something like that but I put a stop to it. That's what parents are for. |
Anonymous
| OP here. I am sure they heard me say "shit", or their father who would call "a computer" a piece of shit of internet was slow. My 6 y.o. has anger issues so we stopped the physical part (he used to bang his head on something or hit himself out of anger), so I felt that calling his sibling stupid or dumb is the way he can release his anger without hitting himself |
Anonymous
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Wait: your 9 & 6 year olds are calling each other “shit” and you’re here asking if this is okay?
You need some professional help, OP. Hire a parenting coach. |
Anonymous
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Depends what word and what tone and what meaning. We only allow silly words that are meant to be funny, and taken that way by everyone. This has never actually been a problem, since my kids rarely fight and I can't actually recall a time when they insulted each other. |
Anonymous
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Ok ok , people. OP here and I get it. I just stopped them from fighting and hurting each other. Now need to work on stopping the name calling. It is my fault and I need to stop using those words myself .
Thanks for the reality check |
Anonymous
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I don't mind if my kid says "Alex cut it out - stop being annoying."
But I would definitely have a problem with "Hey Annoying, cut it out." There's no name calling in our home. I feel very strongly that home should be a place where everyone feels safe and protected. Nobody gets attacked, even with words, at home. |
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