Do you allow name calling amongst your kids

[Anonymous]

Of course we don’t allow it.

[Anonymous]

I’m glad to hear it because recently my five year old has been saying my 3 year old is duuuuuuumb and she screams and I’m toying with letting them hash it out or intervene. I mean I say “don’t say that” but what else?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your kids called each other stupid, annoying, stinky, shit and other nasty names would you intervene and stop? Every time? Do you set a rule (I.e. no name calling or else you don't get X)?

We do not allow physical fighting / pushing ... do I also take away name calling? It especially affect the older child who cries and says it creates insecurities. Kids are 9 and 6. Please share what do you do?

You let them call each other "shit"? No, name calling is not allowed in our house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am sure they heard me say "shit", or their father who would call "a computer" a piece of shit of internet was slow. My 6 y.o. has anger issues so we stopped the physical part (he used to bang his head on something or hit himself out of anger), so I felt that calling his sibling stupid or dumb is the way he can release his anger without hitting himself

WTH? Your child gets to redirect his anger onto a sibling? You're despicable

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am sure they heard me say "shit", or their father who would call "a computer" a piece of shit of internet was slow. My 6 y.o. has anger issues so we stopped the physical part (he used to bang his head on something or hit himself out of anger), so I felt that calling his sibling stupid or dumb is the way he can release his anger without hitting himself

Your kid behaves like that because you allow it and you model the behavior. You need to stop name calling and swearing and stay on top of the behavior with time outs or loss of electronics or good behavior earns electronics. Its your fault for their behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m glad to hear it because recently my five year old has been saying my 3 year old is duuuuuuumb and she screams and I’m toying with letting them hash it out or intervene. I mean I say “don’t say that” but what else?

Go to your room and don't come out until you can talk nicely to your sister.
Go to your room and don't come out until you can talk without calling people names.
You said something mean and hurt Sister's feelings. What are you going to do to fix the hurt you caused? <--------- we do a lot of this in our house - restorative justice. You cause a problem, you make up for it.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but only in German.

[Anonymous]

Please do something about this. Most of my work in therapy was about the namecalling my brother did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m glad to hear it because recently my five year old has been saying my 3 year old is duuuuuuumb and she screams and I’m toying with letting them hash it out or intervene. I mean I say “don’t say that” but what else?

What else? One warning and then a time out. Demeaning words are ...well, demeaning.

[Anonymous]

Good lord... you’re setting your kids up for serious problems if they can’t handle some casual name calling between siblings. Do I love it? No. But, I’d rather my kids not have a meltdown at school if a friend casually calls them a name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good lord... you’re setting your kids up for serious problems if they can’t handle some casual name calling between siblings. Do I love it? No. But, I’d rather my kids not have a meltdown at school if a friend casually calls them a name.

This is what I was thinking...I thought all siblings call each other names.