Nanny family has stopped social dostancing

[Anonymous]

So now is it cool for me to stop as well? Because I’m done living like a hermit if they’re back out in the world. The mom has had 4 meet ups in the past 7 days with friends plus 4 play dates (8 total outings) for the kids. Why am I staying home all weekend??? I’m going to start shopping, babysitting for other families and meeting friends again, because clearly this family isn’t into social distancing anymore. Do families expect their nannies to stay home while they go out? My boss was astounded today when I mentioned going to the grocery store tonight, for the first time. Meanwhile she goes all the time. I don’t understand this double standard and I hope those of you who relax on social distancing don’t expect their nannies to continue once the flood gates open. Question- Do you expect your nanny to stay home while you go back to normal life or is it cool for them to do as you do?

[Anonymous]

Unless it’s in your contract, and is actually enforceable, I would just live my life quietly...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless it’s in your contract, and is actually enforceable, I would just live my life quietly...

Nobody thought to put a freaking pandemic in their contract.

[Anonymous]

But I wonder if families think when they open their circle, their nanny will continue to stay home. I mean, if you don’t card about keeping your nanny safe I guess it works both ways.

[Anonymous]

I never had a nanny pre-pandemic, but we have one now, and I think this is inconsiderate. Our nanny is slightly less cautious than we are (we shop online almost exclusively whereas she goes to Grocery stores but wears masks and washes hands), but we would absolutely not expect her to take greater precautions than we do. We would also talk to her before opening up our circle the way that this family has. I’m very conscious of the fact that everyone in the circle affects everyone else. Likewise I would hope that she would tell us if she was meeting up with friends (though i understand she might downplay it since she knows how cautious we are).

[Anonymous]

Have you discussed expectations with them?

[Anonymous]

This family clearly doesn’t care, so it seems like it’s fine to open the circle. They can’t expect their nanny to stay home for them, when they don’t stay home for her.

[Anonymous]

Personally I would quit. I intend to continue strict social distancing for my sake as well as my charge. If my employers weren’t I would absolutely quit.

Covid 19 can be mild but it can be agonizingly painful with a long recovery for young people as well.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t increase my risk by being stupid because she is stupid. Actually I would quit too. No job is worth my health and it’s a fantastic time to get a new nanny position.

[Anonymous]

I would not announce it but live your life with the risks you feel up for.

[Anonymous]

They don’t need to know what you do in your time off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personally I would quit. I intend to continue strict social distancing for my sake as well as my charge. If my employers weren’t I would absolutely quit.

Covid 19 can be mild but it can be agonizingly painful with a long recovery for young people as well.

Op here- I just feel like it’s really disrespectful. They don’t care about my health and keeping me safe, but they expect me to stay home and pay extra for groceries to be delivered to keep them safe? I was happy to stay home until 2021, but if they can’t give me the same courtesy I’m really done. I don’t understand these parents. I need my job so I’ll be quiet about my lack of social distancing, but hope other employers see this as a cautionary tale.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Personally I would quit. I intend to continue strict social distancing for my sake as well as my charge. If my employers weren’t I would absolutely quit.

Covid 19 can be mild but it can be agonizingly painful with a long recovery for young people as well.

Op here- I just feel like it’s really disrespectful. They don’t care about my health and keeping me safe, but they expect me to stay home and pay extra for groceries to be delivered to keep them safe? I was happy to stay home until 2021, but if they can’t give me the same courtesy I’m really done. I don’t understand these parents. I need my job so I’ll be quiet about my lack of social distancing, but hope other employers see this as a cautionary tale.

How do you know they expect you to stay home? Did they say this? Just have the discussion with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Personally I would quit. I intend to continue strict social distancing for my sake as well as my charge. If my employers weren’t I would absolutely quit.

Covid 19 can be mild but it can be agonizingly painful with a long recovery for young people as well.

Op here- I just feel like it’s really disrespectful. They don’t care about my health and keeping me safe, but they expect me to stay home and pay extra for groceries to be delivered to keep them safe? I was happy to stay home until 2021, but if they can’t give me the same courtesy I’m really done. I don’t understand these parents. I need my job so I’ll be quiet about my lack of social distancing, but hope other employers see this as a cautionary tale.

You need a job, OP, not this job. Start looking for a new position with people who respect you. You won’t have any trouble finding a new job now.

[Anonymous]

I don’t expect my nanny to do more than we do to stay safe. She actually has more planned than we do: hair appointments in a salon and vacation trip with friends next month. She will stay at home a week after the trip and have a negative covid test before coming back. We are all taking baby steps to go back in the world including masks and sanitizing. If your nanny family isn’t being fair, you should look for another job.