Contesting extremely lopsided prenup?

[Anonymous]

Married 5 and half years to a multi millionaire. When we got engaged I was very aware there would be a prenup. He actually talked to me about it in length at dinner one night and explained the details that would be in it. How fair it would be and how it would be on a sliding scale and the longer we were married the more I would get and how things purchased after marriage would be considered joint marital property blah blah blah. So I mentioned to him several times during the engagement period to get me the prenup so that I would have time to thoroughly understand it and go over with my attorney. He kept making excuses that his attorney was very busy etc.. A year later, two weeks prior to wedding day he finally presents me with it. The pressure and intimidation to sign this “fair” piece of garbage was so intense that our wedding day was literally ruined because of the emotional roller coaster and sick feelings I still harbored. The prenup is extremely lopsided of course in his favor where I wouldn’t even be able to afford a home except for maybe a trailer. He even put a clause where if I have an affair I get nada. When I asked for the same clause in my favor he said No. The part that really upset me was where even after being married 20+ yrs the max payout was only enough for me to buy maybe a double wide. And as far as any purchases after marriage being joint marital property it clearly states that there will be no joint property ever! The only reason I’ve considered a divorce is because he uses this prenup as a weapon against me and with the few disagreements we’ve had, with absolutely no warning he literally will not come home for days, will not take my calls, threatens me with divorce and shuts down my credit cards. I know one day I’m going to snap and tell him you got it! Does this prenup sound contestable?

[Anonymous]

This has to be a troll.

But if not, you should not have signed it. You know that. Definitely do not have kids with this guy.

[Anonymous]

Talk to a lawyer. Putting aside the prenup, why not just focus on your career so you can afford what you want?

[Anonymous]

Take it to a few different attorneys who specialize in those and get a free consultation. It may not be valid.

Then dump that a-hole.

[Anonymous]

You can “contest” anything. Doesn’t mean you will win, but you can certainly try.
Did you have your own lawyer review the prenup? If you did that likely won’t help your position.
But, just out of curiosity, why did you even sign it and what do you think you should get as a relative newly wed to a “multi-millionaire”?
You sound like a woman with a game plan.

[Anonymous]

There is no amount of money that is worth being treated like that. Walk. Hopefully you haven't spent too long building a life with this guy.

[Anonymous]

Why exactly did you proceed down the aisle with this manipulating man?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why exactly did you proceed down the aisle with this manipulating man?

He’s rich. That seems to have been and still be OP’s focus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has to be a troll.

But if not, you should not have signed it. You know that. Definitely do not have kids with this guy.

+1 Reeks of troll

[Anonymous]

Get your own credit cards.

[Anonymous]

How are you not able to stand on your own? Seriously.

[Anonymous]

You need to figure out why you were attracted to this man in the first place, why you agreed to get married when he wouldn’t show you the prenup, why you signed it, and why you continue to put up with his behavior. It sounds like you have low self-esteem and trouble establishing boundaries.

Once you get that figured out, the rest will fall into place.

[Anonymous]

So get a job and take care of yourself!

[Anonymous]

I’m not sure you have much recourse. You should talk to an attorney, but the fact of the matter is you did sign it and proceeded to marry him knowing the terms. If he’s this much of a jerk, I’d leave sooner than later.

[Anonymous]

There may be some recourse if you had inefficient time to consult with an attorney and pressure was applied. But, regardless of that, you were a fool to sign it and marry the man. I am pro pre-nup, but the one you signed was given to you by a man who cares very little for you and respects you even less.